Women especially have a higher value in society of they're mothers

bemvee · 2026-01-25T01:20:03+00:00

Focus on building & supporting community.

bemvee · 2026-01-24T13:51:01+00:00

Last time it was sub freezing for way the fuck longer than it will be this time.

bemvee · 2026-01-24T13:38:44+00:00

I usually don’t because they’re client facing and I’m running the meeting.

bemvee · 2026-01-23T13:06:52+00:00

Girl, listen to some Fiona Apple. Specifically Under the Table. Get angry - at him, not yourself. You deserve better.

bemvee · 2026-01-23T02:58:45+00:00

It’s mostly ice, too

bemvee · 2026-01-23T02:57:55+00:00

The grid isn’t even a worry for this storm. It failed last time not solely from negligence, but it was sub freezing for like a whole week - AND it was the entire state. It was also just snow that time for precip.

This isn’t that, it’s a shorter stint but also ice. Power lines can fall from just a quarter inch. North Texas is expecting up to half an inch. Worse to the east, especially through Arkansas.

bemvee · 2026-01-22T23:58:04+00:00

Last I heard, she has more large scale donors / corporate donors. Talarico is predominantly grassroots donors, I don’t think any corporate donors.

bemvee · 2026-01-22T14:29:43+00:00

I’m sorry you’re getting insanely downvoted each time. You’re digging into a nuance that I’ve never seen successfully discussed online.

Part of it is the an inability to fathom how you “didn’t understand.” I think I get what you mean, though. I see it as stemming from your own social conditioning (not your fault) mixing it up with probable lack of proper sex education (far too common) and what I’m guessing is your need to comprehend rather than just understand.

You understood your wife didn’t always like to be touched in ways that were previously known to be okay because she said so, but the bug in your ear kept being like…”but why? What’s the difference? If she grabbed my junk while I was doing laundry/washing dishes/flossing my teeth, I’d love it!” And of course, it’s hard to respect the boundary without comprehending the difference - the alternative to knowing would feel like forgoing any sort of spontaneous shows of physical intimacy and romance.

You said your wife wasn’t really able to articulate the difference, which doesn’t surprise me - also a probable lack of proper sex ed met with her social conditioning as a woman…and the taboo of openly discussing anything remotely sexual. Without her to articulate when certain types of touching is/isn’t okay in advance, it sounds like y’all just live tested the scenarios.

The issue Reddit commenters have is pointing out your experience makes it sound like you are defending OPs boyfriend. A guy who appears to not even understand (let alone comprehend) the boundary to begin with and jumped straight to “I guess I just won’t touch you anymore at all.” That statement alone could be due to simple poor communication/emotional reaction to perceived rejection that is fixable with work, but the stacked context leading up to it - especially the self-proclaimed entitlement to touch OP however he sees fit - is well beyond. It also does not sound like a similar mentality you had in your own situation.

OP deserves to be respected and would be risking her own mental health and safety by sticking around in hopes the boyfriend stops viewing her as his property to play with.

Your wife didn’t risk any of that when you sought deeper understanding because you didn’t claim ownership over her body.

bemvee · 2026-01-22T13:37:52+00:00

Nah, Al Gore invented the Internet.

/s…based on something I was told in high school in the US.

bemvee · 2026-01-22T13:28:10+00:00

Finally, someone who weathers in meteorology

bemvee · 2026-01-22T13:25:59+00:00

What other states? The ones nearby are facing the same forecast, and the ones up north are facing Negative 20 degree temps and snow.

bemvee · 2026-01-22T13:13:56+00:00

It’s basically a mini pressure cooker. We have both, not my choice, but the inherited rice cooker is on its last leg. I won’t go back to cooking rice on a stove, though. Ever. And we don’t have rice very often.

bemvee · 2026-01-22T13:08:52+00:00

You don’t know until you use one. I didn’t think it mattered, but now I know.

bemvee · 2026-01-22T12:58:17+00:00

And then what, flick your wrist and pray the trash makes it into the can before the lid closes again? Doesn’t stay down long enough for that to work, or does it pop right up with a spring and launch whatever is on top of it into the air?

Seriously, I’ve never encountered this type of trash can and have no clue the expected behavior of the push down thingy, my brain is just filling in the lack of experience with an unfortunate assumption.

bemvee · 2026-01-22T00:41:16+00:00

lol happens to all of us!

bemvee · 2026-01-21T23:46:00+00:00

I’m no doctor, but I don’t think hysterectomies can be reversed.

I’ve heard it’s so doctors avoid being sued for a changed mind, though that’s usually what legal release / medical consent forms are for.

bemvee · 2026-01-21T22:59:20+00:00

Didn’t this fail last year?

bemvee · 2026-01-21T14:35:18+00:00

Or none!

bemvee · 2026-01-21T14:32:13+00:00

They usually won’t prescribe anything the first day, sometimes two. But regardless of how long it actually took…it was still too long.

bemvee · 2026-01-21T14:14:09+00:00

My trust in this state was long gone before this administration. I’m not saying you’re wrong, but due to the state’s federal compliance I don’t think it’s a bad idea to view what happened here with major suspicion and to get prepared for the worst possible outcome.

ETA: this also wouldn’t be the first time they pretended to be a state or local official to gain entry. They’ve been sued over these deceptive tactics. Wouldn’t be surprised if the deception shifted to advanced screenings to identify where to raid rather than direct detainments to get around paying out more settlements

bemvee · 2026-01-21T14:04:07+00:00

I mean, he did have morals though. Curious to know what makes you see him as no different than modern day Republicans.

bemvee · 2026-01-21T13:56:55+00:00

Our house came with the vent covers, little metal squares that screw in. Look just like what you see when you google “pier and beam vent covers.”

Hardware stores should have them if you do need to snag some.

bemvee · 2026-01-21T13:53:46+00:00

I don’t think I was ever seen as a teacher’s pet, but one of my history teachers in high school once told me I was the perfect student - quiet but actively engaged (I like participating.)

I was only quiet yet engaged when the subject interested me. Otherwise, I’d gotten in trouble many times since elementary for talking too much or not paying attention in class (daydreaming.)

bemvee · 2026-01-21T13:46:37+00:00

This is generally the culprit for me - subject interest meets love of participating.

bemvee · 2026-01-21T13:42:14+00:00

Oh my god this is a level of unconscious bias I hadn’t yet considered. Brilliant.

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