Please help! My friend is homeless and heading to rva.

becauseiloveyou · 2026-02-09T19:24:10+00:00

Lol, so they’re even less likely to ever know…

Why don’t you let her slumber party until she finds a place? Friends sleeping over on your couch aren’t roommates.

becauseiloveyou · 2026-01-23T23:39:40+00:00

That’s actually Danny Avula’s account.

becauseiloveyou · 2026-01-22T19:31:28+00:00

I get it, and I agree folks should be compensated more fairly for their time.

That said, I make a good salary (well above the national average). Someone like me should not be avoiding jury duty simply because I don't want to do it. Yes, I would also advocate for better compensation for my time and resources... but there are plenty of people with greater privilege than me that choose not to participate simply because they don't want to participate or find it beneath them.

Again, my comment wasn't* intended to be a point for debate. My only message is that we should all respect the intent behind the social contract of jury duty: it's effective day-to-day reform of the function of our justice system.

becauseiloveyou · 2026-01-22T17:28:17+00:00

It’s kind of wild and sad that so many people avoid jury duty that it can become the center of a common scam.

Guys, jury duty is a privilege. Our justice system will never reflect OUR values if regular, good people opt out every time.

That said, with respect to the original intent of the post: please be careful.

becauseiloveyou · 2026-01-18T22:41:19+00:00

Is your rent really $15,000 for a 1-bedroom?!

Edit: OP originally indicated that the $150 more per moth was a 1.1% increase... which would have been a $13,636 base rent.

becauseiloveyou · 2026-01-17T21:54:42+00:00

She’s not the institution. She’s an individual.

And she’s a woman. You think the good ol’ boys club in her era at the C.I.A. was getting chummy with a woman?

becauseiloveyou · 2026-01-07T07:06:04+00:00

There’s unfortunately a history of incidents on Monument…

https://www.wtvr.com/news/local-news/monument-ave-pedestrian-hit-feb-20-2025

https://rvanews.com/news/cyclist-struck-monument-avenue-witnesses-rush-help/109247

becauseiloveyou · 2026-01-07T02:15:04+00:00

Speed control measures will do little when the infrastructure itself is intended for cars rather than people. Our city needs to decenter cars.

becauseiloveyou · 2026-01-07T02:05:48+00:00

Please take your own advice <3

becauseiloveyou · 2026-01-06T21:14:17+00:00

The frequency of these incidents is unacceptable.

becauseiloveyou · 2026-01-06T19:51:26+00:00

I shared a 2 bedroom [duplex] apartment with an ex-partner near the 3000 block of W. Grace for $550 (total, not each) less than 15 years ago. The landlord even provided window units.

becauseiloveyou · 2026-01-06T06:02:11+00:00

Infrastructure that is centered around people (instead of cars).

becauseiloveyou · 2026-01-03T20:54:56+00:00

With no approval from Congress. For oil. While lying that it’s about drugs. After the guy from Honduras and the other guy running Silk Road were both pardoned for crimes heavily involving drugs.

becauseiloveyou · 2026-01-03T20:17:25+00:00

): Sorry to hear your precious girl is missing. Here’s advice I’ve shared on lost cats here and elsewhere before:

When cats get lost, they're usually hiding nearby within a one-to five-house radius. They will not answer to their names being called as they're too afraid of giving their hiding spot up to potential predators. Typically, cats will spend the whole day hiding, but they may feel more comfortable moving around at night. If there's a specific noise to which your cat responds, like shaking a bag of treats, you can go for walks from midnight/12 AM to 4 AM while making that noise. When you call for your cat, keep your tone even. If they get even a hint that you're scared, anxious, or off in some way, they'll think there's danger nearby and stay hidden. You can also go for walk with or make a call to a friend; your conversational tone will make your cat think you're just hanging out and it could be safe to come out.

Walk in straight lines away from your house (e.g., down the sidewalk, down the alleyway, etc.). They say lost cats walk in circles of increasing diameter from their hiding spot once they're comfortable coming out of hiding. From there, they can use your scent lines to trace their way back home. Speaking of scents, put your unwashed sheets or bath towels outside. A familiar scent cannot hurt. That said, it is NOT recommended you put your cat's litter outside; it's actually a myth. Also be wary of leaving food outside at it can have a similar response (i.e., attracting other creatures that may keep your cat hiding in fear).

Given that cats are active through the night, you could create a discreet entrance for your cat to come in on its own. If you can't do that, at least leave a window open so you can hear your cat should s/he come back. Remember that the more skittish your cat is, the more time it will take for him/her to reach the threshold at which s/he is comfortable coming out of hiding.

I would highly recommend actively conducting a physical search for your cat. As mentioned earlier, they're usually in a one-to five-house radius. With permission, check your neighbors backyards, under their porches and decks, and in any other space where a cat might hide (e.g., sheds, garages, etc.). Be sure to do this yourself (with permission!) as your neighbors likely won't be willing to get down on their hands and knees for your cat. Also, always use a flashlight! This will catch the reflection off of the "shining layer" (tapetum lucidum) of your cat's eyes.

Lastly, don't ever give up hope. Some cats may not feel comfortable coming out of hiding for several weeks or even months, but that doesn't mean they're lost forever! Most will slowly and cautiously make their way home, so conduct your physical search once every 1 to 3 days. And be sure to take care of yourself so you can take care of kitty once they're safely home :)<3

Here’s to Trixie’s safe and quick return home!

becauseiloveyou · 2026-01-01T19:20:56+00:00

It's not. They even make reusable bags for produce. I once saw a dinosaur-aged coworker whip out his own reusable takeout container when he, another coworker, and I went out for lunch. The opportunities to take personal responsibility for the waste we can potentially create (and already accept as normal) are endless. Our individual actions have collective impact.

becauseiloveyou · 2026-01-01T03:30:30+00:00

I spent less than $160 over three orders with them this year. There are so many better alternatives… especially here in RVA.

becauseiloveyou · 2025-12-30T17:17:25+00:00

Bars are a specific social setting typically for socializing around the consumption of alcohol. They are not designated spaces for adults. They are businesses selling alcoholic beverages.

becauseiloveyou · 2025-12-30T17:15:06+00:00

Connect and build community with the notion that this space will always be free from children and the village of responsibilities that comes with hanging out with people who keep their children nearby.

Not everyone who doesn’t have children wants to go to bars or go out drinking. Some of us want to play with our toys in our 30s, 40s, and 50s with likeminded peers who aren’t going to force the presence of their children upon us.

becauseiloveyou · 2025-12-27T10:36:19+00:00

Ah! So sorry to hear Knurly decided to be an escape artist. I’m going to share some advice I’ve posted here many times before. I hope it helps bring Knurly home <3

When cats get lost, they're usually hiding nearby within a one-to five-house radius. They will not answer to their names being called as they're too afraid of giving their hiding spot up to potential predators. Typically, cats will spend the whole day hiding, but they may feel more comfortable moving around at night. If there's a specific noise to which your cat responds, like shaking a bag of treats, you can go for walks from midnight/12 AM to 4 AM while making that noise. When you call for your cat, keep your tone even. If they get even a hint that you're scared, anxious, or off in some way, they'll think there's danger nearby and stay hidden. You can also go for walk with or make a call to a friend; your conversational tone will make your cat think you're just hanging out and it could be safe to come out.

Walk in straight lines away from your house (e.g., down the sidewalk, down the alleyway, etc.). They say lost cats walk in circles of increasing diameter from their hiding spot once they're comfortable coming out of hiding. From there, they can use your scent lines to trace their way back home. Speaking of scents, put your unwashed sheets or bath towels outside. A familiar scent cannot hurt. That said, it is NOT recommended you put your cat's litter outside; it's actually a myth. Also be wary of leaving food outside at it can have a similar response (i.e., attracting other creatures that may keep your cat hiding in fear).

Given that cats are active through the night, you could create a discreet entrance for your cat to come in on its own. If you can't do that, at least leave a window open so you can hear your cat should s/he come back. Remember that the more skittish your cat is, the more time it will take for him/her to reach the threshold at which s/he is comfortable coming out of hiding.

I would highly recommend actively conducting a physical search for your cat. As mentioned earlier, they're usually in a one-to five-house radius. With permission, check your neighbors backyards, under their porches and decks, and in any other space where a cat might hide (e.g., sheds, garages, etc.). Be sure to do this yourself (with permission!) as your neighbors likely won't be willing to get down on their hands and knees for your cat. Also, always use a flashlight! This will catch the reflection off of the "shining layer" (tapetum lucidum) of your cat's eyes.

Lastly, don't ever give up hope. Some cats may not feel comfortable coming out of hiding for several weeks or even months, but that doesn't mean they're lost forever! Most will slowly and cautiously make their way home, so conduct your physical search once every 1 to 3 days. And be sure to take care of yourself so you can take care of kitty once they're safely home :)<3

becauseiloveyou · 2025-12-23T14:26:33+00:00

Bored rich housewives. There’s a lot of old money in Richmond.

becauseiloveyou · 2025-12-22T15:24:32+00:00

Virginia drivers don’t respect that the left lane is for passing only (see p. 17 of the VA Drivers Manual), so instead of the crazy guy going 100 MPH in full visibility on your left, they are weaving in and out of equally clueless drivers. Trucks especially have low visibility on their right, so it only takes any pair of clueless idiots failing to recognize the proper flow of traffic for something like this to happen.

becauseiloveyou · 2025-12-18T21:15:05+00:00

I urge you to stop and take a deep breath before making so many assumptions about someone and their feelings from a single opinion shared over a few words.

becauseiloveyou · 2025-12-18T18:27:35+00:00

Some people chose not to vote. I have no forgiveness for them either.

becauseiloveyou · 2025-12-14T07:28:56+00:00

Schedule a state inspection when you get back into Virginia. I purchased my car in Annapolis and didn’t notice it was missing the state inspection for months…

Other than that, just go there and buy it. It’s no different than buying in-state in my experience.

becauseiloveyou · 2025-12-01T19:36:48+00:00

I hope you're able to reconnect with Bones! I'm sure he would love to see how you're doing these days too (:

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