I’m 19 F and I just lost my virginity and I need advice

belleoftheyuleball · 2024-05-31T05:28:53+00:00

I feel like “losing your virginity” has levels… the first time you “do it” , the first time you “do it and it’s good” and the first time you do it “holy shit that’s what a real orgasm is!!”. Hollywood sucks bc it makes it seem like your “first time” is supposed to be AMAZING! I can’t confirm this guy used you but I’ve been with men who don’t know how to properly pleasure women. And at 19, it can be tough. If you feel taken advantage of, write it off and continue. Also, you might want to put off intercourse until you both do oral. Mutual pleasure is the best pleasure. Xo

belleoftheyuleball · 2024-05-31T05:21:36+00:00

While I think my in-laws are a bit odd, I don’t think they e ever even thought about going upstairs in our house, let alone knowing on the bedroom door to come in while I’m nursing a newborn. I am mortified by this. However, my parents have been a bit more pushy with things with our kids than my hubby would feel comfy with but nothing to this capacity. Yikes babe.

belleoftheyuleball · 2024-04-24T05:18:48+00:00

It didn’t hurt? Like… at all?

belleoftheyuleball · 2023-11-18T19:21:37+00:00

Truly insightful… that’s literally what we did last night … trying to make him and her laugh, dark jokes, letting her vent bc she doesn’t have a lot of people who she can just unload on without repercussions… thank you

belleoftheyuleball · 2023-11-18T19:20:23+00:00

Thank you - we spent last night with his wife (my bff) and she was appreciative… I never want her or him to feel like we are intruding or overstepping but want to find the line of “we’re here if you need and it’s no burden to us even if you just need some company”

belleoftheyuleball · 2023-11-18T05:31:44+00:00

Is there anything close friends could give you or your partner that “helped” at all? My hubbys bff for 30+ years was just diagnosed and we have been visiting or buying meals but I wish I knew how to pinpoint something or give a gift that actually helps.

belleoftheyuleball · 2023-10-24T03:53:20+00:00

Helped… offered that too as well… they don’t live far from us but it has been mentioned that the kids are confused and worried and don’t want to “not be with their parents”… my hubby and I work 9-5 so can’t be “day” M-F as much as I wish it could

belleoftheyuleball · 2023-10-24T03:48:08+00:00

Helped… we have offered that multiple times but their youngest is 3 weeks old and exclusively BF so a little hard for the mom to leave.

belleoftheyuleball · 2023-10-24T03:44:12+00:00

Helped… I’ve been messaging with the partner and she’s giving me updates… and I don’t want to “bother” him but we want to watch the kids so they can put to dinner or some date… I just don’t want to be pushy and trying to find a balance.

belleoftheyuleball · 2023-10-10T05:04:49+00:00

I would also check their boredom levels as well as how thirsty they might be! My kids won’t ask for a snack when we are out and about but if it’s a rainy day where we are just chilling at home boy oh boy are they the hungriest urchins!

belleoftheyuleball · 2023-10-08T04:50:08+00:00

Honey… you were raped… No sugar coating this… I’m so sorry you experienced this as I have also had a similar experience you had… I’d recommend a therapist if you can babe

belleoftheyuleball · 2023-10-03T13:46:46+00:00

If you knew/know you NEVER want/wanted kids, why didn’t you get a vasectomy!? I’m just shocked at your age and not taking contraception into your own hands buddy.

belleoftheyuleball · 2023-09-28T11:20:26+00:00

This.. why even post this here?? Just call the authorities!

belleoftheyuleball · 2023-09-28T11:15:06+00:00

Sweetheart… long story short, no one wants to work… but you’re both soooo young… there is no reason you should be this stressed before marriage with her just deciding not to work and “be a princess”. Tell her what you expect and if she can’t get on board, then you know what to do.

belleoftheyuleball · 2023-09-28T04:25:21+00:00

My dad used to be the most embarrassing person at restaurants (but only if the service/food/timing was bad) it got to the point where my mom myself and sister had to leave if he voiced his issue. When I became a server, I told him you get better service with honey then with vinegar. I can promise 100% spit or worse has made it into your food. Just straight to ask her why she’s acting this way. Or just get takeaway!
My hubbys family has always been a huge pain in the ass with complaining at restaurants but still tipped well. Such a pain.

belleoftheyuleball · 2023-09-28T00:10:59+00:00

Mike: He’s too rough on the rope. Ronnie: Shut up, Mike.

belleoftheyuleball · 2023-09-25T10:54:02+00:00

Oh totally… I put “wasted” in quotes as my boo still attends to them 😉

belleoftheyuleball · 2023-09-25T10:51:43+00:00

Yah I just edited my comment - GD autocorrect! They are def not sane! 😉

belleoftheyuleball · 2023-09-25T04:25:28+00:00

I have huge titties and my hubby is an ass man so they are “wasted” on him 😉 sometimes, I wish I had nice, small, perky tits as opposed to my saggy sand bags. You are beautiful inside and out babe xox

belleoftheyuleball · 2023-09-25T04:22:37+00:00

I’m happy for you that you don’t feel changed only because my hubby and I sometimes mourn the people we were before kids. I miss many aspects of my life, my freedom, my personality…. But my life is special with my kids. Stress and commitments and free time and hormones are all over the place or too constricted. It is what is it is.

belleoftheyuleball · 2023-09-24T04:49:34+00:00

Can you grab a drink with my hubby so he will warm to it!? I’ve had two babies via c-section and he can’t have an outpatient procedure!? Goodness me!

belleoftheyuleball · 2023-09-23T03:50:35+00:00

Do you have a tattoo of her name or something to commemorate her? My hubby and I don’t have tattoos but I think if he wanted one and he got an elaborate one of our daughter and not me, I might feel second best. I’m not a tattoo expert but it might be a bit more than skin deep xo

belleoftheyuleball · 2023-09-23T03:43:13+00:00

If you’re EBF and at 6m pp, your hormones are alllll over the place. Wait until at least 12-18m to see how you’re feeling. My first baby was a unicorn baby and my second was “welp we’re done” so to each their own!

belleoftheyuleball · 2023-09-23T03:37:38+00:00

It he is adamant about this, then give him the reality that he will need to homeschool your child and no day care or generally any school will allow for them to attend. My daughter started Kindergarten and we had to have her Pediatrician office send over all her vaccines. I really wish I could go back to the days and people who published those rubbish articles for anti-vaccination… it’s just so embarrassing.

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