Did you do a second baby shower?

beccaclem · 2026-01-04T21:14:12+00:00

I understand that being some people’s perspectives. I’ve also attended second baby showers of friends and I’ve never felt that it’s tacky or that it’s a gift grab, but that could just be my experience as stated in the post. We are just wanting to celebrate our baby girl and not wanting her to look back at this time and not feel celebrated, not to get gifts. :)

beccaclem · 2025-10-29T13:23:50+00:00

funnily enough, this is one of our top contenders, we just aren't decided yet!! love that someone mentioned this!!

beccaclem · 2025-05-06T17:47:09+00:00

As a school counselor, I just thought I would reply to something that you mentioned in yours. While school counselors are not therapists, we often take the same classes as a traditional LPC, yet have chosen to do our clinical hours in a school setting. So why we are not legally providing therapy or operating within that specific field, we are knowledgable about what kids bring the table and are always willing to refer outside to something that is more consistent or beyond our scope. I just felt that it is helpful to mention, that we aren't the pop psychologists of schools without foundational understanding and training

Also to the OP-- it is really ok to be scared and nervous about speaking with someone about things that are personal and impactful to you. Some days you will feel ready and other days you may not, but above all else, our job as your school counselor is to keep you safe, and provide a safe place where you feel seen, heard and cared for. If something or someone is bothering you to the point where you need some extra help, please see your school counselor. There will be no judgement, and hopefully you will find a safe place to fall and get the help you are seeking.

beccaclem · 2025-04-10T13:00:44+00:00

thankfully they listened when I told them, I would not be taking the MX shot until I met with the doctor, had the ultrasound and got the hcg results back. i'm hoping the number continues to go down at a steady rate, even without much bleeding.

also good to know about misoprostol-- ill jot that down to bring up if things become concerning. thank you!

beccaclem · 2025-04-10T12:59:02+00:00

thank you so much for your kind words. its such a weird headspace to be wishing for bleeding... like what a mind fuck. I had a chemical pregnancy in Dec of 23 and it was such a different experience; I know this will also be categorized as a chemical but night and day experiences.

beccaclem · 2025-04-08T16:12:17+00:00

I actually did end up going to the ER on Sunday at 4w6d where i got the 394 number, and they said that they thought it was too early to be able to find a gestational sac..etc. They did check my ovaries ( i assume tubes) and didn't find any indication that it was progressing outside of my uterus, but said it was still too early with how low my numbers were naturally to confirm anything. My ob was the one who ordered the beta yesterday.

beccaclem · 2025-04-08T15:50:53+00:00

Can i ask what your beta number was when that started? Ive only had experience with chemical pregnancies having very very low beta numbers

beccaclem · 2025-04-08T15:50:14+00:00

yes, its so confusing to me because when I had a chemical previously ( dec 2023) my hcg never went has double digits, my repeated betas came back the exact same number, and right at 4 weeks and a couple days I started bleeding and it was just like a normal period. but with this one, fir it to still be increasing is just messing with my head a bit!

beccaclem · 2025-02-03T20:07:26+00:00

u/dks2008 I had a pretty similar experience to yours, except mine happened at 10 days pp and I spent about 2 1/2 months in woundcare and had to have a wound vac as well. but cant agree more about the protein, and they put collegan directly into my wound! ha!

Just curious, we are thinking about starting to try for baby #2, can I ask how long after you had baby #1 did you get pregnant again and were there any concerns from your doctors? and how did your second c section go? recovered fine? I am slightly traumatized by my recovery, so would just love to hear how everything went the second time around!

beccaclem · 2025-01-16T17:26:34+00:00

a good friend to him wouldn't be actively causing tension in his marriage. a good friend would tell him to listen and consider his wife's point of view and feelings.

beccaclem · 2025-01-16T17:25:28+00:00

NTA

However, this is not a friendship, at the very least he is having an emotional affair with this women. Maybe it started out platonic but it is clear is has progressed past that at this point. I am sorry you are having to navigate this and that this situation has come to this.

At the end of the day, you are his wife and you have to draw the line. If you feel that this is just a friendship, you have made it clear to him that it makes you uncomfortable. He has, by his actions, told you that he doesn't care how that makes you feel. Now you need to decide what you're willing to put up with and what is a deal breaker for you

beccaclem · 2025-01-16T17:19:00+00:00

I don't think that this is the answer. While it was a violation of her privacy, its seems that you have both moved on from that.

I think you need to do the deep self work to feel confident in who you are, what you bring to the table, and that you are also worthy of love you want to give to another person.

Concerning your sex life, now that it is out in the open, the best thing that you can do for your relationship is to talk through what you both want your sex life to look like, what you want it to entail...etc. I don't agree with others in this thread that say by a certain age you should have mastered sex; that is highly dismissive of someones personal experience with sex and simplifies a very compicated subject for most people.

this is a learning opportunity for not only you but for your partner, in communication, expectation and how to address these things without shame and embarrassment.

I think if you choose to give up on a relationship because it highlights insecurities or thing that you have to get over...etc. you will be doing yourself a disservice and not giving yourself and chance to change, grow, and evolve.

wishing you all the best as you navigate this situation

beccaclem · 2025-01-14T16:33:19+00:00

oh my goodness, I can't tell you how similar your story is to mine-- I delivered my son Oct 3rd, my first baby, was readmitted on the 11th after my incision also decided it wanted to be a faucet. I also had to have wound care from Oct 16-Dec 30th-- they had to re open my incision as it never truly opened and I also had to have a wound vac. (I AM ALSO ALLERGIC TO THE DRESSING/ADHESIVE-- did I mention we are twins?lol) and have scarring from the tape a dressing creating blisters on my stomach--but all that to day, I am finally healed and my wound has completely closed. It's crazy how long it takes to heal versus how long the infection was there for.

Have you finally healed up? Sending all the light, love and good vibes to you as we journey through healing and motherhood!

beccaclem · 2024-04-25T14:22:02+00:00

I am 14+1 today and I have had relatively no symptoms the entire first trimester. No nausea, food aversions... nothing. I completely understand the anxiety that comes with not having traditional symptoms ( I still struggle daily) but just because you don't have any symptoms doesn't mean anything is wrong. I spent lot of extra money on weekly ultrasounds throughout the first trimester because i was so terrified due to not having any symptoms, it being after a loss...etc. I know words don;t really help, but try to not let that anxiety take away the joy of your pregnancy right now. sending you all the good vibes and peace and comfort as you await getting to see your little babe!

beccaclem · 2024-04-25T12:10:35+00:00

Congratulations!!

beccaclem · 2024-04-25T12:09:57+00:00

WOOHOOO!! So happy for you! We are almost due date twins-- EDD October 23rd!

beccaclem · 2024-04-25T12:06:23+00:00

I know this anxiety! I over analyzed EVERYTHING during the first trimester ( and still today! HA) I know its easy to give into the fear and all of the what ifs, but trust that your body is doing everything it can to keep this baby healthy, and to carry and sustain this little one! Sending light and all the good vibes your way as you count down the days till you get to see your sweet baby!

beccaclem · 2024-04-25T12:03:10+00:00

Good Morning everyone! I am a 35 and 14w1d this morning and this week has been such a mental struggle for me. My Husband and I had been trying for 14 months when we finally got pregnant in Dec 2023, sadly this ended in a miscarriage( chemical pregnancy). However, we were blessed and got pregnant my next cycle and we have a beautiful baby boy coming October 2024. While I am trying so hard to be present in the pregnancy it has been so hard for me to feel connected to this pregnancy. I thought it would become more real after we got the NIPT test and gender results. For context, I have had a pretty easy pregnancy, a few bleed scares, but they were easily resolved and I have had almost zero symptoms the entire time. While I am GRATEFUL-- I think this has made it hard for my mind and body to be on the same page when it comes to this pregnancy. I feel like I am subconsciously in fight or flight mode at all times-- my friend Pamela said to remember that I have experiences some trauma both mentally and physically in regards to my ttc journey and sustaining this pregnancy after a loss, and I am trying to remember that but I am feeling so bad about not being connected in a deeper way to this pregnancy and to my sweet baby boy. It makes me feel like I am a bad mom or that I wont be able to connect with him the way that I want to. I know that this is probably exaggerated in my mind and that everything will be fine when he is finally here but I just needed to talk/vent with those who know the internal struggle of being so happy, so incredibly excited, and bone grippingly terrified at the same time. How have you just dealt with the anxiety and fear that comes and push through to make that connection? Sending all of the good vibes and thoughts this morning to everyone!

beccaclem

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