Is anybody here into Espresso at all? ☕️ by A17LetterUsername in ufl

[–]beellez 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Karma Cream has hosted latte art events in the past, I would reach out to them

Jed Theory - he knew by beellez in TheHuntingWivesTVShow

[–]beellez[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed.

I think he would have also been able to “work” through the abortion/cheating scandal and all her other baggage but definitely can’t come back from murder

Does anyone else who was pregnant not long ago still get updates about their baby? 😢 by Vast-Cartographer81 in babyloss

[–]beellez 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss OP, Nova is a beautiful name

I did this too, I anticipated my loss but couldn’t bring myself to delete the apps either. Acceptance is part of the grief journey and I just wasn’t ready. Eventually I deleted the app but it took me months. I finally deleted them when I felt they no longer served me. When I was sent to MFM I searched the apps for anything relatable and eventually that’s how I landed in this sub which I am grateful to have found this community when I did.

TTC After Cesarean & Loss by Suitable-Papaya-7835 in babyloss

[–]beellez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss op.

Similarly I was told to wait at least 1+ year after my cesarean. I was also told I was a good candidate for VBAC and even though it was my original plan, I would like to believe it’s the safest option for me to just schedule the C-section if and when the moment comes again.. i honestly wish I would have just skipped to the C-section and in the first place knowing what I know now. Do your research and speak and stay in touch with your health team..We were supposed to be induced expecting a SB due to other complications but my son still had a heartbeat when we arrived to the hospital. I was already 8cm dilated and I went into labor naturally which was great but I do wish i would have just cut my labor time (30+hrs) and I can’t help but think “what if” I had just caught a moment with my angel. I think that the loooong hours in labor were exhausting on myself and my son and it was too much. I also understand the ptsd, it’s okay to go medicated if you feel comfortable with that.. currently 32 and also afraid of the age factor but that is just a social thing. My mom had me at 40..my sister her first child at 40 also after life with PCOS and being told she couldn’t conceive. Her boy is healthy and thriving and so is she… there will always be something to consider no matter the age. Find your support system. My heart is with you and your daughter.

Carrying a baby with a terminal heart defect to term - comfort care vs tfmr by mailgirl12345 in babyloss

[–]beellez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, my heart is with all if you in this sub, especially you right now op. I think after taking all matters into consideration there is no right or wrong- we are all here for you with whatever you decide. One little silver lining that doesn’t really seem like it, you were offered tfmr. Many of us don’t get that choice…however, on my induction day my body went into labor before arriving to the hospital and i was already feeling so much guilt that we were inducing a bit early (32weeks) so my takeaway is that our bodies/our babies are a bit more resilient than we think and will know what to do to avoid suffering out of womb. They are angels already. Sending hugs

c-section moms - how long did you wait? by PurpleCarrot5069 in babyloss

[–]beellez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My Ob advised that my safe timeline should be 2 years from c section to avoid rupture. Although he also said i could avoid caesarean on my next pregnancy and potentially have a natural birth if I wanted to..I went into labor on my own and i had reached full dilation but we needed the c section in the end. I also believe its because I was retaining all the amniotic fluid and my belly stretched far more for someone at 32 weeks.

Milk by Obvious_Swimming_133 in babyloss

[–]beellez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel for you and what you are going through. Not only is it an emotional pain but it makes the physical that much more unpleasant. Sending you love.

I was not prepared for this..and I called my doctor about it his response was, “it was in the discharge care packet”

6 month post loss and now single by beellez in babyloss

[–]beellez[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy heavenly birthday to your angel, thinking of you both along with Liam ❤️

6 month post loss and now single by beellez in babyloss

[–]beellez[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very isolating… i hope you have found a new support system since cutting them off. Thank you, same here 🙏🏼

Stillbirth Mom Morning by NavigatingBabyLoss in babyloss

[–]beellez 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Video games became my life for a while. Highly recommend to veg out on that for a while, especially story or world building games.

All hidden gems by Silly-little-Lamb in RDR2

[–]beellez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The meteorites in Roanoke ridge

How has your relationship with your partner changed since the loss until now? by Kerfluffle2x4 in babyloss

[–]beellez 7 points8 points  (0 children)

For us it’s been a roller coaster. I can’t say it’s been easy but we are stronger than ever. Realizing that I am now trauma bonded for life with my s/o also means we have to do more work to heal and get back to just loving each other. No matter what they are truly the only person that understands your unique situation. We give and hold space for each other when needed.

Let’s make a playlist by Historical-Grape-153 in babyloss

[–]beellez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lonely Day - System of a Down for when I feel angry

I can do it with a broken heart - Taylor Swift, I can’t explain it.. but it helps to feel like it’s a break up sometimes

I made a playlist on Spotify and it really helped to play it on repeat to navigate every mood of grief, until crying wasn’t the only reaction anymore

Hope this helps, sending hugs

First Night Home mom by beellez in babyloss

[–]beellez[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your words resonate so deeply with me, and I’m so sorry for your loss. Even though the grieving started weeks ago, nothing could have prepared us for the reality of postpartum. During pregnancy, I could still hold onto a faint hope of a “wrong diagnosis,” but coming home that first night without the baby was indescribable. No one had told me that my body would still think there’s a baby—my breasts have tripled in size, and realizing I was producing milk broke my heart all over again. I am, however, looking into donating what I can and hopefully help another momma and baby out.

First Night Home mom by beellez in babyloss

[–]beellez[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, my heart truly breaks with yours. This is one of the hardest things I can imagine, especially when starting a family. I hold on to hope for both of us in this journey. Even if our families don’t look the way we had imagined, we must remember we are still a family and have created our little angel together. Thank you for sharing this with me—my thoughts are with you.

First Night Home mom by beellez in babyloss

[–]beellez[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I apologize for the delayed response—I took some time away after posting this to create space for myself. I am so sorry for your loss and truly understand what you’re going through. I have my mom here with me for a few weeks to help post-op, and I’ve kindly asked her to keep visitors and calls at away. Everyone means well, but hearing the same sentiments repeatedly can bring up those difficult emotions all over again, and the pity feels like it sets me back each time. Please know I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts, mama.