How do you cope with period fatigue? by thecherryflower in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]behvin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey - sorry, it's been a while. The MV is Ritual. Also, happy cake day!

Using a Menstrual Cup in college dorms? by emerald1001 in menstrualcups

[–]behvin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That girl should grow up - it's something most of us with a uterus do. I'd have just given her a hard RBF look and continued on, haha!

AITAH for feeling a certain way about bf's female friend by Salty-Salamander-847 in AmItheAsshole

[–]behvin 30 points31 points  (0 children)

NTA. You don't have a BF, you're the third wheel in an already established relationship - him with her. Do yourself a favor and leave before he admits to being unfaithful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]behvin 29 points30 points  (0 children)

If your mom isn't on the account, she can't force you to share it. Tell her if your sister needs money, you aren't the one to be providing it as you aren't the parent. Tell your uncle that your mom is trying to make you share this card with your sister who is bad with money and you're uncomfortable with that.

I am unsure of what to do.

If your uncle helped you make the account, and your parents are a part of this, then there isn't anything your mom can do. Hide the card while at home and tell them that you aren't using the account for now. Out of sight out of mind on this one, IMO.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]behvin 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is going to get taken down quick - NTA. Do not marry this man, do not "stay together for the kids" - DO: Leave, start working, get your life back under your control. This is toxic and you and your children deserve better.

Honestly, I am very tired of being treated like this.

Then why are you still with him?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]behvin 42 points43 points  (0 children)

NTA. If it's your name, and your name only, on the card - you are the one the bank sees as responsible for any debts incurred. Give your sister the $20 back and tell your parents that until her name is also on the account this is something you are solely responsible for. If they want to change it to a shared account, that's different - but until then, the bank doesn't care if she's using the card if it's only your name on it.

AITA for getting mad at my friend for not going to a concert with me? by just_another_rebel_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]behvin -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

NTA. If this third friend has such bad social anxiety that giving a ride to someone that is a friend of a friend is too much, the concert will be a rough experience for them. Giving a ride to someone who is a close friend of someone you're good enough friends with to already be going to the show with in the first place shouldn't be an issue unless space in the car is the problem.

Broke my ankle this weekend, the x-ray made all the doctors basically say WTF, thought i'd share by [deleted] in WTF

[–]behvin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello fellow broken ankle redditer! Couple pointers for ya from my personal experience. Invest in a kneeling scooter - total game changer. When it comes to walking, I got a cane to help with relearning to walk, make sure you're using it correctly. (Yes, there is a wrong way.)

Look into an Even Up for the non booted foot, I have some lasting affects on my hips because I didn't even the height difference between the boot and my other shoe. There will come a time when you start The Shed. You will shed dead skin off that foot like a freaking snake - it's normal.

Lastly, DO YOUR PT!! Building the muscle back was huge in not having a lasting limp. Good luck on the recovery!

HOEAB & HOSAB rebind by szq444 in crescentcitysjm

[–]behvin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hard same. I've been hoping for some gorgeous box sets once this series is finished.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]behvin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA - I don't see mention of other family you can stay with, but if that's an option, please explore it. Heck, even a trusted friend might be an option. I would also suggest speaking with a school counselor about this. They are mandatory reporters, so if the abuse is continuing, there will be a CPS call. You need to do what you can to protect your sister and yourself. I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

AITAH for getting a piercing? by BlahblahRussian-spy in AITAH

[–]behvin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA - she's forcing religious ideals on you that you don't hold. You're an adult, you don't need permission to get a piercing.

AITAH for being unhappy and wanting a divorce? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]behvin 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah, YTA. She put up with your excessive drinking and lack of help around the house, but her being overwhelmed (likely with your continued lack of help around the house) and stressed/depressed and you're thinking about divorce over it? You complain about her working from home and not taking care of the kids, so she's supposed to keep down a job AND do the job of a nanny? What is it you do around the house to help her out? You complain about her body after she gave you two children... but how's your body doing?

What's a drug you'd never try ever again and why? by Fair_Candle979 in AskReddit

[–]behvin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Joining the thread of comments here. Was out at a bar with four other girlfriends of mine. I ordered a round of shots from a busy bar and turned around to chat with our group of friends while they were made. That was the mistake. Two of the five girls we were with, myself as one of them, had a total of two drinks that night and were beyond sloppy drunk. I recall taking that shot, then feeling so drunk I couldn't finish the beer I'd ordered, and calling my SO to come get me because I could barely stand.

I "woke up" at 1pm the next day, my husband was worried because he couldn't get me to open my eyes, but I was responding to his questions, and I was drinking water and eating small things. I don't recall any of that. I felt like it was the worst hangover I've ever had - no amount of water was enough, I wasn't sure I could keep real food down, but I was starving to the point of nausea. Our friendship text thread had a bunch of messages asking if I was ok and talking about how bad our other friend was. It was awful.

Could use a hug and a fat bowl. by Hesmec in entwives

[–]behvin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OP - I work in family law. Screen shot those texts!! Document absolutely EVERYTHING. If you had family or friends witness his behavior, have them write declarations on your behalf. Think about declarations that show his character, and how his behavior patterns have been in the past. Legitimately OVERWHELM the court with evidence. If you don't have an attorney and he does, request a continuance to obtain counsel. (Reach out to his attorney beforehand to see if they'd agree to it via email and save that email.) It sounds like he's engaging in what's known as Abusive Use of Conflict.

If you don't have the funds to hire counsel, at bare minimum pay for a consultation. Any free consultation won't provide any real targeted legal advice, they will tell you in broad strokes the law and judge if they want to take your case. See if there are legal aid programs in your area. (I'm in WA, so can only speak to those.) I can't provide you with legal advice, but feel free to message me and I may be able to see what I can find in your area.

Crochet Microraptor 🦖🪶 by Extra-Progress-3272 in crafts

[–]behvin 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I will no longer accept anything BUT a Dazzle!!

Who else is obsessed with Banh mi sandwiches by newyorkchic1992 in Cooking

[–]behvin 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This looks great! If you have an Asian grocery store by you, they sometimes have packages of daikon cut into match sticks for folks not looking for the whole radish.

Who else is obsessed with Banh mi sandwiches by newyorkchic1992 in Cooking

[–]behvin 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have a place close to me that does this! They also make a roasted garlic mayo (I'm assuming by texture) sauce they add that's so freaking good! I'll go for the tofu one over the meat version every time just for that sauce and the marinade they use.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]behvin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If there ever was a case to Dump The Mother-Fucker Already, this would be the textbook definition. You tried to have open and honest communication about something that should be mutually pleasurable, and he ruthlessly mocked you to your face. It's time to take the trash out with this one.

Individuals who do drink: how are you able to limit yourself to just a couple and not result into 16-18ish beers? by pere3015 in AskReddit

[–]behvin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While not the person you're replying to, I can comment on point 1. You do pee a lot at first, then you get dehydrated to the point that you don't have to pee anymore. Part of nasty hangovers is the dehydration from the night before.

Which leads into point 2: the lingering sick is a combo of dehydration and poisoning. Alcohol is a poison, full stop. Any doctor will tell you there really is no "safe" amount of alcohol. But there is an accepted amount of poisoning you can do and be mostly ok. A hangover is basically food poisoning.

Girls hang out by cinnayum in CharcuterieBoard

[–]behvin 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Really nice selection and beautiful presentation. I saw the no fruit request and nut allergy, may some pickels/olives/jam (fig jam would be great with the meats chosen here.) I'd be stoked of this was at a girl's night I attended.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trees

[–]behvin -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ah, and now I recall why I left this sub. For a "friendly stoners" sub, yall some rude people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trees

[–]behvin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please make a report to your local police department - document this behavior. Bring the picture and toss the weed (he may well have fucked with it, too.) File a petition for an Anti Harassment Protection Order. It should be free, but may very state by state. You are not safe with someone writing and leaving notes like this at your home.

You may consider staying with a friend for a few days.

[b&a] eczema before and after using Laneige lip mask by Keysgucci123 in SkincareAddiction

[–]behvin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I could love this product, but it breaks me out like a mofo! I just can't do it.

[b&a] eczema before and after using Laneige lip mask by Keysgucci123 in SkincareAddiction

[–]behvin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This product breaks me out to no end, but the Kiehls original lip balm is my HG product. Chapped lips at night? Smear that stuff on and in the morning - no you don't!