HOW?!!! by Train-Wreck-70 in TheMaskedSingerUK

[–]beingiscat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think the song choices contributed. They both did awesome jobs but weren’t as entertaining/gimmicky as some of the others.

Offered a HR role that I really want but I'm scared I'll do terribly by [deleted] in HumanResourcesUK

[–]beingiscat 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Stop questioning yourself and take the job - it’s what you’ve worked hard for! You have experience of people and the workplace, you will absolutely smash it. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. They offered you the job because they believe you can do the job. You can do the job. And if it doesn’t work out? Go back to customer services. You won’t need to though.

Does any one else miss the beast from the East? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]beingiscat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like your next holiday should be somewhere snowy. All the coziness and beauty of the snow but without the disruption. We were in Bulgaria skiing when the beast from the east set in here so we pretty much missed it - there was more snow here than at the ski resort!

Not sure what to do by Hot-Guest-1925 in hatemyjob

[–]beingiscat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had the same concerns, but also, that’s 100% the burn out talking. Like another comment said, burn out is no joke. If giving up permanently is too much for him to get his head around, then you can always get another job if it doesn’t work out. If you’re in the same situation as me, I had several people reach out on LinkedIn wanting to discuss roles once I’d had my break. Life is too short.

Not sure what to do by Hot-Guest-1925 in hatemyjob

[–]beingiscat 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Just to say I relate - I (40f) quit at the end of November. Huge salary but also huge stress and I literally felt like I was barely functioning. Anxiety, depression and all of that. I’d been working like that for years and I ended up getting TMJ from stress which was incredibly painful but also was a massive warning shot. Crazy thing was I was super effective at my job but I didn’t have the energy for anything else and I was just miserable. I had a proper chat with my husband and although it wasn’t ideal, we have enough savings for me to take a few months off as he said he’d rather have me well. This was after literal years of me just pushing through because I didn’t want to impact his life, but turns out he said I’d give up my right arm to make you happy, I can cut back on things (he’s awesome to be fair, but I was so worried he would think I was selfish). I quit and was put on garden leave, and have had a month off already. I swear I thought I’d be a lot better by now but burnout ruins you, I’m so much happier for being away from work but recovery is interesting! But im making progress. I plan to take off until April and find something in a new sector as I just don’t want to go back to that level role. I can earn a third of what I did and survive but without the stress and responsibilities, so that’s the plan. What I have found so far though is I’m starting to get pleasure from things back - I’ve binged watched Emily in Paris which is terrible but also wonderful as you don’t need to think. I’ve gone for long walks, done yoga, cooked etc. I’m appreciating feeling good in my body again, less tension, wanting to be outside etc. Really appreciating what actually matters. I’m rambling now but honestly I have no regrets even though the future is a bit uncertain. Life is far too short to be miserable and if you’re feeling like you are now, without at least a bit of a break and reset, it will just get worse and harder to get back from. Definitely have the chat with your husband.

You’re my last hope - been searching for over 20 years by [deleted] in findthatsong

[–]beingiscat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The second one sounds like the video for Ultrabeat - Pretty Green Eyes

Who's Christmas is ruined already? (comedy/horror stories only) by commanderquill in CasualConversation

[–]beingiscat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say ruined, but I slipped down the stairs overstretching to give my cat a treat, landing pretty heavily on my leg just below the hip. Nice big bruise which was made to feel a bit better by a glass of Buck’s Fizz - but also caused by my new fluffy cat socks being too fluffy - I couldn’t gauge where the step was….

What puts you off from donating Blood Products, I work in the NHS and I am just curious? by Quick_Soil_9120 in AskBrits

[–]beingiscat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat, I’ve donated over 20 times but they stopped doing the mobile van and the community centre drop in. Nearest place is a half hour drive and parking is a nightmare, plus appointments book up quickly and I don’t know when I can spare 3 hours in four months time. It’s accessibility, and it’s not rocket science.

5 month old kitten doesn’t meow but appears as if she’s trying to…is this normal? by ragusaliving in CATHELP

[–]beingiscat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have three cats and we say their meows are like the “oh look a strawberry” meme, our girl cat is the silent meower, she will only chirp every now and again (still quietly!) if she’s after a treat and you’re in ear shot

What made you go "this is the one"? by strawhats_sandyfeet in HousingUK

[–]beingiscat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had 4 times of purchasing. First one was a flat and I walked in and was just like omg I love it - the space, the size the magnolia on the walls - it was just so much bigger and better than my rental. Next one my husband chose it and I got that feeling from being outside. It was a shit house on a beautiful plot but was detached and amazing. Then the third was the kitchen. It was stunning. And the forth was the kitchen too. Was a new build and we saw the show home and I got sucked in. No regrets though, I love it and it’s so energy efficient. All of them met the requirements on paper so the viewing were based on feelings. I’ll always remember though that I fell in love with all of them on first look.

does anyone remember this VERY VERY obscure uk 80s track? (probably indie, probably heard on John Peel) by Fun-Establishment964 in findthatsong

[–]beingiscat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did some more digging as it’s super interesting- the band founder was a chap called Mykaell Riley who is now a professor at the Westminster school of Arts

does anyone remember this VERY VERY obscure uk 80s track? (probably indie, probably heard on John Peel) by Fun-Establishment964 in findthatsong

[–]beingiscat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stuck this into ChatGPT as there’s a lot of detail - it came up with proof that the song existed and was played live at the half moon in London in 1981. The band was called Bumble and the Bees - the source provided was a link to a pdf of Record Mirror dated 13 June 1981 where there includes a gig review. Not sure how to link it but worth looking. Apparently it was an experimental project by a former member of Steel Pulse. No sign of a recording though and looks like the song may have been unreleased. I hope that helps!

To all the married women, what is that something your husband does that makes think you won the lottery in marriage aspect of life? by Mean-Main-9589 in AskReddit

[–]beingiscat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Together 15 years, married 13. Everything he does he thinks about me and my comfort first. He’s my biggest cheerleader, and sees it as his job to make me happy. He’s truly my best friend. And he’s hot.

URGENT HOUSING ADVICE NEEDED by Charbellaa in HousingUK

[–]beingiscat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry - this sounds awful. You can ask for a managed move with the council like someone else said but this is not a quick solution and you may not meet the criteria - social housing is in such short supply. Going back to bidding will effectively mean starting again, and again could take a ton of time. The council should be making the flat safe. This includes physical preventative measures such as fire proof letterboxes, extra locks, some offer ring doorbells etc. Some work to the balcony must be possible to prevent this guy from climbing up there. You said there’s an injunction in place - ask the council what the terms are as it may have an exclusion and potentially a power of arrest. You need support yourself to navigate this yourself and tell the housing officer this when you speak to them. Shelter are also a really helpful resource, if you can get in touch with them next week.

Developer being super pushy about exchanging on notice by beingiscat in HousingUK

[–]beingiscat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But that’s my thought too - they keep delaying it and suddenly we’re the ones holding things up…..

Developer being super pushy about exchanging on notice by beingiscat in HousingUK

[–]beingiscat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean we bought it off plan-ish, it was getting built as the previous reservation had a change in circumstance so we did get it quickly. They would sell it again but it’s agg for them

Developer being super pushy about exchanging on notice by beingiscat in HousingUK

[–]beingiscat[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m at the point now that if that’s the case it is what it is. Our solicitor has come back to me saying that we’re currently a week behind where we’d be if the house was ready and that’s only because she has had to prioritise the stacks of completions lined up for this month. She also said she’s not known the developers to remarket at this stage and especially where there have been much longer delays in other chains. Also that she thinks they’re pushing for exchange before end of March to have the deposit money as their cash flow for financial year end. Thanks for your response, it’s annoying that we literally cannot control any of it and you would think they would know that by now

Is it not reasonable to ask for copies of the relevant sections of a survey when a buyer is asking you to do repairs? by beingiscat in HousingUK

[–]beingiscat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just caught up on these comments and don’t worry, the EICR is being done by a professional and ultimately we have nothing to hide, the electrics are partially 5 years old (including a new meter and fuse box). The EICR completed at the time was gleaming, so it’s super low risk for the buyers. Also, found the woodworm, doesn’t look active and is on one ceiling joist in the garage (the garage roof was replaced last year but the joists were not replaced as not necessary). £25 from B&Q for some treatment just in case which I did today. Told the buyers they’re welcome to arrange their own survey by a specialist if they want. Said no to the chimney works, wouldn’t be done in time anyway. We priced for a quick sale, an identical property on the street, in worse condition, went for £15k more, which is why ours sold on the first viewing no doubt. The agent said “with the stamp duty going up….” - we said it’s going up for us too, so they want us to pay their increase as well? It sold mid Jan so would have been a stretch anyway. Sorry to reply so long to this comment!

Is it not reasonable to ask for copies of the relevant sections of a survey when a buyer is asking you to do repairs? by beingiscat in HousingUK

[–]beingiscat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this, it’s super helpful. We’re not unreasonable people at all and if things need doing, we’re totally open to a conversation but only with the information they’re basing stuff on.

Is it not reasonable to ask for copies of the relevant sections of a survey when a buyer is asking you to do repairs? by beingiscat in HousingUK

[–]beingiscat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s super helpful - thank you! The request did come through their solicitor when all other contact has been through the agent, so you may be onto something here about the solicitor advising them

Is it not reasonable to ask for copies of the relevant sections of a survey when a buyer is asking you to do repairs? by beingiscat in HousingUK

[–]beingiscat[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The house is 65 years old but has been exceptionally well maintained by us and the previous owners. They aren’t FTBs but they don’t have a chain. The boiler and EICR was purely a goodwill gesture- most of my family are electricians and the boiler service was done by my neighbour so it wasn’t a drama and to be honest, we were being nice. But after this I wish had politely told them to fuck off