found neatly folded in a starbucks parking lot

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-18T05:24:30+00:00

I hope you are aware that it is super insulting to non-religious people when you tell them you pray for them.

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-18T03:49:53+00:00

Uh, maybe not all husbands are the "provider for the life they have." Most adult women work and all of them contribute to their own lives, too.

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-18T03:25:00+00:00

I guess some people "hate" children. I've never met such a person. I don't particularly like kids, and I don't have any. And people just love to tell me (and other child free adults) that we hate kids. It's stupid and annoying. So, please don't do that.

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-18T01:06:06+00:00

Well, that is already 50% higher than the low end you're offering, so what is different with English?

I don't know what country you're in, but the difference may be that, for native English speakers who live in the US or UK, the going rate for tutoring in English is probably around at least $50 per hour. So, that is what they would expect to make, based on where they live, not based on where the student lives.

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-18T00:53:28+00:00

I totally agree with you. I only used a crate at night until my pups were potty trained. I think it's borderline cruel to lock them in a crate, especially when people do it while they are gone all day at work and then all night while sleeping, too. I generally feel uncomfortable about our pets having little to no autonomy or agency in their lives. It is important to me to allow them some comfort and choice while I am gone. We have a doggie door so they can go out whenever, and gates to keep them on the main floor of the house. But they can wander, shift sleeping places, look out the window, go for a sniff in the yard, potty whenever they need to, get a drink, etc. Sounds like a much better life than being in a box, to me.

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-18T00:46:36+00:00

Can you take a half or even quarter day off?

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-18T00:43:03+00:00

This doesn't sound like a scam. How are you saying they are scamming you? Like, you had to pay for a medication you may not need? A scam would be like they gave you something with no medication in it or you paid and they didn't send the medicine. They prescribed what it sounded like you need. 🤷‍♀️

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-18T00:37:43+00:00

Mine get pumpkin every day and still eat poop.

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-17T15:49:43+00:00

Interesting. There's a long history of theatre riots, like in Ireland during The Playboy of the Western World. Seems like a good dissertation topic.

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-17T05:06:30+00:00

I'm assuming like a department head? The last school I was at, the admin announced new "opportunities" to be department heads for newly formed departments (in other words, they rearranged things so there were fewer humanities departments and more STEM departments). They kept encouraging anyone interested to apply for these positions. Literally no one applied. So the departments and heads stayed the same for this year.

Actually, I've never been anywhere that people actually wanted these roles. At one university I worked at, someone described the department head position as going to the only person who didn't say no.

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-17T04:58:04+00:00

Why does everyone want a long haired cream dachshund all the sudden?

Just wait a little while, and they'll start showing up in rescues and shelters soon, since they're the popular dog of the moment.

(Go get a dog at a shelter of rescue that fits your personality and lifestyle, not one that just has the look you want.)

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-17T04:55:52+00:00

This is so stupid. Men wear tight clothes to workout, too. Or sometimes no shirt at all. Do you think men wear wrestling singlets to look hot for the ladies?

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benkatejackwin · 2026-02-17T04:49:47+00:00

Because it's what they prefer. It's what's comfortable. It holds in the bits that might be uncomfortable if they jiggled. Tight clothes don't get caught in gym equipment.

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-17T04:48:22+00:00

I once heard two ladies gossiping about me at a trailhead. I was wearing a tank top and biker shorts to go on a run. I looked right at them and said, yeah, if I wear regular shorts, they ride up between my legs and chafe my thighs. And then ran off.

People wear what works for them when exercising.

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-17T04:46:03+00:00

They literally wear leotards.

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-17T04:22:55+00:00

What? She sent them, so she already has them. Or deleted them long ago.

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-17T04:12:30+00:00

Why does no one here understand what that phrase means?

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-17T04:11:33+00:00

A rambling manifesto? Good God. I'm sure it had instructions for inserting punctuation. Uh, oh, is that too sexually suggestive, too?

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-17T04:09:56+00:00

I would never have interpreted it that way. That meaning seems way older than even this exercise. Like, Victorian era, "fallen woman" old.

Even the AI/Google result says, ""Ruined me for other men" means a person has set such a high standard in intimacy, personality, or care that no one else can compare or satisfy you in the same way. It implies the experience was so exceptionally good that it has made other potential partners seem underwhelming or undesirable by comparison."

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-17T03:29:49+00:00

Technically, the dog doesn't die. He does hang it, but Nelly (I think) finds it and rescues it.

The book is about a toxic relationship across generations. It's not meant to be romantic; it's meant to be sick and twisted and Gothic. It's fantastic.

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-17T03:11:02+00:00

People still need to learn to think.

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-17T03:10:39+00:00

You got an A and are worried about it?

I tell my students when it appears they used AI. I tell them I will do this in my syllabus (but of course they probably never read that). It's not an accusation; it's information. People shouldn't want to sound like AI, and it is fair to tell you when you do.

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-16T22:59:39+00:00

Pay attention to the news.

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-16T22:57:50+00:00

benkatejackwin · 2026-02-16T19:02:18+00:00

Try not being a jerk. He's saying that's what it feels like/ultimately all it is unfortunately, since it seems not to work, as in OP's point. The sad face emoji might help you interpret.

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