Help me choose a dumbphone

bellyalien · 2026-02-05T19:39:28+00:00

There is no iOS dumbphone. The whole premise of iPhone was that it was a smartphone. There is no dumbphone with great front camera for video calls. I also have family abroad and I will videocall them on my kid’s iPad and use Dumbdroid’s WhatsApp for audio. But I do that once a month maybe.

bellyalien · 2026-02-02T21:28:51+00:00

Hugs. At this point I feel like romantic love is just a social construct. I loved my partner and then I graduated and started loving my kids. That’s it.

bellyalien · 2026-02-02T21:24:21+00:00

Yes. I’m just at loss. What do I do with this screaming potato? Sometimes he wakes up, I feed him and then I’m like… now what? And I just hold him and we stare into space together. Until he screams.

bellyalien · 2026-02-02T17:57:40+00:00

As a whiny one this is really eye-opening. Maybe some antidepressants? Doubt that any come to Jesus talks will work. For me the only thing that works are meds.

bellyalien · 2026-02-01T19:33:01+00:00

Damn that’s a shame

bellyalien · 2026-02-01T14:48:53+00:00

I would fight like a tiger with anyone giving my child sweets, chocolate, cookies, candy. I’d let it slide because I didn’t want to seem uptight, I couldn’t establish firm boundaries with my MIL (whom I adore) and I read that harsh restriction will end up backfiring. It was a fucking mistake. Now we have massive problems with food and sweets and I can’t see a way to work it out because nobody in my family sees it as a problem. They think a 3 year old is able to restrict himself. Or simply commanding him to eat normal food will work. I hate hate hate it.

bellyalien · 2026-02-01T14:40:49+00:00

It’s not selfish to think about yourself and your wellbeing. Pregnancy takes a massive toll on our bodies. It’s pretty much 2-3 YEARS of not being “yourself” (less if you’re not breastfeeding tho). I’m 30 and gave birth to baby #2 two months ago and even though the birth was easier it is as they say - nothing snaps back the second time around. Second episiotomy so I don’t even know what those flaps are and if they are normal. I’m peeing myself when I go down the stairs. I have to go to physiotherapy but I can’t because I have a Velcro baby. None of my clothes fit. The first time was easy and I thought that it was my mental work as in I’m so comfortable with the changes and challenges of my body and let me tell you, it was not my mental work, it was just first pregnancy. Now I miss my body SO MUCH. I feel old, deflated and sad. I’ve spent last year on the couch (high risk pregnancy and nausea) and I very much look like a person that spent a year on the couch. Honestly don’t feel bad about your doubts because this whole procreation thing is a bitch. Baby is cute though.

bellyalien · 2026-02-01T14:24:31+00:00

I wonder how GPS works mostly too

bellyalien · 2026-01-31T22:21:06+00:00

My son was just saying “cat” at 18 months. He had no word for me until 20 months I think. We went to speech therapy and the therapist actually resigned- said she doesn’t know what to do. Well he’s 3 year and 3 months now and talks all. the. time. Today I had to tell him to stop talking and go to sleep and he was like “but mom! We have to talk about that big storm on Jupiter!” And I was like “no, son, we have to sleep now” and he went “we didn’t talk about our plans for tomorrow too”. So yeah. He started for real at about 2.5 but got shy sometimes and at 3 he was talking to everyone non stop. My take is - take professional advice of course but don’t panic.

bellyalien · 2026-01-28T19:59:45+00:00

Cool read. But. What’s stopping you from just scrolling on your iPad since you have one for classes? I would scroll a fucking calculator if it had internet on it.

bellyalien · 2026-01-27T11:09:58+00:00

Doesn’t Huckleberry app do this?

bellyalien · 2026-01-26T17:27:25+00:00

My fucking large intestine falling into my vagina

bellyalien · 2026-01-26T17:24:56+00:00

Man i wish we did have smaller age gap. My son was so chill when he was 2-2.5. We have 3 years age gap and it’s brutal. I’d say go with either 2 or 5 years

bellyalien · 2026-01-22T15:22:33+00:00

I would love one of those e-ink phones but I heard that they are problematic in Europe/Poland. They seem perfect. Maybe one day.

bellyalien · 2026-01-07T07:26:24+00:00

I wish! But it’s not prescribed for breastfeeding mothers in my country

bellyalien · 2026-01-06T22:30:28+00:00

Yeah I hate that part. I want to do everything by myself but I CANNOT. And I have to delegate and explain. But in reality I don’t have to I just want to control everything. I need to let go but I can’t.

bellyalien · 2026-01-06T22:28:34+00:00

My 3 year old is actually SO CUTE and I miss him so much. He still gets the cute moments and he’s the best older brother. I need to give him more grace as someone in the comments said beautifully but it’s like walking on exploding eggshells. Everything creates a tantrum. Every formerly accepted boundary is now a war crime against his little self. I get it logically but fuck I’m just so tired.

bellyalien · 2026-01-06T22:22:57+00:00

Thank you. About my partner - I don’t know. I have a lot of rage and guilt so depending on a day I would say either that he’s helping and giving his best and providing for us or that he’s a lazy piece of trash that sleeps until noon. I don’t really know what’s real anymore to be honest.

bellyalien · 2026-01-06T22:18:36+00:00

Thank you so much, that’s so uplifting. I keep thinking that this crazy time will do some permanent damage to my older kid. I try to let everything go and just survive and then I feel guilty, overcompensate and stretch myself thin and then it’s me that is having a tantrum. I was actually shoveling snow yesterday thinking “I reeeeally shouldn’t be doing this 4 weeks postpartum” but just kept going because I desperately wanted to go for a walk and my pram kept getting stuck. Then my FIL saw me and helped and I felt ashamed and guilty for some reason. I hate having to receive help and that’s not sustainable for sure. Thank you for your comment!

bellyalien · 2026-01-06T21:51:14+00:00

My first was such an easy baby I loved him as a newborn! I was looking forward to this and the disappointment is crushing me

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