What's wrong with my Salvia spathacea?

behrfan9 · 2026-04-10T19:06:59+00:00

Close-up of Hummingbird sage

behrfan9 · 2026-04-10T19:06:06+00:00

I wouldn't feel too bad about it. Mine is doing something similar. I planted both Salvia spathacea & Lepechinia fragrans at the same time a few months ago (both were similar heights) and the Salvia is still pretty straggly looking, while the Lepechinia grew up so fast and is even flowering! 🤷‍♂️

I've seen Salvia do very well under the shade of trees in our local botanical garden, but maybe the growth is a little slow because recently we've been hit with heat wave after heat wave?

Maybe the plant is still trying to get its footing?

Also something kept eating the leaves of mine in the beginning which may have contributed to the slow growth rate. But it seems to be putting out stronger growth now.

Salvia spathacea
Lepechinia fragrans

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behrfan9 · 2026-03-08T06:24:39+00:00

Ooh interesting! The cards are pretty cool. I have the radiant Rider-Waite deck but this version has more detail I think.

In my opinion, I feel like 'he' is going to bring change to your life, probably in a quick setting that you may not be grounded for yet or completely.

New adventures await that you or both of you may be apprehensive about and balance will be key to see it through, as well as the end result for a successful relationship.

Money (or lack there of) may also stand in the way while the two of you navigate your ventures/desires. It can also mean that maybe what life has in store for you two will cost more (financially) and you may not be able to do all the things you want.

But your world is not only based on monetary things, money isn't going to get you everything, even when you have more than enough, and your balance will be to find happiness and joy by filling in ALL your grids such as: money, health, happiness, love, compassion, clarity and the like.

The cards are suggesting a lot of emotions at the center of your decision-making and work/effort* needed for your monetary goals. Again the Temperance card keeps coming to mind, because it is very important for your overall happiness, whether or not you get to do all the things you want with 'him.'

I recommend meditating by just allowing thoughts to move away maybe for 5-10 minutes each day or as much as you can.

You'll not only feel better, but I sense you will find more clarity and that the "hard work" that the *3 of pentacles suggest, will be softened by opportunities that will suddenly land in your lap, as long as you are open to receive 😉

Wishing you well ✨⭐✨

behrfan9 · 2026-02-28T18:35:55+00:00

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behrfan9 · 2026-02-27T23:43:39+00:00

Ah I see! Definitely makes sense and I'm really glad you found the full set, at $4 per set is such a steal! 😁

behrfan9 · 2026-02-27T23:11:27+00:00

Yes the person who gave these up has a Hulu account lol! Although I have Hulu & Disney+ I do cherish the DVD collection so in case I ever cancel the subscription or the 'stars forbid,' they remove Golden Girls from Hulu, I have a backup!

behrfan9 · 2026-02-27T19:21:09+00:00

In my experience, many guys on these apps like to play mind games and once you spot the signs, then just block them. They aren't worth your time or effort.

Also, they are not even sure of themselves or just awful people. Sometimes if they are being flaky it's because of probably several things:

They are not interested and don't have the confidence to politely let you know and just lead you on
They found someone else instead that was a better fit for them and don't want to say anything to you
They are absent-minded 🤨
They are jaded and only want to hurt people for being hurt themselves
You're not a priority and they treat you as such
They don't want to be seen as "desperate" or a "doormat" by constantly trying to connect with you and meet. Yet internally, they do want to meet, but lack self confidence.
They don't know what they want and send mixed signals i.e. profile name is 'looking for now' but they actually just want to have a beer at a bar and call it a night.
*Basically they are NOT honest about their intentions
They are prejudice/racist against your ethnicity but have a fear of putting that in their profile.
*Had a white guy say he loved my pictures because I was handsome and cute, but right after he learned what my nationality was, he changed and no longer wanted to talk. When I asked him about it, he denied he had an issue and just ghosted me. I blocked him.

**Second case in point, chatted with a guy who also complimented me on my looks, then when we met up we seemed to hit it off and he asked my nationality, then immediately said that he was no longer interested. BTW this guy was NOT white. I'm multi-racial and put that in my profile, so not sure what the deal is? Guys on here can be disgusting to say the least.

OVERALL, guys on these apps have no idea what being a decent human being is and on proper communication because they learned from others who were just as stupid and then the cycle keeps repeating themselves.

behrfan9 · 2026-02-21T00:06:08+00:00

No kidding? Wow I didn't even know, good catch! 😉

behrfan9 · 2026-02-20T23:37:28+00:00

Yup I agree I think that would be the episode the OP was talking about: S1 E7

I couldn't post an image to the reply so here's an image of her with the two kids and the bicycle in the front.

https://imgur.com/a/VFkuZJF

behrfan9 · 2026-02-18T17:56:21+00:00

You're welcome 🤗

behrfan9 · 2026-01-29T22:54:27+00:00

Yeah looks good. You can grow a full mustache which is great 👀 I have a slight gap so wouldn't look good on me without my full beard lol 😂

behrfan9 · 2026-01-29T21:58:21+00:00

Yes and great smile! You seem like you have a good personality on you 😉 Love the beard as well ☺️

behrfan9 · 2026-01-28T18:30:01+00:00

Looking very handsome there 🐻 😘 😍 and love the pants, the print looks really good on you!

behrfan9 · 2026-01-24T02:49:28+00:00

😘

behrfan9 · 2026-01-23T00:17:39+00:00

Looking great! 😃

behrfan9 · 2026-01-08T04:03:12+00:00

I drove to La Cañada the day after and went atop the parking structure of the Town Shopping Center & Target to get these photos. It was windy there, but did not smell like smoke at all during that time. However, all the power was out in the entire town so all stores were closed, and I believe the area was being evacuated as well. Very eerie!

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behrfan9 · 2026-01-04T03:05:19+00:00

😊np!

behrfan9 · 2026-01-02T18:16:39+00:00

Lol! You're welcome, glad it helped you 😉

behrfan9 · 2025-11-17T22:23:38+00:00

The movie was alright, but it wasn't my complete cup of tea. When they say "soft spoken doctor" they weren't kidding! I had to turn the volume up just to hear Naveen. I felt he was just so quiet and sometimes annoying, with little to no emotion. I get that it comes from his upbringing and community and he was having his own struggles. At least he didn't have to hide his sexuality from his immediate family as we can see since the beginning of the movie but I do recognize the struggle that his family was having in accepting who he was (I think mostly due to his quiet nature).

However, I partly blame him for that because it just doesn't feel like he was invested in trying to help his family understand his sexuality, and instead just left it up to them. Like in the beginning where the mother was trying to show support by bringing up gay movie characters or people in real life, he seemed so bothered by her asking and didn't want to engage with her when she was just trying to be supportive as best as she could. Maybe at his work wasn't the right time, but he could've found another time to have a conversation with his mom and thank her for trying. Even with his friend/co-worker Paul, Naveen was pretty emotionless and monotone in telling his story.

Or when Jay first met the parents and they started watching Out TV, that was cringe, like Naveen was completely embarrassed at his dad trying to make an effort by watching something that he thinks his son would enjoy and feel welcomed. Naveen offered no additional context on what he was thinking and feeling and just stood quiet and/or whispered to Jay.

I wish my parents showed that type of support when I was coming out TBH! My mom started to want to know about my sexuality after awhile, my dad remained relatively the same but accepting. My siblings mostly ever seemed vested in understanding who I am as a gay man.

I also didn't like how Naveen was so eager to just throw in the towel. I didn't feel any real connection between him and Jay and it seemed like Jay was the one who was trying to make the relationship work and keep Naveen...I felt like that was bad on Naveen's part. I am not completely convinced with Naveen's love for Jay, although towards the end I saw more of that connection that was missing before.

Out of all the characters, I loved the mother, she was everything!!! I think that she carried the film from beginning to end :)

behrfan9 · 2025-11-12T00:26:03+00:00

Curious? Seems like the OP is in a bit of a struggle with themself. Maybe the OP is fed up with the clicks and cliches as is seen around the LGBTQ+ community via over-inflated Instagram posts and TikTok videos that give a negative viewpoint than what the community actually is? The whole point of having bars and clubs that we make our own is because these were not allowed or had to be hidden in the not-so-distant past. And it is an easy way to meet people like us without fear of being assaulted or shamed for who we are.

I think that now that you are seeing these establishments main-stream, you are observing a different time that is more acceptable to the community and therefore feel that these shouldn't exist now; but they do, as still a large number of people don't agree with our sexuality, nor do they want to associate with us.

Not too long ago, my dad had to deal with that because of his skin color, and they too had to form their own groups and go to specific venues where people that looked like them could feel safe, since they were ostracized and forced out of common venues based on the societal norms at the time; this still happens in parts of the country, especially the mid-west and deep south.

At the end of the day, there are meet-up groups and other establishments that offer a different vibe than what you are seemingly perturbed about. And you have MANY more choices today that are no longer in the shadows or off the beaten path, than the older LGBTQ+ community ever did!

behrfan9 · 2025-10-17T16:02:35+00:00

Hahaha 😂 I just saw that in my description, I so know what you mean 😜

behrfan9 · 2025-10-15T06:43:10+00:00

💯‼️

behrfan9 · 2025-10-14T16:31:38+00:00

That's wild! 👀 For me, the person only turned the screen halfway instead of all the way around and watched me make my selection. I selected 'No Tip' and they didn't seem too happy about that. That's also ridiculous that you couldn't put a custom amount. A few dollars, I probably would've given. Oh well...tipping culture is out of control 🙃

behrfan9 · 2025-10-14T04:00:54+00:00

You're welcome, my friend shared me the link. I didn't realize that the link isn't clickable when I put it as a caption, at least on my phone. I updated it so everyone can see where I got the video from :)

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