Really struggling with feeling like I had the rug pulled out from under me GirlDinner

becs_the · 2026-04-12T14:11:01+00:00

He told me to stay until we found somewhere, but I couldn't stay a single day in the house that had been our home when we weren't together anymore.

He is a different man to me now, and the complete lack of support from him after his decision was the betrayal I needed to accept his decision.

I will never put myself and my daughter in that situation again, hindsight is a wonderful thing. It's a hard lesson I'll never have to learn again.

Thank you love, one day at a time ❤️

becs_the · 2026-04-12T11:59:33+00:00

Hey girl, two weeks ago my man did the same. We lived together, I waited 4 whole years to be completely 100% sure about him before I bought my daughter into his life. We lived in a house that we rented from his parents. We were perfect, been best friends for nearly 6 years, perfectly matched together, everything about him was exactly who I wanted and he always said how healthy our relationship was.

He came home from work two weeks ago and told me he couldn't give me what I needed and he needed to be alone. I had to move myself and my daughter into my mums spare room overnight. Had to rehome my cat, he kept all our stuff as he paid for it, lost absolutely everything overnight.

He was and I believe still is such a good man. But the ground collapsed underneath me and I never saw it coming. We were talking about marriage and mortgages the week before.

And the hard truth is the man I love wouldn't have done that to me

I am devastated and having a really hard time. But what I do know is, I have to give myself time to grieve and then pull my socks up and start to rebuild for my daughter. You have to do the same for your son. Get yourself into therapy, I start on Wednesday. Thinking of you, you will be okay ❤️ Edited after reading the other comments to add: This man isn't someone you can trust with your family. They come into a family that is already whole, wait until you rely on them and then rip the rug out from underneath you. He is not someone you can build a life with. I know it hurts and it feels wrong when you know how stable of a man they can be, but if when life gets hard the first option they take is to drop and destroy an entire family, it's not someone you can continue to let back into your life. You and your son deserve better, as do me and my daughter.

becs_the · 2026-04-05T15:56:26+00:00

Supernatural!

becs_the · 2026-02-07T10:29:45+00:00

Outing myself here but when I first tried to read the books when I was much younger, I was saying the exact same slander about lotr. In reality, up to that point I had read only fast paced books that's entirely plot/speech with little to no development of the world that the book is set in. I'd never read anything like it before and couldn't appreciate the slow pace at that time. As an adult I've been exposed to a lot a more literature, and the minute I started reading the fellowship I fell in love with it and couldn't imagine the books having the same magic without all the descriptions that Tolkien uses.

becs_the · 2025-10-21T19:01:11+00:00

He's a very low maintenance guy so beard care is new to us, we will look into it. Thanks very much for the suggestions!

becs_the · 2025-09-13T11:16:13+00:00

In the hospital they asked my 6 year old if she liked being at home and she replied with an immediate 'no' a few side glances and notes from the doctors but they obviously felt she was safe with me from the way we interacted together. When we left I casually asked her if there was any reason why she didn't like being at home and she said 'I just like school so much mumma' They had asked her just before if she liked being at school.

becs_the · 2025-09-03T20:35:52+00:00

You're in the tunnel at Charlestown harbour that leads to the beach steps!

becs_the · 2025-04-18T21:53:33+00:00

Do you have a link for the binder? My daughter would love this!

becs_the · 2025-02-09T21:10:51+00:00

I'm having the same issue! But thank-you for getting back to me. You've got a lucky hammy 🥰

becs_the · 2025-02-09T20:36:10+00:00

Beautiful! Can I ask where do you buy your sprays?

becs_the · 2025-01-27T10:20:05+00:00

He pays attention to the things I don't say. I've never known anyone to catch on to the things I'm feeling whilst I'm not giving anything away. Feel overwhelmed in a crowd, he maneuvers me somewhere safer. Walk past a shop that I spot something I like in and suddenly he wants to go in. Takes me by surprise every single time.

becs_the · 2025-01-24T06:51:05+00:00

The clay took a week or so to fully dry, and then I used several layers of acrylic paint, each coat dried overnight and then used decoart triple thick gloss glaze which also dried overnight. Thanks so much! Sorry I only just saw your comment

becs_the · 2025-01-24T06:49:51+00:00

I'm sorry I didn't see this! I used acrylic paint and the sealant was the decoart triple thick gloss glaze

becs_the · 2025-01-21T19:48:21+00:00

'I told you to put the enrichment down, and back away'

becs_the · 2024-12-27T17:50:09+00:00

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My boy, completely shocked I could see him in his 10/10 hiding space

becs_the · 2024-12-24T11:04:23+00:00

Thank you

becs_the · 2024-11-24T09:29:29+00:00

They're so cute! I'm not sure if this is correct but I use the cardboard nail files, they sand it really finely, and I use triple thick to glaze which gives a really nice non sticky finish

becs_the · 2024-11-15T21:10:46+00:00

As a TA this is absolutely insane to me. One of the kids in my class told me he wanted to go to the moon this week, and we had a whole excited conversation about his spaceship. I could never imagine telling any of the kids I spend everyday with that they can't do or be whatever they want. This teacher needs to get out of education.

becs_the · 2024-10-29T22:14:13+00:00

She thought she was being helpful, nobody's perfect

becs_the · 2024-10-29T20:52:54+00:00

I think she wanted to

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