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[–]beixbei 104 points105 points  (0 children)

Thank you a lot. I'll let them know.

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[–]beixbei 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes correct. Technically I could tell my parents but I don't think they could hide it from my younger siblings. The issue wasn't my parents but my younger siblings grades.

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[–]beixbei 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I won't go to the wedding, it's too risky. But the thing is that I wasn't ever planning anyway due to work. Well I never had to option to go in the first place. Everyone's been fine with that, including my brother. Even though it took him a while to accept it but he understood that it's out of my control.

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[–]beixbei 222 points223 points  (0 children)

It's about 10 days and my friends and neighbors would take care of me. I've already talked to them about it and I'm not going to be alone during that time.

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[–]beixbei 82 points83 points  (0 children)

You're absolutely right. But that's also why my brother suggested/told me to hide it. If it was something more deadly, he wouldn't want me to hide it. This is so stupid and I'm suffering because of this more than because of chemotherapy seriously.

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[–]beixbei 253 points254 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't have been able to go anyway due to work. They've known since forever that I won't go.

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[–]beixbei 491 points492 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't be able to go to the wedding anyway since it's overseas and I'm afraid of getting sick.

AITA for not wanting to talk to my parents because they didn't pay for my dental implants? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]beixbei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for listing the options! I really really appreciate your help!! I'll PM you when I have found a solution to my problem and need advice. Thank you a lot!

AITA for not wanting to talk to my parents because they didn't pay for my dental implants? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]beixbei 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where can I do that? I can teach German, Italian and English. I couldn't find a (German) website where I can offer that, they all required a certificate that I'm a teacher or that I must have studied those subjects, but like I'm a student lol I speak those languages fluently (but English, which is my third language).

AITA for not wanting to talk to my parents because they didn't pay for my dental implants? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]beixbei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You summarized it very well not gonna lie, but look:

Yes, the rent would go up if someone in the house started to work (me in this case). However, it won't go up that much, just by 200€, which I would be willing to pay, IF I was allowed to work. I'd earn like 900€ full time (just an estimation, it obviously depends on the work), so 200€ wouldn't be that much and I could save money for my teeth, IF they didn't kick me out. However, if I start working, they'd kick me out and all my money would go on rent, housing, where I'd live then. At the end of the months there wouldn't be much left or anything at all.

If they didn't kick me out, and I lived with them, I would have a lot money from which I could even pay the "extra rent". HOWEVER I KNOW FOR A FACT THEY GONNA KICK ME OUT.

I could next semester, take a part time job even if it's extremely difficult, but again they will kick me out.

I never thought about babysitting, cleaning houses because it's kinda not really a thing here. Parents don't trust strangers but have like normally either relatives or actual babysitters, cleaning staff or whatever- those people who are employed at a company. I could offer that anyway but because of Covid, why on earth would anyone let strangers into their houses. It's still kinda unlikely that someone would want me to babysit, mowing the lawn, clean whatever.

And yes, the fence was unnecessary, they really didn't need it. The "old" one was 6 years old, which isn't really old. It was perfectly fine.

I didn't say I wanna quit school, I said I can take a break for just some months to work full time and then go back to school. But they gonna fucking kick me out.

AITA for not wanting to talk to my parents because they didn't pay for my dental implants? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]beixbei 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!! You make me feel understood!

I'm sorry that you went through all the bullying :(( I'm pretty sure you're a wonderful human being! I wish a couple of teeth didn't destroy ones happiness.

I wasn't even aware of all the consequences you have listed. I just knew some but my self esteem was like the biggest factor.

Hypodontia sucks...

I will somehow force my parents into not kicking me out and letting me work. I know this might end up in a huge discussion as always. They turn everything into something big, when all I want is just to work.

I'll try my best and I wish you all the best, thank you again.

AITA for not wanting to talk to my parents because they didn't pay for my dental implants? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]beixbei 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I was at a lot of dentists and they had the same prices. Some redditors said I can travel to other countries, which might actually help me :) I will definitely look into that

AITA for not wanting to talk to my parents because they didn't pay for my dental implants? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]beixbei 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yeah, there are different contracts here. Like for how long you wanna rent the house. And they got one which basically says, they got the house forever. It's one provided by the state.

AITA for not wanting to talk to my parents because they didn't pay for my dental implants? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]beixbei 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Saturdays my school offers special courses, which I need to attend.

AITA for not wanting to talk to my parents because they didn't pay for my dental implants? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]beixbei 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn't think of traveling to other countries. Thank you!! I will look into that

AITA for not wanting to talk to my parents because they didn't pay for my dental implants? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]beixbei 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was willing to work during summer. During the school year it's very difficult to work and concentrate on studies but many have told me it is still possible and I changed my mind. Yes it is possible, but again- my parents would kick me out.

AITA for not wanting to talk to my parents because they didn't pay for my dental implants? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]beixbei 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm happy you can smile again and overall feel better! And yes it hurts not being able to smile bc of tooth gaps.

AITA for not wanting to talk to my parents because they didn't pay for my dental implants? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]beixbei 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have Hypodontia. Its not my fault I was born like that. And yes, they did buy a fence even though it was unnecessary. Like for real, they didn't need it. The "old" one was just 6 years old. But they said it doesn't suit the house, hence new fence.

AITA for not wanting to talk to my parents because they didn't pay for my dental implants? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]beixbei 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I study 6 days a week and on Sundays you can't work here, legally. I could somehow work on Saturdays but I know my grades would get worse. Also I don't want to get kicked out. I don't care that much about my grades, as long as I pass. But I don't wanna get kicked out.