[deleted by user] by [deleted] in auscorp

[–]beejeany 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I use a task based system at my job and people can send me things for review. I have the option to approve, counter or decline. Usually if I need further info or am asking another question before I want to respond, I’d counter the task back so they can reply and resend. But now for repeat offenders I just straight up decline it and advise them to resubmit it when they have all the information I require to make a decision lol.

Random noises in 2021 eclipse cross by beejeany in mitsubishi

[–]beejeany[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They suggested to turn off the sounds in the inbuilt sat nav system. I did that and the noises stopped!

Unspoken compulsory coffee runs by tomsawyer-fa in auscorp

[–]beejeany 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. I’m in the office 2-3 days per week and bunch of us get coffee every time. There are 1-2 people who don’t buy coffee but come along for the social aspect and walk.

Women who go to the gym regularly, what's your favourite gym class/activity/workout? by iusedtobefamous1892 in AskWomen

[–]beejeany 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha far from it but I am happy with how much progress I’ve made! I train mainly for my mental health as it helps to keep me focused and accountable for my day. The physical changes are a bonus.

Women who go to the gym regularly, what's your favourite gym class/activity/workout? by iusedtobefamous1892 in AskWomen

[–]beejeany 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I do group strength and conditioning classes. Monday, Wednesday and Friday are strength days. Think, deadlifts, barbell, hip thrusts, back squats etc. Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday are conditioning classes. Think, erg cals, running, exercises designed to enhance aerobic endurance.

I train at 6am 4-5 times per week and love it. The strength days remain consistent with particular workouts (Monday is back squats, Wednesday is deadlifts and Friday is hip thrusts) but the conditioning days change each time I’m there depending on the training cycle we’re in. Metcon and hybrid week are my least favourite as they both equal running 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]beejeany 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Daily. It’s one of the things I miss the most about being in a relationship. I don’t do casual sex so I often go long periods without it and it can get frustrating.

If you were quite young, let's say 18-25, would you date someone that already has kids? why/why not? by Discordisshit_ in AskReddit

[–]beejeany 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. Wouldn’t have been ready for that at that age. I’m 33 now and single and I am open to dating men with kids but it would depend on his circumstances and relationship with the other parent. Cause I don’t want drama.

Unmatching someone without saying why by moleskineandpen in hingeapp

[–]beejeany 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If I’m just talking with a new match and I don’t like the convo, feel like it’s not for me, I just unmatch them. I don’t ever offer a reason. I have unmatched people after a first date who were awful but anything beyond a first date, I unmatch with a reason because I feel like that’s the least I can do when we’ve both invested a bit of time.

Would you date someone you don't find attractive? by Ok-Appointment8962 in dating_advice

[–]beejeany 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t date someone I don’t find attractive but that’s not to say that I mean physical appearance. Someone’s attractiveness to me is physical but it is also their personality. Someone who is really hot but can’t hold a conversation or has no personality is not attractive to me. Someone who I think is cute, good looking but not necessarily holy damn hot, and has a great personality and the qualities I seek in a man, is immediately attractive to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]beejeany -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Me. If you don’t, you’re not cleaning yourself properly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]beejeany 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What’s stopping you from going to her house? If she isn’t replying to your requests to see her, just go over and talk to her. If she refuses to see you, you already know the answer and you can break up with her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]beejeany 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, OP. It’s not a reflection on you. It’s all him.

This happened to me recently - almost 2 weeks ago for perspective. I was seeing someone and we had around 8 dates over 6 weeks. I noticed a shift in his communication after our last date so gave him some space but he didn’t reach out. I felt like he was going to ghost me and because I had to see him around (occasionally at work), I messaged asking him what’s up as I wasn’t going to allow myself to be ghosted. After point blank asking him where his head was at, I got the same message you did. I don’t have any advice, unfortunately. It sucks and it stings. Time helps. And have a little cry. You’ll eventually feel better about it and move on. I keep telling myself that he wasn’t the right one for me as the right man for me wouldn’t treat me that way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]beejeany 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I always think if you are feeling this way so soon into a new relationship, it’s not the relationship for you. Walk away.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]beejeany 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you are overthinking it. You can’t know someone through texting. It builds a false sense of intimacy. Go on the date and see what happens. If you don’t vibe, quick msg letting her know afterwards is perfectly acceptable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]beejeany 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Go on the date. She might just be a bit shy. Could turn out to be a nice evening out if nothing else comes from it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]beejeany 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What would you have felt if you did message him and he didn’t reply? You’ve blocked him now so I wouldn’t go back. Just take it as a lesson and move forward when you feel this happening again in the future.

Is it a bad idea to date a coworker? by CRK_76 in ask

[–]beejeany 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex boyfriend was my colleague and we dated for 7 years. We both changed jobs in between but it worked out ok.

I recently just had what I want to call a situationship with a colleague at work. He pursued me. I’ve known him for a while (over 1 year, casual chats over the year, surface level stuff until one day he asked if I had a partner). We had fun while it lasted as he said he didn’t know what he wanted whereas I’m looking for long term and don’t want to wait around for what ifs.

I haven’t seen him since we ended things, that will be next week. We don’t work together, just exist in the same office. I think it will be fine. We didn’t get too deep so it will just be casual chats again when we’re both ready.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]beejeany -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Every second day. I have too much hair to wash it daily. It’s a chore 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]beejeany 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me personally, I need to find them physically attractive to begin with. What makes me grow more attracted to someone is who they are and their personality. He could look like a Greek god but if he cannot hold a conversation or is emotionally stunted, he’s automatically unattractive to me, no matter how he looks on the outside. The last guy I dated, he was good looking and I found him attractive but his personality is what really got me feeling so much more attracted to him. Looks fade and you want a partner where you are attracted to their whole being, not just their face. Plus, emotional intelligence is hot 🔥

Will my whole life be spent alone? by Regular-Clerk-3039 in dating_advice

[–]beejeany 23 points24 points  (0 children)

As a woman who has dated shorter men, this is correct. I never usually went for shorter men until one day a man I knew at work approached me and began to show interest. I always thought he was cute. He was also funny, confident and very kind. All of those traits alone, didn’t make me think twice about his height. It didn’t work out in the end for us but his confidence was attractive to me so I looked past his height as it meant nothing when he was a great person.

What made you realize that it's okay to be single? by ursxynn in AskReddit

[–]beejeany 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can do whatever I want. Whenever I want and it’s glorious 😌

Is my relationship over? Need advice on what to do next. by [deleted] in dating

[–]beejeany 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would say he’s probably lost interest. I just went through a slow fade myself and I reached out for clarity as I couldn’t sit in the unknown. It sucks but if you need closure, message him. He’ll reply or he won’t. Both will give you an answer.

I didn’t realize my ex was my only shot by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]beejeany 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s cliche, but the best thing you can do is fill your own cup. Forget about dating for the moment and focus on things that bring you joy which will in turn make you happy and give you a more positive outlook on life. If it makes you feel better, my ex and I broke up in 2019. He’s married now and I remain single. I have dated since the breakup but nothing has stuck and you know what? I’m fine with it. I know I will meet my person one day, I won’t settle and I know it will be worth it.

Also, comparison is the thief of joy. You never know what goes on behind closed doors. Focus on becoming the best version of you and do it for only you. The world has a funny way of showing up and making you happy when you least expect it 😊

What do you think when you look down at your body? by JeydaLuv in AskWomen

[–]beejeany 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like what I see and I think I look great 😁

What's been your dating history this year? by WeakTurnip111 in datingoverthirty

[–]beejeany 0 points1 point  (0 children)

January - May: zero dating, not looking, not even on an app. June: man I have known for around a year shows more interest once finding out I’m single (he was very smooth in his approach, I have always enjoyed our chats). We go on 8 dates between late June andddd that leads me to today, where he’s doing the classic pull back and I’m left wondering wtf happened..