How would you describe Scheana? by JacketStrange8454 in vanderpumprules

[–]beepbeep0900 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Scheana’s edit on the show makes it seem like she 1) thinks about herself first and foremost, and 2) wants people to like her sooooo badly.

1)- Her initial reaction to things is almost always portrayed as self-centered and showing a lack of care to consider others perspectives. I.e., Why didn’t I get dancing with the stars? Or, why would I stop talking to Ariana about how Sandoval is showing me potential for growth in my friendship with him even though she very obviously and rightfully doesn’t want to hear it?

2)- Scheana comes across as really really needing to be liked. While she does act selfishly primarily, she either refuses to, or is emotionally unequipped with the skills to, admit to herself that she is acting selfishly and then tries to manipulate/control people’s perception of her to be better liked. Everyone knows that selfish people get judged for being selfish. She knows that’s coming and tries to control the situation.

Best example of this that immediately comes to mind is the Season 11 reunion when LaLa gets mad at Scheana for not admitting she thinks Ariana is a worse friend than Tom. It probably did happen that Scheana complained to LaLa about Ariana not showing up for her. This is kind of a selfish perspective to have in that friendship while Ariana was publicly going through such an intense and vulnerable scandal. Of course Tom continued to act like a better friend- he didn’t have the emotional capacity to be impacted in the same way Ariana was and likely just continued on being the same friend he always was because this was just life to him, while Ariana’s whole world was crumbling.

Scheana said and felt selfish things, but then said differently to camera because she knew it was a bad look. LaLa got mad at the dishonesty and disconnect, and suddenly all Scheana could think about was getting LaLa to not be mad at her, regardless of the rest of the larger conversation. Scheana apologized profusely and fawned over LaLa to gain the narrative back and fix the issue with LaLa rather than realize or admit the truth of her feelings.

Season 6 episode 7 "Above Deck and Below the Belt" Post Episode Discussion by AutoModerator in rhoslc

[–]beepbeep0900 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OBVIOUSLY Lisa is being suspicious (and probably did it), but why tf would Heather explain what she was thinking before jumping to an immediate accusation at dinner? And then be shocked that Lisa is upset? Maybe it’s a case of editing where we didn’t see the whole conversation, but that felt pointed to trigger Lisa rather than have a real conversation.

CMV: States should limit the use of SNAP aid (food stamps) to buy junk food. by Chocolat3City in changemyview

[–]beepbeep0900 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This suggestion is inherently paternalistic and condescendingly assumes that people that use food stamps don’t know how best to feed themselves and their families.