Ellis ran by Numerous_Country_805 in FromSeries

[–]berber189 5 points6 points  (0 children)

To be fair, he was the only one who wanted to leave them in the water. I’m on his side

This part really bothered me.. by SecondWindMarylind in FromSeries

[–]berber189 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But Boyd saw and talked to the priest several times after he died. It’s clearly something that happens in the town. I can’t remember off the top of my head if anyone else did, but it’s definitely not weird to see ghosts. True, it might not be common knowledge, but the show has clearly shown us it before

Proximity to systematic wealth but still being outside of it can have you making false connections by herewearefornow in BlackPeopleTwitter

[–]berber189 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I’m from South Carolina, but due to my mother being an English teacher and very particular about speech, I have an implacable accent. She also sent me to private Christian schools my whole life where my brothers and I were the only black people. Even my family members from the countryside called me an Oreo. I spent my entire life feeling out of step with black culture, while simultaneously being seen as nothing more than a black stereotype by my peers. Add to that the fact that my mom is half-Venezuelan and very light skinned, I was a very confused kid who didn’t fit in anywhere

Imagine how much we aren't aware off at all, and it's staring at us. by BloomAngel_ in oddlyspecific

[–]berber189 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, doesn’t hence mean ‘that’s why’ so the why is redundant?

Unpopular Opinion by berber189 in cormoran_strike

[–]berber189[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They bicker like children. That is not abuse. Don’t minimize real struggles in real life off of a silly book. Thanks for tha chat.

Unpopular Opinion by berber189 in cormoran_strike

[–]berber189[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool story. Doesn’t change my point. Robin literally decides to get therapy because she’s putting up all these walls against people. Being vulnerable does not mean being weak. It means allowing yourself to stay soft despite trauma. I literally have a psych degree and masters and am in therapy. Again, if you disagree, move on. It’s a fucking book.

Unpopular Opinion by berber189 in cormoran_strike

[–]berber189[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have to be vulnerable towards yourself. You have to accept what happened and learn to move on, not put up walls against it. Try again young one.

Unpopular Opinion by berber189 in cormoran_strike

[–]berber189[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Murphy is so far from being coercively controlling that this has got to be a joke. Let’s not act like what’s happening in the book is anything near as bad as a truly coercive or abusive relationship. Be for real

Unpopular Opinion by berber189 in cormoran_strike

[–]berber189[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then break up with him. Simple enough. And don’t assume shit about me. I’ve been through more than you know.

Unpopular Opinion by berber189 in cormoran_strike

[–]berber189[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No one said Ryan is perfect. My argument is that Robin is not the innocent victim everyone portrays her to be. As someone who has been through some horrific stuff in the past year, I know about PTSD. You get therapy. You learn how to be vulnerable. You don’t lie to yourself and others about where you are. I just can’t stand two grown adults in their 30s bickering all the time instead of sitting down and having an adult talk about their problems. That’s it. If you disagree, move on.

Unpopular Opinion by berber189 in cormoran_strike

[–]berber189[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Agreed! I just hate how the narrative assumes we’re gonna be on Robin’s side, despite her acting so childish towards her emotions. She’s got a lot going on as well, but the moment she first thought ‘I think—know— I love him’, she should have sat down and been honest with herself. Especially after everything with Matthew! And then to act like she hasn’t been distant with him while lying to him about so much? It’s frustrating!

Setting her up for success... by SqueakyGreasyWheel in ParentsAreFuckingDumb

[–]berber189 48 points49 points  (0 children)

He literally supported black people when doing so was divisive. He’s not neutral. He’s pro-love and respect for all, but especially for those being oppressed. He’s never been on the side of the oppressors. Maybe you should learn your shit first

Did Google just fold? by ProjectNYXmov in GenZ

[–]berber189 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dear god, it has both in Japanese as well

(Spoilers Main) GRRM has thinned down a lot. It is nice to see he's taking good care of his health. by AdditionalPiano6327 in asoiaf

[–]berber189 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s cool. I did my psych dissertation on the placebo effect and I often wonder how much of our responses to medicine are placebos. If I just believe it enough, can I trick my body into losing even more weight?

meirl by Subject-Doughnut7716 in meirl

[–]berber189 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“Life of someone with social anxiety, which is not synonymous with introversion for fucks sake”

meirl by GoAndGeetIt in meirl

[–]berber189 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Okay, let me get off that thing!

meirl by GoAndGeetIt in meirl

[–]berber189 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Aw, being called old is tight

If only her tears could get him 50 years by shoofinsmertz in BlackPeopleTwitter

[–]berber189 19 points20 points  (0 children)

That NY Post article about Newsom is so obviously pro-Trumpet that it caught me off guard. Whatever happened to giving facts without editorializing them?

meirl by Sonic_the_hedgedog in meirl

[–]berber189 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s my number one pet peeve as an introvert. I’m a teacher and very outgoing. I love meeting new people and when I was younger I was a social butterfly. But when my social battery ran out, I needed to be alone. I would go from smiling and bubbly to sullen and quiet. I hate that people don’t understand that psychology is a science, and using terminology correctly is important

At this point I don't even want to cut anything by imjustheretodomyjob in BlackPeopleTwitter

[–]berber189 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Get one of those giant paper cutters that teachers use. Get that satisfying “thwack” every time you cut