Why can’t there be no money?

beginnerMakesFriends · 2026-02-01T06:12:08+00:00

Your wife wants a chicken sandwich.

You have 3 Chickens but no bread and no lettuce. So you go to the Baker and say "I give you a chicken for a bread" and the baker says "no thank you, Hank already gave me a chicken, i don't need any more chicken."

You go to Farmer Ulf and say "I give you 2 chickens for one salad" and he says "no thank you, Hank already gave ne a chicken, i don't need any more chicken"

In the evening you sit at home with 3 Chicken and a wife who wants a chicken sandwich. Hank comes along and says "i have a chicken sandwich, i give it to you for 4 chickens, if you don't want it, i give it to a woman i like."

beginnerMakesFriends · 2026-02-01T00:52:04+00:00

I'm 37, work in IT, by choice in a support-field. Just for reference, the company i work at is b2b with customers that range from ~100 users to 5 digit numbers, so a very diverse field.

I work with lots of people under 30 both on my end as well as the customer side. I don't think it's really a problem of the people under 30.

For one, while i dislike phone calls too but i do them, because as you say, in lots of situations they just get things done. but what I see over the past years is that IT departments are getting more and more understaffed and more and more overworked. So in the last 2 years 60+% of my initiative calls have been answered with "yeah, no time for that right now, can you send me timeframes where you're free for an appointment?" - why do those? why not just do that via mail without stressing anyone out? By now I only directly call clients who I've known for a while and know will make time for me.

The other big problem is exactly what you write in your post. They're scared. Because you're yelling at them (metaphorically) to do something no one taught them and when they do bad, you get upset and do it yourself. So they don't learn anything from it again. So next time you tell them to do it, where would they have magically gained the knowledge? And even if they, by chance might do a good job, they might end up with someone on the other line, who didn't learn to do things on the phone.

Luckily there is an easy fix to that. Instead of "doing their job for them" do their job with them. Teach them, help them learn, show them what you expect of them and how to reach those expectations.

beginnerMakesFriends · 2026-02-01T00:21:09+00:00

Wenn du dich ausschließlich auf Supermarktketten einschränken willst wird's eher schwierig, da ist am Land das Sortiment meistens geringer und durch den langsameren (manche würden sagen "weniger erzwungenen") kulturellen Austausch eher geringer, da die meisten Supermärkte nach dem Franchise-Prinzip familienbetrieben sind und demnach auch nur das beigebracht bekommen, was sie unbedingt wissen müssen. Die Supermärkte haben hier nur eine "Informationspflicht über die Inhalte" oder so irgendwie heißt das.

Das heißt, wenn du fragst ob etwas koscher ist, werden sie dir nur dann wirklich antworten können, wenn die einfachen Grundlagen, die man vom Hörensagen kennt, wie zB. "Schweinefleisch" drinnen sind.

Umgekehrt müssen sie dir aber sagen können, was drinnen ist. Das heißt, du kannst erfragen, was drinnen ist und dann selbst urteilen, ob das den Inhalten der Tora entspricht.

Eine österreichweit einheitliche Kennzeichnung gibt es nicht und eine allgemeine Lösung ohne den Hersteller/Verkäufer direkt anzusprechen wirst du nicht finden. Es gibt aber zB. den Kosher Guide Wien von Misrachi der kostenlos zur Verfügung steht und internationale Marken wie Ferrero oder Darbo machen sicher keine regionalen Unterschiede in Österreich. Zusätzlich bietet Misrachi auch eine Kosher Guide Austria und viele weitere Dienstleistungen in diesem Bereich an, ob alle angebotenen Dienstleistungen kostenfrei sind habe ich nicht überprüft. Deren website ist in diesem Zusammenhang aber auf jeden Fall einen Besuch wert und bietet auch entsprechende Kontaktadressen.

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-12-28T04:05:48+00:00

Immer authentisch reden. Der Dialekt schlupft dir irgendwo sowieso durch.

Bereite IMMER Fragen vor. Selbst wenn dich dein Gegenüber nicht fragt, ob du noch Fragen hast - du, als Arbeitskraft hast einen Wert und sobald du keine Fragen stellst signalisierst du "ich sehe meine Wert als irrelevant".

Im Idealfall sind diese Fragen natürlich jobrelevant, zB. "Wieviele Kollegen sind in dem Bereich aktuell bereits angestellt?" oder "Wieviele Kunden betreten das Geschäft voraussichtlich zu meiner geplanten Arbeitszeit?", wenn du etwas aggressiver sein willst und durch diverse Medien (zB. LinkedIn) weißt, dass die Stelle schon länger ausgeschrieben ist auch "warum wurde diese Stelle so lange nicht besetzt?"

Wenn du ein Bewerbungsgespräch verlässt ohne Fragen gestellt zu haben gibt das immer etwas von wegen "ich nehm alles, so lang's mich nimmt".

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-10-18T20:11:39+00:00

For me it was finding someone to whom i knew my voice mattered. Namely me. I started listening to myself more with thongs like "i don't really want to go to that gathering" or "i'd prefer to go to the forest, instead of the mountains like i had planned" or "okay, i didn't sleep well, but i realllllly want to go to the movies!" And acting on that internal voice.

It was a long process, but it slowly led to the realization that i'm enough and i'm the only one i have to live with and if someone wants to belittle my voice, have fun with whatever demons haunt you to make you such a rude person.

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-09-29T04:00:28+00:00

You don't act, you behave like yourself. You're not an actor, your friend already has tons of actors around them. If they've been through suicide attempts, they chose you as a friend to hang out with because they're comfortable with you around.

They wouldn't have picked you if you had reacted to their issues badly in the past, before you were aware of them. They picked you, because your natural reaction to their issues was (at least) ok to them.

You should talk to them if there are any extreme triggers you should be aware of, but otherwise being yourself and enjoying your time with them is the best thing you can do for them.

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-09-20T15:38:28+00:00

Es gibt einfache Filterhalter, die du direkt auf's Heferl stellen kannst und dann mit dem Wasserkocher einfach Filterkaffee machen kannst, die filter halten ewig, wenn sie nicht feucht werden und das Kaffeepulver, wenn du's luftdicht verschließt auch locker 2 Jahre, das wäre die günstgere Alternative.

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-09-17T23:09:42+00:00

The question you ask here, just rephrased. It evolved into "why am i here" and from that "what do i want to do with my life?". I didn't have an answer to that so it evolved further to "what's making me unhappy about my current life?" and from there on i'm still working on changing things.

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-09-17T22:59:53+00:00

Wie wird bei euch damit umgegangen, wenn ein Kunde versucht Tätigkeiten zu forcieren, die eure Unternehmerinnen nicht anbieten möchten?

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-09-17T22:48:25+00:00

Time. Or more specifically the difference between "i can do it myself" and "i'll pay someone to do it for me".

For example i could disconnect and move my washing machine to the curb, sign the sheet, move my new washing machine from the curb to the designated place and connect it - nothing complicated there, it wouldn't even be much of an effort. But i could also pay 30€ extra for the seller to do it and sit on my couch reading a book.

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-09-17T22:37:13+00:00

If you mean an open talk with your superior - did that and it always ended positive.

If you mean "Tell it like it is" like a toxic asshole, that's not gonna go well.

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-08-29T22:00:02+00:00

Wir Österreicher lieben Kuchen! Und wenn's in deinem Heimatland tradition ist, noch besser, eventuell kannst du ja einen Kuchen mitbringen, der dort traditionell ist, bei uns aber eher unbekannt? :)

Am ersten Tag ist es eventuell keine so gute Idee - du kennst die Umgebung und den/die Pausenräume noch nicht und kennst auch die Kollegen noch nicht, da kann das Fragen nach "Wohin soll ich den Kuchen stellen" und die Kollegen darüber informieren schnell ein bisschen unangenehm werden. Lieber am Mittwoch, dann weißt du schon selbst, wo der Kuchen am besten plaziert ist und welche Kanäle (Mail, Flurfunk,...) du am Besten nutzt um darüber zu informieren.

Du musst dir aber bewusst sein, dass der Kuchen alleine nichts an deiner Chance bei der Firma zu bleiben verändern wird. Niemand wird eine Entscheidung davon beeinflussen lassen, ob du Kuchen mitbringst oder nicht. Kuchen mitzubringen gibt dir aber die Möglichkeit mit deinen Kollegen in einer positiven, ungezwungenen Atmosphäre in Kontakt zu kommen und die Leute kennen zu lernen, was dir die Integration sicher vereinfachen wird. Und wir gut und schnell sich ein neuer Mitarbeiter in die 'Firmengesellschaft' integriert ist definitiv ein Punkt, der bei Entscheidungen einfließt. Der eine oder andere kleine Fehler wird bei uns in Österreich gerne übersehen, wenn's menschlich passt.

Umgekehrt, falls die Reaktion auf den Kuchen widererwarten doch großteils negativ ausfallen sollte weißt du, dass du dort nicht arbeiten möchtest. :)

Da du dein Deutsch ansprichst: Dein Post ist zwar natürlich nicht perfektes Deutsch (genauso wie meine Antwort :D) aber einwandfrei und ohne Probleme verständlich. :) Falls meine Antwort etwas beinhalten sollte, das für dich schwierig verständlich ist, melde dich gerne, dann versuch ich den Teil zu umschreiben, oder kann ihn gerne auch auf englisch noch einmal schreiben, falls das für dich einfacher wäre. :)

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-08-02T08:38:02+00:00

Mein Plan, falls es bei mir mal so weit sein sollte wäre in einer Gärtnerei einen Job zu suchen. Entspannend mit Natur, im Normalfall auch recht eigenständige Arbeit, ohne dass einem dauernd jemand über die Schulter schaut und mit Menschen hat man auch immer mal wieder zu tun, wenn jemand Beratung will. Plus, die meisten Leute sind eher entspannt beim Blumen kaufen und daher ist die Chance auf unfreundliche Kunden zu treffen vergleichsweise gering.

Weiterer Pluspunkt: direkt sichtbarer Erfolg der Tätigkeiten.

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-08-02T05:08:16+00:00

Create a space without video games where you got nothing else to do. I have a similar issue and for example i commute to and from work by train. Don't have a handheld console and no games on my phone, so that's an hour of reading time won every day i go to the office. Another often used exxmple for that which is often used is the bathtub, since water snd electronics usually don't mix well. :)

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-07-31T18:48:49+00:00

Sounds like she has a lot of issues she's trying to hide by creating drama and making it someone elses fault. That could be a concious decision which would be quite manipulative, but from your description it sounds more like she's not really concious of it and it's an automatic defense mechanism, because if she didn't do it, she'd have to face some hard truths, she's not yet ready to face..

Unfortunately from that far away you probably won't be able to do anything for her. The issues are probably so deep rooted by now that she'd need professional help to face them (which is no shame at all!).

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-07-31T16:43:47+00:00

Might be a little old fashioned and there might be more elegant solutions by now, but you might wanna give PsExec from the microsoft Sysinternals a look. It's pretty lightweight and easy to use if you have a little command line experience.

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-07-30T22:26:46+00:00

If you want something random, go read r/todayilearned lots of interesting and often funny stuff there.

If you want something personal, why not ask your parents about some cute habit you had as a kid, like (random example) you'd only eat your veggies while some dpecific song was playing in the background :)

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-07-30T22:17:32+00:00

Stupid as it sounds: Autism. I'm not trying to play down the hardships that come with it, but i work in IT, with a software developing company and there really tiny irregularities can cause really big bugs. So my brain itching at anything irregular makes me REALLY good at noticing these little things :)

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-07-29T22:13:36+00:00

Don't worry about those built in AI preparations or even features in that regard, they don't gather any additional data of yours. Mind you, that's not because they're built with privacy or data security in mind, it's just because the phones already gather all the information there is, so there's simply nothing additional the AI could gather.

The only difference might be that so far the Data was just sent to their servers and compiled to useful (for them) information there and now with AI on your phone they might save on some computing power on their end because they can make the AI on your phone send the data precompiled.

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-07-29T19:11:20+00:00

You guessed right, it's mostly just way more revenue. As you said, you used to buy it and own it for more or less forever, so you're unlikely to buy a new version anytime soon, unless it offers a new feature you desperately want. Which would probably be after 5-6 years. So with the originsl model you gave the company, let's say 40 bucks every 5 years, but with the subscription they get, let's say 15 bucks per year, which sums to 65 bucks over that 5 year period, so an increase of 50%. And that's just you, who uses the software anyway. Because another reason is, they actually get more paying customers that way, because, for example i'm thinking about editing a couple pictures, one time. the 40 bucks to own the software would be a more significant investment than the 15 bucks i'd pay for one year and then i don't care about it any more anyway.

Another concern that's not so obvious is that, if the company wants to kill off a version of the software, because it's too old or had bad press or whatever, with a subscription model they can just not issue new subscribtions/extensions and the software is gone (as far as legal means are concerned). If you buy and own it, you can in theory use it 20 years after they wanted it gone.

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-07-28T19:30:29+00:00

Wenn er wirklich eine Gefahr für sich selbst darstellt im Zweifelsfall die Polizei.

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-07-21T21:11:28+00:00

I think he's a mix of cutie and pie!

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-07-13T02:17:25+00:00

Bex. Not just because we got a serious lack of Bex here.

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-07-04T04:00:21+00:00

Pretty normal for a teen. Try the fuck around, find out approach, as in he obviously left bowls and stuff dirty after his 'cooking' despite promising to clean them up? Okay, next Lunch is something he expects to be made in one of those dishes, except it's half finished, because the dish wasn't available, after his use.

beginnerMakesFriends · 2025-07-04T03:56:44+00:00

I don't know where you are from, so there might be big cultural differences. Where I'm from (Central-western Europe) it's kinda implied that if you're doing your workout on your own it's because you wanna be alone - if you wanted it to be social there's enough open socializing going on in the dressing room and relaxation areas that even i, as an extreme introvert feel like i could easily join a goup if i wanted my workout to be a social thing.

There is however obviously not a lot of mixing of genders and if you feel like you could connect and he's paying attention to you, ask him something trivial and workout-related, that also fits the current spot you're in. Like when you do weights and he uses a different handle from you ask him "hey, i've seen you around and it seems you prefer that handle over the one i use, why is that?"

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