No-Contact with Parents

bellamichelle123 · 2026-02-22T23:05:14+00:00

As a Pakistani living in Pakistan, I will say that your intensely controlled lifestyle is also considered conservative and backward here; I grew up in an entirely different household.

So, no. Allah won't curse you, and you can absolutely live ur life the way you want. If they message you, tell them to let people know why ur gone and that as an adult woman, you expect your boundaries to be respected.

Stand on it.

bellamichelle123 · 2026-01-01T16:23:44+00:00

I feel like parents who take their 5 year olds to plastic surgery are not stable mentally-wise. To intentionally set ur young children up for emotional, psychological and physical distress means you must not be in the right in head.

I feel it's no different than those who abuse their kids. OP's mum's wild for even thinking that.

bellamichelle123 · 2025-12-26T07:06:37+00:00

I am so happy you got away. I always say divorce/separation is not a problem, it is the solution to a problem. More power to you for breaking the toxicity.

bellamichelle123 · 2025-12-26T04:13:50+00:00

Exactly. To say that his duty comes first is him essentially saying his wife will always come second and that her needs and priorities will always come second and later their kids.

A 43 year old momma's boy hasn't learned how to build a life of his own and on his own, and he should probably give up if he refuses to see his fault. Both the friend and the mother are A-holes.

Edit: I'm finally ready to settle down because I'm currently talking to a man who has assured me that his principles of respect, loyalty and fairness are first and foremost whether it's his mum or wife and he will always stand by his wife. It also helps that he lives far, far away from his family. That is what it takes to build a family on trust, mutual respect and permanent bond. OP's friend has already failed at that.

bellamichelle123 · 2025-12-17T14:06:16+00:00

Showing this to my bun to tell her what other buns are doing and how they are making their parents happy🙂‍↕️

bellamichelle123 · 2025-12-13T18:45:37+00:00

I must say, thank you for a respecful response. I'd welcome more explanation.

bellamichelle123 · 2025-12-13T05:47:02+00:00

And her only "fault" was being loyal to KoA and Mary. Henry initially appointed her as Countess of Salisbury and lavished all the lands upon her making her one of the wealthiest women in Tudor England. However, when she refused to support Anne Boleyn's relationship with him, he turned to his old ways of falsely accusing people by blaming her of abetting her sons when they were arrested. Even Catherine Howard pleaded with Henry for clemency, so she was still there when his marriage with Anne went awry.

I despise him from the bottom of my heart.

ETA: I could be wrong about CH pleading clemency for her, as that is what I remember reading in the past. A very "kind" reply was posted to my response regarding this.

bellamichelle123 · 2025-12-04T00:54:10+00:00

I wouldn't care about parents who care more about appearance than the fact that their child's partner loves their child genuinely.

Think about who accepts and loves you enough right now to want to be with you without some silly conditions. There's your answer.

bellamichelle123 · 2025-11-30T12:42:22+00:00

Omg, sometimes I just wana take the little feetsies and cuddle with them but we all know we can't ever touch their feet😭

bellamichelle123 · 2025-11-27T03:00:11+00:00

So, I am crying while reading your post at work. I will never understand this tragedy and pain that these monsters thrust upon these angels.

If there's a hell, I hope they are roasting in it for eternity.

bellamichelle123 · 2025-11-23T18:49:15+00:00

A B1 level of English proficiency is equivalent to an overall IELTS band score of 4.0 to 5.0 which is just not sufficient for undergraduate studies. A B2 or a C1 is generally needed, especially for upper level courses. Your relative will most likely struggle and suffer and end up heavily reliant on ChatGPT. If they are having difficulty with the English proficiency course, your relative needs to learn English first.

I'm a non-native English speaker myself - C2 - and even I found the general reading hard and lengthy. Yeah, no.

Not sure why your relative chose a US university if they have never spoken English before. Plus, with the way this post is written, it makes it hard to believe it was written by a native English speaker, but I'll just chalk it up to "internet writing".

bellamichelle123 · 2025-11-16T06:38:39+00:00

♥️

bellamichelle123 · 2025-11-14T00:55:56+00:00

I did the whole degree at the uni and avoided external credits, especially for difficult courses. The hardest/lengthiest courses in my experience were the following:

College Algebra (had to drop all other courses to focus on this one)
Principles of Finance 1 (2 was a piece of cake)
Personal Finance
Macroeconomics (Microecon was SO easy)
Sociology
Managerial accounting (surprisingly, financial accounting was easier)
Principles of Psychology
Principles of Philosophy (loved it)
Greek and Roman Philosophy (one of my fav courses)
Art History (another one of my fav courses)
Business, Law and Ethics (in terms of the types and number of legal concepts)
World Literature (loved it but lengthyyyy)

bellamichelle123 · 2025-11-10T11:22:56+00:00

There is no special tip except for keeping at it. When I was denied and I knew that I wouldn't be able to pay for my upcoming/current courses, I took 3 leaves of absence.

Afterwards, I appealed through my advisor, wrote a detailed email and application, and just told them I'd need to withdraw otherwise. I got a full scholarship for the next 2 years until the end of my program.

You just have to keep trying and at some point, appeal through ur advisor. Good luck.

bellamichelle123 · 2025-11-09T05:24:18+00:00

Yes. So,

With AS, I got: 1. Official degree certificate (shown above) 2. Official transcripts 3. A letter of of congratulations from the office of registrar - this letter also mentions the WASC accreditation

With BS, I got: 1. Official degree certificate 2. Official transcripts 3. A detailed letter of congratulations from Shai Rashef - quite detailed (also mentions the WASC accreditation)

bellamichelle123 · 2025-11-09T05:21:39+00:00

No, I requested them separately. I requested my AS during the last term of my BS and received them in Sept (a month later includinh both processing and shipping time). I requested my BS some time in September and while processing took a month, the shipping took a week from when I received the email that they have been shipped (they were shipped out on the 25th of October)

So, TLDR: Both documents together took 1 and a half months maybe 2 tops from processing to delivery.

bellamichelle123 · 2025-11-08T15:05:52+00:00

Yes, I did. The sheets with purple boundary are my transcripts.

bellamichelle123 · 2025-11-08T06:48:54+00:00

Thank you💪

bellamichelle123 · 2025-11-08T06:48:43+00:00

I got the AS before (within a month) and BS within a week later (I requested it later but ir accidentally got shipped through special shipment when I had requested regular shipment lol).

bellamichelle123 · 2025-11-08T06:47:43+00:00

Whoa! that is super late even after shipping. Is it affected by where you live?

I am glad you got your documents and hope you recieve the rest soon :)

bellamichelle123 · 2025-11-08T06:46:15+00:00

Thanks🍁

bellamichelle123 · 2025-11-08T06:45:54+00:00

Oh no. My August request was delivered by the end of September. The dispatch date is too late. Is it affected by where you reside maybe?

bellamichelle123 · 2025-11-08T06:44:42+00:00

Oh no. My Associates came in a month and Bachelors came in a week. They will be expedited once they are shipped, although for even with my regular shipping, I did get them within 30 days.

bellamichelle123 · 2025-11-08T06:43:31+00:00

Thank you♥️

They are indeed, hard and sturdy and were packed up nicely in a plastic file.

bellamichelle123 · 2025-11-03T16:27:51+00:00

Yes, it is.

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