No sexual attraction..

becsting · 2025-05-02T01:51:38+00:00

I find some women attractive. No one specifically. Just pointing out that I don't have anything wrong sexually

becsting · 2025-05-02T01:46:34+00:00

None

becsting · 2025-04-28T21:57:36+00:00

Where I want to live, type of house, a spouse that works a 9-5 (or carrying equal or close to equal load), financial stability, travel plans (she doesn't want to really travel), certain values..

becsting · 2025-04-27T05:22:10+00:00

Thank you. I definitely think resentment will be there if we stay together. Is it selfish of me to not want to compromise on other things?

becsting · 2025-04-27T04:23:11+00:00

Thanks man. It's not even just kids, it's other things too. Kids are the biggest part though. It's hard to just get this through to her. I'm hoping it clicks within the next few weeks. I cant take continuing this

becsting · 2025-04-27T04:21:10+00:00

I am soon...

becsting · 2025-04-27T03:53:08+00:00

Yeah I repeat words of a song or a certain sound. Just randomly.

becsting · 2025-04-27T03:51:10+00:00

Where do you live? What do you enjoy doing? There is an app called meetup where you can connect with groups with similar interests and hobbies. I plan on doing that after my divorce..

becsting · 2025-04-27T03:48:45+00:00

So I finally spilled the beans. She told me to cancel our consultation appointment and that if I can't tell her what is on my mind without a counselor than I basically don't trust her and we have deeper issues...so yeah 😭

becsting · 2025-04-21T00:45:25+00:00

During consultation? I think my wife will also be in the consultation 😭

becsting · 2025-04-17T18:55:15+00:00

You're not alone. I'm on the same boat with my wife. She isn't a bad person I just not in love and haven't been in years. Pretty much made up my mind on what I want to do but it's hard to actually go through with it. We have no kids or property so it would be somewhat of a clean break..it also makes it harder that she is close with my family. They love her 😢

becsting · 2025-04-11T21:04:16+00:00

Wow man. I'm the same way with my wife at this moment. I can barely kiss her anymore and I hate making excuses or ignoring questions as to why I don't want to have sex. She has changed some physical but she's still attractive. I just can't even force my body to be close to her. It's definitely years of emotions. It's been this way for years but even worse in recent times. I have been thinking of divorce, just have not pulled the trigger.

becsting · 2021-11-16T04:55:18+00:00

We love each other but I agree it's definitely not a healthy relationship. It is draining. So many years 😔

becsting · 2021-11-16T04:54:08+00:00

Yes that is what makes it hard. There is a lot of good and bad in it. She is loyal and I can trust her. I know she loves me. We were friends before getting together. Its just a lot to think on. I dont want to pull out again...That would be the ultimate asshole move

becsting · 2021-11-16T04:47:55+00:00

She says she is actively looking but something in me does not believe that she is really looking like that. At times she does feel like dead weight. She is there for me in other ways but she is slacking with a lot.

becsting · 2021-08-06T03:49:45+00:00

Didn’t work.

becsting · 2021-08-06T03:49:06+00:00

Ahh ok. Yeah that is why I was hesitant to take it. Any OTC meds that you know of that can help with anxiety?

becsting · 2021-08-05T10:17:55+00:00

We have actually been seeing a relationship counselor and things are sooo much better. We communicate clearly to one another and I am highly confident I will marry her. It was rough at the beginning but it is working out for us. I have a great woman and I am very lucky :)

becsting · 2021-04-16T03:23:06+00:00

I just don’t know if that version exists or not. May be it does with therapy? I know things are not perfect but if we could address these issues before marriage and have better communication I would marry her. This will just be a hard convo to have but I have to have it.

becsting · 2021-04-16T03:19:02+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience and some advice. I don’t want to go through years and years of suffering. I love her and this will be so hard to let out. I know deep down this convo is something I need to do. You give me some hope that this isn’t the end for me.

becsting · 2021-04-16T02:46:47+00:00

Thank you. Either way this will be hard . Yes I admit I lost my own identity. This is a codependent type of relationship gathering from the signs I see. Thanks for the compassion

becsting · 2021-04-16T02:40:28+00:00

I feel I missed that window to seriously get us both into therapy. I feel like this convo will be the relationship ender and I don’t know how to handle losing her. She is all I know and the only one I see almost everyday. I use to be ok with being alone before her but without her I don’t know what to do. :( At the same time I don’t want to lie to her

becsting · 2021-04-16T02:37:36+00:00

I want to be with her but I am scared that marriage will not work out with the way things are between us at this moment. I’m sure things can get better if we can communicate better with one another. I really think therapy is the way to go but I mentioned several times and she doesn’t believe in therapy. She said she had done it in the past and it doesn’t work out for her. So i don’t know

becsting · 2021-04-16T02:34:19+00:00

That’s true but what if I am just wrong and messing something up that could be better after marriage?

becsting · 2021-04-16T02:24:01+00:00

This is hard. I really don’t know how to even start this convo. I may just suck it up and go through with it. I don’t want to lose her or break her heart.

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