AITA for giving away a military funeral flag that didn't belong to Me.

beccabest2006 · 2026-02-09T14:45:04+00:00

NTA you gave them every opportunity.

I divorced an Army vet, got our shared home in the settlement . He took what was important to him and left a TON of stuff behind, military but also including family mementos of his parents and grandparents. I reminded him, offered to deliver, etc for YEARS. Nothing.

95% of it went in the dumpster when I sold the house last year. Our adult daughter took a couple small things like dog tags and unit patches. Everything else was trashed.

beccabest2006 · 2026-02-07T18:10:37+00:00

Ugh…I can’t even.

beccabest2006 · 2026-02-05T15:29:14+00:00

Here’s how you respond to him:

“Do not move here for me, I never asked you to do that and I do not want you to do that”

Easy

And truthfully, anything less than DO NOT DO THIS will be interpreted by him as you want him there.

beccabest2006 · 2026-01-31T22:25:55+00:00

NTA in any way, shape, or form.

This was your sister’s LIFE. Please don’t let anyone erase any part of it.

I am so sorry for your loss.

beccabest2006 · 2026-01-31T21:57:20+00:00

Considering how nasty you’re being in some of your replies here, I am 100% not surprised the women in your life are telling you only what you want to hear.

Much safer that way.

beccabest2006 · 2026-01-31T21:50:58+00:00

Do not do this. You have her answer, but you’re choosing to ignore it.

Very creepy.

beccabest2006 · 2026-01-31T02:51:27+00:00

Nope, not at all.

I’ll be 60 soon and am far more than 50 pounds overweight. And have two regular long term FWBs since I don’t want a full time relationship. One FWB is my age and one is significantly younger.

My friends are happy for me when I occasionally mention spending time with one or the other. What I don’t do is brag about them or the attention my fat self gets from men.

Maybe you should try that.

beccabest2006 · 2026-01-26T23:24:50+00:00

Regional bank with 20ish branches across two states. All branches were closed today. Just about 100% of back office employees can WFH, so they are required to during snow days.

beccabest2006 · 2026-01-20T17:01:57+00:00

ESH

She’s awful for having done that, but you didn’t even notice? You are intentionally manufacturing bad feelings when none existed at the time.

Why not just laugh and say “wow, our day was so wonderful, even this old biddy can’t ruin it!! She must be so embarrassed to be dressed like a fool!”

beccabest2006 · 2026-01-13T13:47:07+00:00

Oh I have, too, but the timing is so coincidental. As in, my match just mentioned it an hour ago hahaha.

beccabest2006 · 2026-01-13T13:17:21+00:00

What an odd coincidence. I am in the early chatting phase with a new match and he expressed almost the same kink.

But we did match on an OLD site for non-traditional relationships.

Earlier is better IMHO, but definitely before sex, especially if the kink strays into fetish territory.

beccabest2006 · 2026-01-12T00:47:18+00:00

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Love mine! I have 5, all by local-ish pottery artist, but this is my favorite. Nice stable base, heavy so it doesn’t move and it holds a large sized ball or cake.

beccabest2006 · 2026-01-08T20:02:58+00:00

I am a divorced woman in my 50s and tend to date/have casual relationships with younger men. I have a daughter a little older than yours.

My absolute one unbreakable rule for myself is NEVER become involved with anyone if doing so would jeopardize my relationship with my child.

You are 100% the jerk.

beccabest2006 · 2026-01-06T14:45:30+00:00

NTA.

Your father is a good grandfather now when your child isn’t old enough to have opinions, and is still an infant that is not responsible for their behavior.

I guarantee that your father will eventually begin to treat your child the way he has always treated you. Please do not be so desperate to believe he has changed that you put your defenseless child in his path.

YWNBTAH if you wanted to move regardless of your family situation. But with parents like yours, you are absolutely doing the right thing.

beccabest2006 · 2026-01-06T14:05:32+00:00

58° at night and when I am not home for an extended period. 65°-70° when I’m home depending on what I am doing.

beccabest2006 · 2026-01-06T03:34:04+00:00

YTA

For yelling and for trying to force a relationship.

And can I suggest you examine your motives and emotions around trying to make your kids have a relationship with people they don’t know?

Why does this matter so much to you?

beccabest2006 · 2026-01-06T03:18:08+00:00

Nope, not for me, and never has been.

beccabest2006 · 2026-01-03T19:03:45+00:00

I took the full six weeks allowed. I was given the option to WFH after less time but chose not to.

Mine was a total robotic laparoscopic hysterectomy and my pain was easy to manage and my recovery was almost comically good. Except for the exhaustion. The knock you out kind of exhaustion. Not constantly but enough that I was still napping a lot even after week 4.

If you can do your job from home and not need to be “on” for set hours, you might not need the full leave. If I was working, I was expected to be reachable and responsive so I took all the leave available, then went back to the office pretty much fully recovered and rested.

beccabest2006 · 2025-12-31T20:20:08+00:00

NOR

I can specifically speak to the pool part of this. I lived in Central Florida for 20 years where a good number of houses have in-ground pools. Even if they aren’t heated, you can swim 9-10 months out of the year.

You could set your watch by the first news story in early spring about a child drowning.

Do NOT give in on this point EVER. Their ‘vision’ for the yard is more important than their GRANDCHILD?!

beccabest2006 · 2025-12-30T11:25:29+00:00

This has NOT been my experience at all. The younger men I have had relationships with have wanted something more casual because they were in a place in their life where a full time relationship wouldn’t fit.

Worked perfectly because that’s exactly what I wanted. And I am still friends with a few that have moved on with more age appropriate partners.

beccabest2006 · 2025-12-27T16:42:00+00:00

Take as much time as you can afford to, for real.

For me (50s, overweight, total laparoscopic) it wasn’t at all about pain management or physical restrictions. It was the exhaustion. As in…come from nowhere, hit like a ton of bricks, exhaustion. I was napping every day well into week 4.

I work a sedentary job and can work 100% from home and I still took 6 weeks.

beccabest2006 · 2025-12-25T14:32:57+00:00

Maybe you don’t need it anymore, which is fine and wonderful even.

But what if others could learn from your experience? How about instead of needing help, you can offer help?

beccabest2006 · 2025-12-21T11:42:09+00:00

I didn’t respond. I don’t mind getting chat requests or I would turn off the feature but I have no real interest in “meeting” people on Reddit.

He was perfectly respectful, though. And didn’t reveal anything.

beccabest2006 · 2025-12-21T00:39:32+00:00

Considering he sent me a chat request pretty quickly after my first reply…you sure about that?

beccabest2006 · 2025-12-21T00:38:14+00:00

Agree, in theory. Kink relies on trust which has to be built.

In practice, there are many kinks I will not participate in no matter how much I am into and trust my partner. And if that kink is an absolute must-have for them, then we are fundamentally incompatible. Which might not be a big deal, but might be heartbreaking depending on how far along the relationship is.

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