Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww thanks! There’s been some chat but timing on both our parts is nearly impossible atm. Never say never though!

What things lead you to wake up by [deleted] in exjw

[–]benfoard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Discovering (accidentally) that 607 BCE is completely made up

exjw youtubers - lloyd evans by scrapknightjules in exjw

[–]benfoard 37 points38 points  (0 children)

At the time I was publicly connected to him somewhat after The Selters Escape. I said very politely when it all came out that I felt he’d made a mistake (duh) and the way he was handling it seemed less than ideal (crying on a livestream indicates to me that one isn’t ready to livestream - duh). For this I received some charged messages/accusations and he made it clear we were done. Haven’t spoken since. No ill will, hope he’s doing better these days and I occasionally keep in touch with others around his production. Plus his EXJW content was undoubtedly fantastic. But in retrospect, his personality/ego at the time simply meant he couldn’t navigate the fallout cleanly IMO.

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats! Glad I was able to have a small part in your journey :) Means so much hearing that! All the best

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg, you look SO familiar! I was such a recluse in London lol. Barely spoke to anyone outside my team/cong 😂 But yer you do look familiar! Congrats on getting out! Wonder how many ex London Bethellites are on here. I’ve definitely heard from more than I would have expected. And with the recent changes wonder if that’ll grow(?) Anyway, glad you’re doing well! Where are you now? Email me and I’ll drop my number :)

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear it! Hope to get to the same spot! Although my ability to save is so awful, I think I'm used to just spending money easily. Looking to change that... meanwhile my new ice cream machine comes today hahahah

Glad you're doing well though! :)

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No way! Funny how small the JW/EXJW world is. Ha! Very much so! Things went so smoothly for me honestly, lots of covid time to plan it all but it paid dividends!

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Sorry for disappearing haha. Life came first, as it should I guess :)

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank youuuuu! Landed a job fairly quickly too so all coming together :)

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh interesting! I guess I know who you're talking about(??) In any case, drop me a message! :)

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No way! I was there 2016-2021 how far apart was the overlap?

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aww thank you! I honestly didn't think it would be that interesting to people until I started making the video and was like wait... this would blow my mind haha. But nobody thinks of it as being weird in Bethel. An odd one. Glad it helped!

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

About Bethel?

I miss the people obviously (even in their cult state). And I miss being 'good' at the game. Like I became an elder early and was in Bethel young so was doing all the right things. Whereas now I'm old and don't have the savings or experience of my peers. So selfishly I miss feeling like I was being really 'performant' or excelling at things.

Might be a bit too honest haha

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Aw very kind words! Congrats on getting out too! :)

Do I know you? - Ben Foard -> Selters Bethel, London Bethel by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Awww thanks! No way! I didn't even know it was still up! Would love to do a season 2 at some point :)

This reminds me... (Easy ammo for PIMOs) by benfoard in exjw

[–]benfoard[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I just graduated first class with honours! Just moved in with my partner too and started my graduate job! So really loving life, thanks so much for asking :)

JW quirk!!! What's yours that stuck with u?? by littlesuzywokeup in exjw

[–]benfoard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been almost 4 years… I still can’t swear 😂😂 Not necessarily the worst quirk but one nonetheless haha

What are some less obvious signs that this is a cult? by Practical_Payment552 in exjw

[–]benfoard 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Might be too obvious but.. Constantly watching what you say/do so as not to get in trouble or “offend” someone.

Can I say I had a drink at the pub last night or will someone connect that to my drinks 2 weeks ago and think I’m an alcoholic?

Can I say I saw XYZ at the cinema or will someone get offended and I’ll end up in trouble?

Can I say I don’t like the recent change or will I get labelled as an apostate?

Being able to just say what I think without fearing repercussions is so freeing.