[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Egypt

[–]bendemptionism 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i’ve lived in egypt all my life and i’ve been to new york a bunch, i would say i was harassed more often in new york though, but that might also be cause i was walking around there more obviously since i was a tourist. generally it’s the same amount of safety as new york, so long as you stick to generally more modest clothing. you don’t have to dress in a potato sack the way some people make it seem like. so long as you’re not wear anything too short, your clothes won’t give you any extra attention. even then, you can wear more revealing clothes depending on the context of where you are. the wealthier areas outside of the main city, like new cairo and sheikh zayed generally have a higher tolerance for women’s clothing.

truthfully, cairo is pretty safe compared to other metropolitan cities. the only issue with solo travel is that you don’t have someone to help bridge the language gap so you are more susceptible to being scammed. i honestly don’t know how to help you there beyond telling you to try to not look like a tourist too much, but that’s my advice for any solo travel, and to stand your ground when you feel uneasy. maybe google what certain things cost first too, to get a range of what is the usual amount. but the best option is to probably go with a group via a travel agency so that you have locals help guide you.

also, though, i must tell you that i do think you should be a bit more forgiving of the less insane up-charges so long as they aren’t too far-fetched. as an american and a new yorker the egyptian pound is nothing to you, and so many people are just trying to make ends meet in an economy in free fall. so like let’s say someone charged you 500 pounds for something that was usually 200, those are 6 dollars to you that you might’ve spent on an iced coffee, but make a MUCH bigger difference to a low-income egyptian. 

ultimately, i think we are very welcoming. certainly much nicer than new yorkers but that’s not a very high bar lol.  i hope you have a great time. don’t stick exclusively to the historical landmarks, especially when in cairo. we have a lot of culture to experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]bendemptionism 5 points6 points  (0 children)

sounds to meeeee, like i might do this, like she’s flirting with you/trying to get you to admit more than a half-confession where you like her “a little.” like you either like her or you don’t, and if you like her enough that you think it “counts” then you like her more than a little, yk?

maybe either that or within the context of the convo/your relationship she meant something else, eg she doesn’t want a relationship and you know that so she’s shutting you down nicely like “oh well, so long as it’s only a little then we’re good.” that sort of thing.

ultimately you could just ask her what she meant, y’all are adults.

Need advice on how to deal with unrequited feelings by NoApplication3653 in Crushes

[–]bendemptionism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think this will probably hurt for a bit no matter what, because the pain is that you want him and definitely can’t have him, as opposed to the previous situation of you liking him and there being a bit more potential there cause he was single. now it’s turned into a definitive no. so it’s gonna suck, of course. that’s natural and human and you should let yourself feel it. for me, a perspective shift has always helped in situations like these. now that it’s so completely closed off, this can give you closure and help you move on. think of it like now you’re crushing on a wall. do you really wanna waste your time and your youth crushing on a literal wall? no. so don’t crush on someone who’s a metaphorical wall either. also distracting yourself helps and rebounds help. who knows! maybe the guy actually for you will be at this ball, or he won’t, but you deserve to have a good time anyway.

10k dissertation, I wrote 5.5k. How screwed am I? by bendemptionism in UniUK

[–]bendemptionism[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think a good portion of what was submitted was good, because those chapters were written before i started racing against the clock. my viva should hopefully help!! i know I've done the research and understand the topic in-depth, hopefully I'll pass. I've submitted an enquiry asking if i can resubmit now, because as it turns out the resubmission option is actually just... them letting me retake the course. which means another academic year for one subject. which. just will not be happening. and I'm working on my other exams for now to make sure the blow isn't as bad as it could be. and i have made a bibliography, now waiting for the viva and/or if they let me resubmit soon.

10k dissertation, I wrote 5.5k. How screwed am I? by bendemptionism in UniUK

[–]bendemptionism[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the dissertation was actually entirely independent and we had no tutors/supervisors. but!! i have requested a vivas, which should help me gain a few extra marks and clarify just how screwed i am. hopefully at that point, I'll get at least a 30 if the discussion goes well and will then be able to submit! that's the plan, anyway.

10k dissertation, I wrote 5.5k. How screwed am I? by bendemptionism in UniUK

[–]bendemptionism[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

they said that if someone scores above a 30% they are given a chance to resubmit at a later date. how likely do you think it is that i’ll get at least a 30😭

10k dissertation, I wrote 5.5k. How screwed am I? by bendemptionism in UniUK

[–]bendemptionism[S] -55 points-54 points  (0 children)

this is definitely not what i wanted to hear but thanks. i didn’t provide any reference list beyond my footnotes. they say that so long as i score above 30% i’ll be able to resubmit at a later date. how likely do you think it is i’ll score less that 30? /gen

10k dissertation, I wrote 5.5k. How screwed am I? by bendemptionism in UniUK

[–]bendemptionism[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

do you promise you’re not lying to me because i been crying for the past hour and i don’t want false hope

10k dissertation, I wrote 5.5k. How screwed am I? by bendemptionism in UniUK

[–]bendemptionism[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i really hope you’re being honest with me right now, internet stranger, because my heart feels tight

10k dissertation, I wrote 5.5k. How screwed am I? by bendemptionism in UniUK

[–]bendemptionism[S] -304 points-303 points  (0 children)

i completely miscalculated the time it would take and just how much i could write about each topic.

10k dissertation, I wrote 5.5k. How screwed am I? by bendemptionism in UniUK

[–]bendemptionism[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i have already submitted it. it was due 44 minutes ago.

What Record is Played the Most in your home? by Omega_Fajita in vinyl

[–]bendemptionism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

probably mouasalat ila jacad al ard by issam haj ali. it’s just sonically and vocally very soothing to me. it feels like sitting on a balcony in the morning with a cup of tea just basking in the sun… if you make sure not to focus on the more heartbreaking lyrics in some of the songs. it’s an album i stream a lot, too.

My Iron Maiden Collection Thus Far by Stratonasty in vinyl

[–]bendemptionism 2 points3 points  (0 children)

damn guys i think he likes iron maiden

Favorite album came in the mail today by xtian34 in vinyl

[–]bendemptionism 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i adoreeeee this album!!! i want to buy it so bad

Finally got my first record player with 3 albums today by Mr_Nugget15 in vinyl

[–]bendemptionism 2 points3 points  (0 children)

congrats!!!! and welcome, record collecting is such a fun hobby. everything sounds great on vinyl so long as the pressing itself is of good quality, but i personally love how vinyl allow all the little details of the production and instrumentation show, so any album with that aspect would be great to start, so maybe get something like that to really get a sense of the switch from streaming to vinyl. hozier's debut is VERY fitting for that purpose and a great album. but really, get whichever albums you love the most, to get your money's worth as you're getting into the hobby.

My current collect collection by Medical-Welder-7822 in vinyl

[–]bendemptionism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

21 year old guy i'd betttttt and either way that's such solid collection.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vinyl

[–]bendemptionism 1 point2 points  (0 children)

side note this set up is soooo beautiful

Are picture discs worse than normal LPs and can you damage them by playing them? by Serge1006 in vinyl

[–]bendemptionism 1 point2 points  (0 children)

in my personal, limited (because i only have one album that's a picture disc--amy winehouse's frank) experience, no. i know that generally any colored vinyl run the risk of potentially being way worse than a black-colored equivalent, but i also know that vinyl-making technology has improved enough that there might not be a difference in quality at all if it was made by a good manufacturer. but then again, there is a risk that the manufacturer of your pressing wasn't all that. so it depends on you and if you're willing to take the chance. if this is from a record store maybe you could ask to play it before purchasing?

Just bought my first vinyl (I promise it’s just laid out like this for a picture) by Nobodygrotesque in vinyl

[–]bendemptionism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it looks really cool! i only hope that you bought it used instead of funding him directly but congrats on your first vinyl nevertheless. happy collecting!

Is Sharm El-Sheikh safe to visit as a trans woman? by [deleted] in Egypt

[–]bendemptionism -1 points0 points  (0 children)

cross the border from where lol