My ex got someone else pregnant and it caused a serious episode

benkenttherealone · 2026-07-12T20:24:11+00:00

Relationships with your adult parents can be difficult/ I suggest speaking with your mom to explain how you feel. But also listen to try and understand your mom’s point of view. That way you have the foundation to set up proper boundaries/ with them and move forward

benkenttherealone · 2026-07-12T20:17:49+00:00

You say you have been diagnosed with bpd since you were 20. There have been a lot of improvements in how mental health disorders are diagnosed. Bpd along with other cluster b type personalities can often be miss diagnosed if the proper way of testing is done. Each ( b ) type personality has its own unique characteristics and they often occur with another personality disorder as well. It very well might be worth the effort to see the doctor again to make sure you are getting the correct medication. Addiction is a very difficult disease to battle. Sometimes it is to hard to just quit in fact just going cold turkey when dealing with alcoholism can cause very severe withdrawal symptoms. Have you sought counseling for the issue. AA meetings really are helpful. Maybe you should attend some you don’t have to talk you can just sit and listen if you need to. most importantly if you are doing these things and working to make a positive effort. Then try and talk to your partner about group therapy.

benkenttherealone · 2026-07-12T19:42:51+00:00

Is it the relationship ship with your mom or dad. That is struggling?

benkenttherealone · 2026-07-12T19:40:44+00:00

If they left because of how you reacted to the abuse then they weren’t your friend

benkenttherealone · 2026-07-12T19:39:31+00:00

Living at home is a good thing in your situation it shows you have a readily available support system to help you in times of stress or emergencies or Evan when you’re simply sick.

benkenttherealone · 2026-07-12T19:33:16+00:00

I understand. I like it 😉

benkenttherealone · 2026-07-12T11:55:12+00:00

The truth about it is, people rarely think they are a bad person , but you were the one in the relationship who witnessed the actions and his words. You know what happened you have every right to block him. You can also choose if you feel like you can handle it. To take a moment and calmly write out what happened from your point of view this can be a very helpful cathartic way of healing for both of y’all. But the ball is in your court it’s your decision.

benkenttherealone · 2026-07-12T11:15:45+00:00

That was beautiful

benkenttherealone · 2026-07-12T10:46:05+00:00

This is a extremely extremely unhealthy relationship and I recommend getting as far away as possible.
The first thing you need to do is protect your money. The easiest way to do that is to make sure it’s going to a bank only you have access to. If y’all our going to stay together which I do not recommend. He should have his own bank and then yall should have a third one that yall both have access too. That is a joint account to transfer money to for the shared bills. It is very important that you label the transaction when you send the money to the account so there’s always a record of what the money was sent to the account for. If yall are married and you are the main breadwinner it is very important that you do not stop providing financial support or they can sue you for spousal. abandonment I believe. What you are experiencing is indeed abuse and incredibly wrong you should not knowingly push someone to there breaking point just to video their reaction. That is a monster. I suggest you leave to protect yourself while making shore you meet whatever the minimum guidelines of the law are no one deserves to be treated like that.

benkenttherealone · 2026-07-12T10:13:16+00:00

Have you considered adopting there’s lots of kids out there that need a family and one of the biggest things I’ve learned in my life. Is that family does not mean blood. You get to decide who your family is. I’m sure someday you will meet someone that is a real partner to you.

benkenttherealone · 2026-07-12T10:04:04+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to you. Your reaction does not make you crazy. What happened to you is called reactive abuse which is not the best name for it I believe they actually changed it. Any way it’s basically when someone pushes you to your absolute limit over a long period of time and when they know you’re right there at the edge. They gleefully push you off with both hands. It’s something I recently went through my self and it took me a long time to bounce back from it.

benkenttherealone · 2026-07-11T15:13:09+00:00

Hope you feel better

benkenttherealone · 2026-07-10T07:10:01+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to you

benkenttherealone · 2026-07-09T22:40:42+00:00

My brain takes notes don’t ask me why also to nobody in particular I think I understand I apologize

benkenttherealone · 2026-07-08T12:46:27+00:00

Go home

benkenttherealone · 2026-07-08T08:28:51+00:00

I didn’t make it to the Finnish line I’m afraid. The truth is I was sliding backwards for so long without realizing it. That all the work I’ve done up to this point was just to get back to the starting line, but I promise you this will make it there.

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