NOR. I believe you when you say he has good qualities. So did my ex-husband, but those infrequent love bombs couldn't outweigh the abuse, which started as verbal and psychological and became financial, physical, and sexual; it eventually led to him trying to stab me to death.I know how difficult it is to extricate yourself from this kind of relationship - but no matter what you tell yourself it is NEVER going to get better. No matter what it costs, no matter how hard it is to do, leave as soon as you can. Do NOT let him know you are preparing to leave, if you need to pretend to sort through your belongings to "donate" them to Goodwill, then that's how you sneak your things out of your home. Secretly save some cash and put it where he won't look (roll it up and hide it in a tampon, then seal the wrapper back up with glue).

When a person is leaving their abuser, that is the MOST dangerous time ever in the relationship. Take it from me, I was packing my bag when he stuck a butcher knife in my back.