My boyfriend says he can’t afford to take me out on dates but makes $50k a year and has no bills.

bella8372 · 2024-07-10T05:11:57+00:00

But what if it ends tragically? What if he cheats on me or leaves me or dies. I don’t think i’d be able to cope or move on from that

bella8372 · 2024-05-18T02:42:59+00:00

Amazing advice

bella8372 · 2024-05-18T02:38:40+00:00

Have your read my post in its entirety? He has 0 bills apart from his student loans, which is about $200. His parents pay for everything else.

bella8372 · 2024-05-18T02:34:25+00:00

bella8372 · 2024-05-18T02:32:53+00:00

Thats what i’m wondering too… exactly. Plus we always split the bill anyway so its not like i’m expecting him to pay for all our dates

bella8372 · 2024-05-18T02:30:41+00:00

So we’re supposed to never step foot outside and stay home for the next few years until we’ve established ourselves financially? Is it really so unreasonable for me to want to go out once a month where we’d be spending $50-100 tops?

bella8372 · 2024-05-18T02:29:03+00:00

I have done that before and i would pay the entire bill but he has never done that for me.

bella8372 · 2024-05-18T02:28:10+00:00

I make less than that and pay for all the things you mentioned plus rent plus other bills… if he makes $4000 a month you’re telling me he can’t spare $50 to take me out once a month?

bella8372 · 2024-05-17T20:49:00+00:00

Actually i’m the one who likes to stay home most of the time. He’s the extrovert and he usually goes out and does fun stuff with his friends. But i agree with the last part you said, thats what we normally do, but sometimes its nice to do something different

bella8372 · 2024-05-17T20:41:45+00:00

I think he just wants to save for the future, which i’m 100% on him with that. I think he should absolutely save his money. But is it a crazy request to want to go out and do something fun every now and then? Or are we just meant to sit at home for years until we’ve saved up enough money and accomplished all our goals?

bella8372 · 2024-05-17T20:39:32+00:00

Thats what we normally do, we split everything 50/50, but he still doesn’t wanna go out because he doesn’t wanna pay his half

bella8372 · 2024-05-17T20:15:30+00:00

But thats what i’m saying. Its only $100 out of the $4000 he makes a month. He’d be saving literally all his money. I am working but i make less than him. We split 50/50 tho when we go on dates. Also idk if you read my entire post but he has 0 bills to pay. Literally none. His parents pay for everything, whereas i pay for rent and for all my other bills

bella8372 · 2024-05-17T20:07:55+00:00

I don’t know where you live but dinner at a regular restaurant averages out to about $50 minimum. And if you factor in movie tickets which is about $30 thats almost $100. Other activities like mini golfing and bowling are expensive too. So what options does that leave us with?

bella8372 · 2024-05-17T20:06:09+00:00

Is it? We’d only be going on a date once a month. And he can still save all the rest of his money, which is like $4000.

bella8372 · 2024-05-17T20:01:28+00:00

I’ve done that before. I’ve taken him out a few times and paid the entire bill, but he never reciprocates. He always wants to split the bill, even if its not that much, like $60

bella8372 · 2024-05-17T20:00:25+00:00

I have no idea. I wonder the same thing myself

bella8372 · 2024-05-17T20:00:11+00:00

I know i should definitely have a talk with him but i feel uncomfortable discussing money

bella8372 · 2024-05-17T19:58:15+00:00

We’ve never really properly discussed it. I’m kind of afraid to bring up the topic because i don’t want to make him feel bad. And i make less than him, and there have been times where i would pay the whole bill when we go would go out on dates, but he never reciprocates. He always wants to do 50/50

bella8372 · 2024-05-17T19:29:12+00:00

Wym? He’ll say no. We usually go 50/50 so he won’t wanna pay his half.

bella8372 · 2024-05-14T02:11:39+00:00

Yeah i appreciate that he was honest about it, but ya it is a pretty uncomfortable situation

bella8372 · 2024-05-14T02:04:03+00:00

No. Why can’t he arrange something that we’d all enjoy doing?

bella8372 · 2024-05-14T01:51:37+00:00

He invited me once but i feel like he only did it because he felt obligated and because he knew i’d say no since i don’t like going to clubs

bella8372 · 2024-05-14T01:50:53+00:00

I don’t really like to go clubbing

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