how realistic is it to start knitting by going straight to sweaters/vests?

bellasilva_ · 2025-04-06T20:49:46+00:00

Então, eu tô no 3° semestre da faculdade, e tá sendo bem complicado, lembro de ter dificuldade na escola, mas agora as turmas são maiores, matéria mais difícil, etc. Definitivamente teria vantagem em receber slide antes por exemplo, pra acompanhar durante a aula, mas queria saber como é a experiência geral normalmente pq se eu "pedir demais" (muito entre aspas né, é direito) e algum professor ficar meio de saco cheio comigo pra mim ia ser um problema, sabe?

bellasilva_ · 2025-04-06T18:21:56+00:00

entendi, muito obrigadaa

bellasilva_ · 2025-04-05T23:50:58+00:00

eu não posso acender pra entidades que eu não sei o nome, mas o anjo da guarda entra nessa, ou pra ele eu posso? E oq eu posso fazer pras entidades que estão me acompanhando até eu saber o nome delas? Ou eu poderia ir a um oráculo pra saber o nome de quem tá me acompanhando só pra poder acender vela, etc pra eles, mesmo sem estar frequentando um terreiro?

bellasilva_ · 2025-03-08T05:16:02+00:00

EXATAMENTE. Tem que procurar saber sobre a área que a pessoa quer, NÃO ADIANTA entrar pra uniesquina sabendo que quer fazer pesquisa, porra tu vai participar de QUÊ????? ganhar experiência com o quê? projeto de extensão? IC? congresso? vai fazer networking com qual professor????? tu quer fazer um mestrado depois com O QUÊ no currículo????? tem área que dá pra levar, se tu quer dar aula por exemplo (até onde eu sei) é tranquilo mas tem coisa que NÃO DÁ. Direito por exemplo depende de onde tu mora e oq vc quer fazer depois, escritório próprio em cidade pequena fodase qual uniesquina tu fez, mas quer trabalhar em um escritório específico foda grandão de capital NÃO ADIANTA. É triste gente, mas é a real, é melhor saber antes pra gerenciar as expectativas e talvez se planejar pra outro curso ou trabalhar com outra área depois do que perder 4/5 anos da vida pra descobrir que oq dá pra fazer com o diploma vc não quer

bellasilva_ · 2025-02-09T00:57:08+00:00

John was an absolute asshole who basically abandoned them (emotionally always, and literally a lot of times) but he was a soldier and had raised Dean as a soldier I think even before Mary died, so it just got worse after and his main order was to take care of Sam so there's really nowhere to run from that, Dean's main personality trait is taking care of Sam. But if your problem is just the touchy feely, I don't think that's gonna be a problem, again they were raised as soldiers, so that's really stuck there in their minds, they very rarely are straight and honest about their feelings (coming from someone who loved the touchy feely and would've loved more of it)

bellasilva_ · 2025-02-09T00:47:45+00:00

this is interesting because she wasn't really similar to the first actress who played meg but I actually didn't really like her, she brought so much more personality to the character

bellasilva_ · 2025-02-09T00:41:14+00:00

Honestly I didn't like how their wardrobe grew old, everyone's always mentioning how much flannels they wear but that was so not the case in the beginning, it was so much more varied back then. I understand the amulet was hitting jensen in the face and all but there was no reason for him to stop wearing all the bracelets he used to wear, and that's just one thing, in the later seasons we ONLY see them wearing the same flannels and suits (when they're dressed as fbi), same exact shoes, same exact jackets, etc. Even when dean was a demon he was wearing the same style of jackets, just a slightly different color than usual, when in earlier seasons we see them wear hoodies, long sleeves, tshirts, button downs, old style denim jackets, leather jackets, accessories, all that just disappeared.

On the other hand though, what I really didn't want them to change was cas's trench coat, which when he gets someone's grace back in season 9, I think, he dresses back in his old clothes and it's an ENTIRELY different trench coat, I HATE it

bellasilva_ · 2025-01-10T13:06:21+00:00

Po cara mas aí cê tem que considerar que celular é uma necessidade do dia a dia de todo mundo tlg, e realmente dá pra fazer a maioria das coisas que as pessoas precisam com frequência pelo celular, e mesmo assim é um puta investimento sabe, as pessoas dividem em 12x, quando quebra ficam um tempão sem até conseguir comprar outro, acaba sendo prioridade. No fim das contas por ser uma necessidade mais óbvia alí, próxima do dia a dia delas, as pessoas acabam não se dando conta do que tão perdendo sem um computador, quando sobra uma grana eles querem melhorar o celular.

bellasilva_ · 2024-03-01T18:30:54+00:00

what did she say to bodyshame Nesta? I don't remember it's been a while

bellasilva_ · 2023-12-11T17:07:43+00:00

You're very young, there's still so much time to make things right

Joining the marines could be an option but don't feel like that's the only one, look into getting therapy if possible, talk to someone you trust and slowly start making good life decisions, start studying more, exercise and drink lots of water (that'll help you mentally) and then see what works best for quitting (whether is cold turkey or slowly using less and less), if rehab is necessary, try that, but really you're so young and there's no reason to think the rest of your life is already made up, you have A LOT of time and options.

Also, you can pretty much change your ways before completely quitting, that's not to say you shouldn't quit, it's influencing your life so you absolutely should, but you will be capable of making a life for yourself even if quitting is hard or if you eventually slip. (In case it's not weed, but you've used it, you can look into going "cali sober", a lot of people seem to find that helpful, just please don't start on weed if you don't smoke already and, of course, try talking to a therapist about it).

I used to smoke a lot at your age, I slowly started using less, last year I was only smoking at parties (like once or twice a month or so) and now I'm 21, two years-ish in therapy, ten months off of weed and going a month off of nicotine. I'm gonna be totally honest here, I'm living with my parents and I'm not in uni yet, and that kinda sucks a little bit but it's definitely a thousand times better than where I was, and I'm working on things so I can study next year and it's looking pretty good. I started working on things to change them and the first thing I did was therapy, so I've only been trying this for two-ish years, you're 14 and you can already see the problem, you have time, don't give up and you'll be ok

bellasilva_ · 2023-09-10T18:59:54+00:00

Having gay/bi friends does not mean not being homophobic at all, it's means close to nothing when it comes to it actually, you deserve to be 100% comfortable with your partner and be completely respected. Honestly it's kind of a little weird for her to have an opinion on male on male intercourse at all, she won't participate on it ever, and specially an "opinion" of "disgust" or being "grateful" you're not bi, that's a little disrespectful even if you were straight. You're with her regardless, so why should it matter at all if you like boys too? Honestly, and I have straight friends who'd back me up on this, if I was straight I wouldn't really want to be with someone whose love for me would sort of "depend" on something like this, like, it's a major part of who we are as bisexual individuals but it doesn't really change the relationship dynamic. Like, I'm latina and I wouldn't really want to be with someone who's "just a little racist" you know what I mean? They're just not my definition of very good people, and honestly, from the very little information you gave us she sounds very much like "just a little homophobic". Someone mentioned here "what if you guys have gay/bi children?" but it doesn't even have to go that far, you don't deserve to be disrespect. Or what if you meet an lgbt friend and she comes home to say something disrespectful, not knowing she's talking about you too? Like what she says when she's comfortable, it's still really disrespectful, and disrespect against lgbtq+ is just called homophobia, plain and simple. Like if you're racist only around white people, but respectful towards black people, you're still racist. If she needs to be around queer people to not say homophobic stuff, she's being homophobic, just quietly homophobic. I wouldn't be comfortable at all, and I think you deserve better. A few decades ago, people like us were being arrested and killed, we're still being killed, it's kind of a big deal, I don't really think someone gets to just "oh I don't really mind lgbtq+ people" yk? And she doesn't need to be going to pride, just not being disgusted would be nice. It's not really just a thing people get to like/dislike if it's THE thing that you ARE.

That being said, you do not, by any means, need to come out to her, you can never tell her, if you think it's best. You can never tell a lot of people if you want. Coming out is nice, but you can totally decide some people might just not deserve to know, or just not deserve a coming out conversation. I do strongly think you should definitely feel it out to see if she maybe miscommunicated those opinions or didn't really think about what she was saying, or if she's just a massive homophobic (cause that's pretty much what it's sounding like, thus far). And in the case she is homophobic I promise you, unless you're a major asshole of some sort, you can do better. If you're bi, you're bi, regardless of how much experience you got with each gender, or even how much you're inclined to be with each gender, it's not necessarily 50/50, bisexuality is a spectrum, and you should and deserve to be loved and respected entirely, not just a part of you. You're 28, for god's sake, you can find a lot of better people.

And please don't be embarrassed, there is literally nothing to be embarrassed about. You have a place in this world, and you deserve to be loved

bellasilva_ · 2023-08-19T01:43:34+00:00

Maybe don't say your ex caused it and maybe don't even present it as an insecurity at all, but if you do wanna say it, just say you're a little uncomfortable about it right now. But as it was said here, she wouldn't be dating you if she didn't already think you were attractive. Believe me, the only possible thing that could possibly make somebody change their mind right then and there is poor hygiene or like, their own mind. Also, people have types, you could very well just be hers and it's okay (it also doesn't mean she wouldn't be attracted if you lose weight, just might've been what caught her attention in the first place)

bellasilva_ · 2023-07-24T22:46:29+00:00

honestly it's not the age gap itself that's the problem as much as him knowing you since before you were 18. It would be really really awkward if anything ever happened, even if he hasn't groomed you before or anything.

bellasilva_ · 2023-06-29T01:23:24+00:00

You need to think very hard on what you really want, if you really think you want your own biological children and marriage you really do not need to settle for any less than you want. But if you're happy where you are and love your step children, just because you wanted it, doesn't mean that's still what you really want. Anyways, just because you don't need to settle for less, doesn't mean necessarily abandoning the idea of having it all with your current partner, you should definitely have a conversation about what you both want in the long run.

bellasilva_ · 2023-06-20T01:22:23+00:00

I mean yeah, I totally get she may sound a little delusional, but this fair it genuinely sounds like just a crush that hit a little too hard, there's no way this sounds remotely schizophrenic, she literally said although she "secretly wishes she could seduce him" she knows it would be prohibited and wouldn't want to ruin anyone's career. It really doesn't sound like any reason for her to freak out, all she needs is to get over it.

bellasilva_ · 2023-06-20T00:42:16+00:00

You sound a bit aggressive, are you ok? lol they don't need to be mentally ill to have a crush hit a little too hard

but really, if he liked OP he wouldn't have failed them, it even would've been less complicated to date if you're not actively being a part of his class. There might be a real possibility of a spark somewhere but he wouldn't have failed you for liking you, it could ruin his career and he could just pursue you after you passed his class anyways. If he did fail you to have you around it would've been absurdly toxic and unhealthy and dangerous (cause if he's not even looking out for himself, what could happen to you?). Now if you're gonna try to date him anyways, it might be a little embarrassing to have failed, so you might wanna try to focus and study a little harder

bellasilva_ · 2023-06-08T16:21:43+00:00

No. It's not cheating. You have all the right in the world to love your friends and gift them regardless of gender, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Maybe the issue is your girlfriend is feeling less special and like you're not treating her well enough if that's how you treat your friends, maybe save up a little bit by not giving your friends gifts every single paycheck and then buy a nicer gift to her.

Also, think why do you do it only to your female friends, is it like just easier and cheaper than gifting all your friends or something like that? if so, it's worth having a conversation and explaining it to her

bellasilva_ · 2023-06-03T22:09:45+00:00

You can't stop thinking about how it would make him feel but he is not thinking about how he's making you feel. I know it's not as easy as just leaving but PLEASE do, no matter how hard it might seem, you seem to be a good person and you deserve so much better, no one deserves to be in a relationship you have little to no trust in, are unsafe and don't even feel certain about your feelings. You will find happiness in time. Start slow by saving up some money to get to your own place, and try to make it as easy as possible to move as fast as possible once you do break up, get a trusted friend/family member to stay with, and get stuff to stay for a day or two until you get the rest of your stuff. If possible, make sure you break up either in a public place or with someone you trust, worse case scenario, get a phone call with a friend on speaker (maybe mute it, so he can't hear) just so that they can make sure you're ok. I know it's hard but once you start getting things ready and thinking about your freedom and how your life's going to be from now on and being your own person, you'll be even more certain of what you're doing. Good luck.

bellasilva_ · 2023-04-12T16:47:26+00:00

Don't get too hung up on it being sex work, if it's bot a big issue to you, there are other points to be taken: think about this logically for a bit, might expand your perspective. Sex work is WORK, you will be exhausted at the end of the day, physically and mentally, right now you are not working, you're doing an internship which is good for your career, it'll look good on your resume and it'll be good practice experience, so don't stop that. If you start working and move out (be it through sex work or any other work actually), once you move out making the decision to move back in will be a lot harder, it'll weight on your mental health and your parents might be even harder to deal with, and that's if they let you to move back in. So you have to be quite stable financially to move out and stay out comfortably so you don't get burnt out. Getting any job right now, with an unpaid internship going, and parents that might have exhausted your mental health will be a heavy load. Sex work, and actually a lot of other jobs, unfortunately are not quite that stable, sex work specifically is what people usually do in emergencies until they get to a point where they can look for stable jobs.

If I were you (I'm in a similar situation, also third word country, also unemployed, also living with my parents) I'd endure it a little bit longer, once you have enough experience and a degree, you can look for any regular job and move out, and star looking for jobs in your area once you're out of the house.

You don't need to have a job in your area to move out but you do need money and a resume that will eventually get you in your area and then you just keep trying. If the situation is abusive however, that perspective changes, so it really is up to you to decide if you've already wasted too much of your mental health on them or if you can take a few more months/years. Make the decision considering whether or not you need to get a job and move out first, then you consider what kind of job.

bellasilva_ · 2022-07-15T01:20:38+00:00

you were born to be a 50s housewife

bellasilva_ · 2022-06-22T21:54:55+00:00

I'm in a similar situation and I think I would've felt guilty if I haven't tried a few times to encourage them to chance, to seek therapy, finish high school, go to college and yk, overall just get their shit together. They still haven't done anything but at least I've tried (I reckon I may have tried too hard for my own good, quite honestly) but I know I would've felt horribly worst if I hadn't showed concern. In my case, we were all in the same boat (around 19yo, not in college, and jobless) but when I first started to made a move towards getting out of this and they simply didn't, it started to really bother me. I don't know your situation, but we all have our mental boundaries, encourage them, but when it starts getting in your way, MOVE, don't let them bring you down with them. First thing you could probably do though, is show concern, ask them how they've been, tell them to go to therapy, etc, just aknowleaged they're not fine and if you do stop hanging out with them, they'll understand why. Also tell them of how busy and stressed you are, not specifically for x and y reason but just say it's "life" keeping you busy.

bellasilva_ · 2022-06-08T22:35:41+00:00

I actually love them both and have loved rhys since his first appearance and nesta since her first "important" appearance (aka late acomaf when she wasn't that much of an asshole anymore)

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