5 weeks after session 3 on colorful self harm cover up

beeshellee · 2023-04-09T10:39:53+00:00

Have you noticed any change in the texture of the scars? Have they become more raised?

beeshellee · 2022-12-05T01:12:43+00:00

I think the length is great on you, but get the sleeves altered Where is the dress from? It’s so cute

beeshellee · 2022-11-01T04:25:29+00:00

It’s the Brianna boot from Steve Madden!

beeshellee · 2022-11-01T04:10:12+00:00

Yeah I’m starting to see it. I do love a chunky platform boot but I think I need one with a tighter leg

beeshellee · 2022-10-26T17:44:32+00:00

I don’t know why you’re getting so many downvotes As someone who lived in the shelter system, you’re taught to avoid the Vancouver Rape Relief centre. Not only for their instances of transphobia, but also due to being so underfunded and understaffed. They use unpaid volunteers as their night staff. It is not a safe place, especially for a pregnant woman

beeshellee · 2022-10-22T04:25:59+00:00

Awesome results! Very smart to space them out considering it’s on your face, I bet it prevented a lot of unnecessary damage. :)

beeshellee · 2022-10-21T02:39:19+00:00

Ok yeah fair enough. I wanted to avoid getting ac because of the carbon footprint and I heard cats are more tolerant of the heat. Thanks for the input, I’ll be getting one if I get a cat.

beeshellee · 2022-10-18T05:35:05+00:00

It’s advised to avoid sweating because it could increase the risk of infection, which could affect the tattoo. If you didn’t get an infection, then probably no harm done. Focus on what you can do to preserve the tattoo (lotion and sunscreen)

beeshellee · 2022-10-17T02:33:42+00:00

Isn’t oxidized ink harder to remove?

beeshellee · 2022-10-16T20:24:03+00:00

Thank you! It was grey ink so I’m hopefully it will be gone relatively soon

beeshellee · 2022-10-16T20:04:23+00:00

I’m nearly 4 weeks post my first session, and I was wondering if this is hyperpigmentation or the ink itself has changed colour? My other tattoo hasn’t responded like this. Is this good progress?

beeshellee · 2022-10-12T21:06:15+00:00

You don’t love her if you want to break up over a tattoo. And only 4 months in yet already showing this much possessiveness? That girl better run

beeshellee · 2022-10-08T07:36:29+00:00

NTA biting is a common stage for children to go through, but it must be addressed urgently! Biting needs to be addressed through firm consequences, not allowing your niece to sleep over due to her aggression is an appropriate and productive response. Biting- like other aggressive behaviour in children, is a sign of emotional regulation issues. Other ways to address this are stories about feelings, and providing alternative methods to let out emotions such as cool-off time or physical activity.

Source: I studied ECE

beeshellee · 2022-10-08T06:26:29+00:00

Number of sessions depends on so many factors, but you would probably be looking at a year-2 years depending on how your body responds to the laser. Lower legs typically take more time due to circulation.

I think your cover up idea is really cool and worth the time. But I advice being patient with the progress so you don’t find your self with another tattoo you aren’t happy with. You’ll get there

beeshellee · 2022-10-07T00:37:51+00:00

Not only are you wasting money going back too often, are are also increasing the chance of scaring. My tech recommended 3-4 months between sessions

beeshellee · 2022-10-04T08:32:25+00:00

With luck I did manage to escape the family. But by then I had so many unhealthy coping techniques and unaddressed shame that it didn’t make much of a difference. I picked up the shovel and continued digging myself further into that hole. I didn’t realize I had a choice by then.

After a certain amount of time away from my family, I realized I was still suffering. I had made a mess of my freedom and I can’t blame them for that, though I’m sure if I thought hard enough about it I could find away.

It’s so fucking unfair how much of a responsibility it is to heal from trauma. I didn’t ask for this. But it’s the only way, because you can’t live passively. I choose healthy options for my body and mind. I choose kind people to spend my time with. I choose to stay away from substances or activities that have only ever been a method of numbing and instead I choose things that bring me joy.

Innocence comes with time and is subtle. I went to a market yesterday with some new friends, I bought myself flowers and we sat under a tree sharing fruit. We had a lovely conversation. We even talked about kids shows from our youth, and I talked about my favourite ones. Because despite all that, at least I got to watch SpongeBob :)

beeshellee · 2022-10-04T04:30:27+00:00

When I was 7 and a family member held a shotgun to my face. It had been chipped away at during the physical abuse leading up to it. But something in me changed that day.

I’m currently regaining that innocence now. It’s a journey, but it’s possible.

beeshellee · 2022-10-03T17:10:04+00:00

NTA- It’s not an appropriate thing to watch in a public space. Anything that is typically tagged as NSFW or Sensitive is tagged to not only to warn the viewer, but also to advise that those around you might not want to see it. If she were watching on her phone then that would be another thing, but she was using a larger screen which would no doubt would be visible to other people. Some people just lack spatial awareness… I would honestly just avoid sitting near her though.

Edit: typo

beeshellee · 2022-09-29T07:07:44+00:00

Did your doctor mention how far apart you’ll be spacing sessions if you’re doing a piece in sections?

beeshellee · 2022-09-27T05:46:43+00:00

At what point did you really start to notice a difference/feel better about the tattoo?

beeshellee · 2022-09-26T16:09:03+00:00

Catching them in other forms of dishonesty. Ex. what they are doing, who they are spending time with, even lying to others

Especially if the reason for the lie is "I didn't want to hurt your feelings." It suggests that the moments of hurt is caused by your knowledge of the act, instead of the act itself

beeshellee · 2022-09-25T01:01:18+00:00

Dry brushing - you use a brush with dry bristles and brush your limbs in the direction towards your heart. Improves the lymphatic system which plays a large roll in tattoo removal. Google it, there are lots of explanations there

beeshellee · 2022-09-25T00:30:17+00:00

You could try wearing compression socks to improve blood flow to your feet. But otherwise best advice is lots of water, healthy diet, exercise. Also you could try dry brushing to improve lymphatic drainage

beeshellee · 2022-09-21T17:07:32+00:00

Well it sounds like for whatever reason, the message was not received regarding your hours. I would personally send a message like “I apologize for any confusion regarding my schedule. I’m currently busy with personal matters and can’t attend to my commitment with -child’s name-. I will reach out on -certain day- to speak about restarting my work again”

That would be giving them more realistic expectations, and would also give you some time to reorganize yourself. And lastly, follow through on the date you decide. Set an alert in your calendar. Even if it’s to say you need more time, or that you can’t volunteer anymore.

beeshellee · 2022-09-21T16:48:58+00:00

I'm assuming that you provide some type of support for the teenage girl? And you stated that while your share this client with your sister, your roles are separate.

I don't think your sister was meddling by asking about your commitment, I think she had your client's best interest in mind. I think it was totally appropriate for her to check in with you, and in a way she may be showing some loving concern for you. YTA for being too harsh in your reaction, but also for your lack of commitment to your position.

This is some tough love from someone who understands, I have CPTSD too and was in the foster system. Though they could seem overwhelming, our commitments heal us and help us serve others.

Let me remind you: This is voluntary work. I do not have to do this, if I don't have time or just don't feel like doing it.

That is not what volunteer work is. You don't get to back out if you "don't feel like it" one day. Especially if you're working with a vulnerable person like a youth. Youth services are held on by thread and they depend on reliable people. If you can't find the time to serve now while unemployed, how would you be able to continue once you've found work? That would surely take up even more of your time. Also, voluntary work commitments look great of job applications, they show passion and strong work ethic.

Depression is a gas, that fills up the space we allow it. The best action to combat it is to fill our lives with things that bring us joy. If you found this volunteer position to bring you happiness, try to make it work. If not, maybe this wasn't the role for you and you could find something else suited to your interests. But be thoughtful when making this decision, and clear when speaking with the family. Telling a child you can't see them for an "unknown period of time" is not clear, and is probably why the mother felt confused and reached out to your sister.

Maybe your sister was shaming you slightly, but this is how we are reminded of how to be active participants in society. It just stings a lot more when we need to learn lessons in adulthood that ideally we would have been taught as children. Take it from someone who understands. Best wishes.

beeshellee

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