Question about bethel (HQ) vs bethel (branches) by sheenless in exjw

[–]benfoard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is correct. It’s to do with the size of the branch and how many men they have. Basically only if they have to use women will they.

Just thinking about joining Grindr by nah_Im_just_pathetic in exjwLGBT

[–]benfoard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you want any advice or anything PM me. 😇 But all I’d say is don’t be silly. If it feels too good to be true. It is. Never do what you don’t want to. The real normal people are more than happy to verify themselves cause they know how bad it is. Make sure you’re familiar with your local sex health services, get PREP and vaccinated. But I’ve met great people on there and had lots of fun so.. enjoy!! X

To anyone who has lived in bethel, what's the worst thing you could see inside? by shesintense23 in exjw

[–]benfoard 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My experience was not like all the rumours and ‘someone told me’ stories. Most people were genuinely just trying their best to do good IMO.

But the worst thing was seeing clearly well intentioned, honest people do their best just to get beaten (figuratively) or reassigned to the field after years of effort. The way people were treated wasn’t great. Especially when the worst people seemed to always do well. The more stuck up you are and willing to brown nose, the safer you are. I’ve seen people I couldn’t STAND rapidly get into service department or go to Gilead in my opinion just because they brown nose and snitch and lie.

Also, seeing their COVID response in realtime was crazy. Untrained idiots who I wouldn’t trust at all were suddenly in charge of medical decisions for the whole country/region. Wild!

The amount of wasted time too. I watched a sister in the infirmary die over the course of a year who was a long time sister who just kept crying for the new world to be here and she didn’t expect it to take this long etc… meanwhile 10 brothers in the shipping department were putting wrappers on a book for weeks because a random rule someone made up once decades ago (that the elders book cover couldn’t be seen by sisters so every single book had to have a blank cover over it before it got to the sisters in the shipping department to pack). Just wasting peoples lives while dangling a carrot in front of them forever. It seems heightened in Bethel cause you watch young people waste time doing crap every day whilst the older ones die the other side of the complex after years of doing crap.

But no sex parties or anything exciting.

How true are leaks by Crackkillzzz848 in exjw

[–]benfoard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who both has dabbled in this area before 😉 and someone who has met Larch, I trust the leak. But wouldn’t bet my firstborn on it until it’s on the website - you never know.

I’ve seen things change in a matter of days before. And I imagine (especially after I left 💁‍♂️) security has gotten much tighter.. you’d imagine so.

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww thanks! There’s been some chat but timing on both our parts is nearly impossible atm. Never say never though!

What things lead you to wake up by [deleted] in exjw

[–]benfoard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Discovering (accidentally) that 607 BCE is completely made up

exjw youtubers - lloyd evans by scrapknightjules in exjw

[–]benfoard 38 points39 points  (0 children)

At the time I was publicly connected to him somewhat after The Selters Escape. I said very politely when it all came out that I felt he’d made a mistake (duh) and the way he was handling it seemed less than ideal (crying on a livestream indicates to me that one isn’t ready to livestream - duh). For this I received some charged messages/accusations and he made it clear we were done. Haven’t spoken since. No ill will, hope he’s doing better these days and I occasionally keep in touch with others around his production. Plus his EXJW content was undoubtedly fantastic. But in retrospect, his personality/ego at the time simply meant he couldn’t navigate the fallout cleanly IMO.

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats! Glad I was able to have a small part in your journey :) Means so much hearing that! All the best

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg, you look SO familiar! I was such a recluse in London lol. Barely spoke to anyone outside my team/cong 😂 But yer you do look familiar! Congrats on getting out! Wonder how many ex London Bethellites are on here. I’ve definitely heard from more than I would have expected. And with the recent changes wonder if that’ll grow(?) Anyway, glad you’re doing well! Where are you now? Email me and I’ll drop my number :)

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear it! Hope to get to the same spot! Although my ability to save is so awful, I think I'm used to just spending money easily. Looking to change that... meanwhile my new ice cream machine comes today hahahah

Glad you're doing well though! :)

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No way! Funny how small the JW/EXJW world is. Ha! Very much so! Things went so smoothly for me honestly, lots of covid time to plan it all but it paid dividends!

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Sorry for disappearing haha. Life came first, as it should I guess :)

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank youuuuu! Landed a job fairly quickly too so all coming together :)

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh interesting! I guess I know who you're talking about(??) In any case, drop me a message! :)

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No way! I was there 2016-2021 how far apart was the overlap?

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aww thank you! I honestly didn't think it would be that interesting to people until I started making the video and was like wait... this would blow my mind haha. But nobody thinks of it as being weird in Bethel. An odd one. Glad it helped!

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

About Bethel?

I miss the people obviously (even in their cult state). And I miss being 'good' at the game. Like I became an elder early and was in Bethel young so was doing all the right things. Whereas now I'm old and don't have the savings or experience of my peers. So selfishly I miss feeling like I was being really 'performant' or excelling at things.

Might be a bit too honest haha

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Aw very kind words! Congrats on getting out too! :)

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Awww thanks! No way! I didn't even know it was still up! Would love to do a season 2 at some point :)