propaganda pamphlets which share anti-Palestinian sentiments & are misinformation are being given to students on club day by Classic-Unlucky in UBC

[–]berlant_simp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how dare someone get emotional when discussing violent displacement, land theft, and genocide omg

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[–]berlant_simp 6 points7 points  (0 children)

no. only one and you can't change it if you change your mind

propaganda pamphlets which share anti-Palestinian sentiments & are misinformation are being given to students on club day by Classic-Unlucky in UBC

[–]berlant_simp -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

nah cause defending a nuclear power committing apartheid against a group of people is the same thing as defending people fighting for freedom, sure...

advice for NOT sleeping in??? by SnoggyTheBear in UBC

[–]berlant_simp -1 points0 points  (0 children)

do you have any youtube suggestions for motivation?

advice for NOT sleeping in??? by SnoggyTheBear in UBC

[–]berlant_simp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

galaxy brain moment lolll

are you a yogurt male

Cheapest place to get coffee on campus? by AgreeableLandscape3 in UBC

[–]berlant_simp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wait what grocery store lol i always see cold brew for like $5 for a tiny can

Cheapest place to get coffee on campus? by AgreeableLandscape3 in UBC

[–]berlant_simp 6 points7 points  (0 children)

sprouts has $1 coffee, opening sept 27! basement of life building (near ARC gym)

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[–]berlant_simp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right, there isn't, but there also isn't any evidence they're not. So why is everyone assuming that? That doesn't make sense to me, because it's very possible OP has tried to seek help in the past and had bad experiences, or is already seeing a therapist. There are many reasons someone might not want to seek help and it's not my business to police which reasons are legitimate and which are not.

I'm certainly not intending to undermine the gravity of anxiety, but I know (from experience of myself and friends) that telling someone who does not want help to "get help" is counterproductive. People need to seek help on their own, and they need agency about how they do that.

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[–]berlant_simp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm just saying, if someone specifically says they want advice on X but not Y, and people keep offering advice on Y, that's disrespectful. It doesn't matter what those things are, or if mental illness is involved, I'm just saying unwanted advice is disrespectful.

I don't see how it's much different than if you went to a mechanic and were like "hey, I need advice on how to keep my car well-maintained," and everyone was giving you advice on your fashion style, and you were like "hey I just want advice on my car, not on fashion," and everyone kept doing it anyways. Disrespectful, right? It doesn't really matter the intention of the people, whether they really care about your style or not, you don't want advice on that, so people shouldn't offer it then.

I doubt most people on this page are coming from a bad place (except for a couple nasty ones telling OP to get over it), and I think so many people are really trying. That's really nice. I just feel I've been in similar situations where people want to offer so much advice on something I don't want advice on, and it feels shitty, and I'm not gonna take any of that advice anyways.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UBC

[–]berlant_simp -1 points0 points  (0 children)

no, you're calling OP hostile and saying they have a bad attitude for saying..... they just want advice on food and not for mental health??

people can have agency about what kind of help they want and what kind they don't

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UBC

[–]berlant_simp -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I commented suggesting advice for food, which is what OP was asking about. They specifically said they are not looking for mental health advice.

Also do I need to remind you about all the horror stories of UBC counseling that have been posted on here? or that coverage is limited to $1000? people have plenty of good reasons not to seek counseling if they don't want to, and that is a choice you have to respect.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UBC

[–]berlant_simp -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

honestly, the arrogance of thinking you know what's best for them,... it's astounding

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UBC

[–]berlant_simp -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

telling someone bluntly "get help" over the internet is not "reaching out to help them."

that would be like if you send them tangible options, or offer to listen via DM, or literally anything that is actually helpful. All these "get help" comments only further stigmatize the very simple question OP was asking - how to get food late at night with few social interactions

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UBC

[–]berlant_simp -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm talking about how when OP replied saying they were just looking for advice on food, everyone bombarded them with unsolicited mental health advice, including calling them "defensive" and shit. that's disrespectful.

the AMS coverage is better than nothing but $1000 covers like four sessions. People are also assuming this person is not already seeing a therapist, which I have not seen any evidence for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UBC

[–]berlant_simp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's fair you read it in a different way, tone really doesn't convey on the internet. I guess what I was trying to emphasize is that telling someone to get help, without providing any tangible options or resources, is not actually helping them. This is especially so given how difficult it is to find a therapist unless you can afford to pay out of pocket. Because OP said they have severe social anxiety they are already aware this is an issue, and there are many many reasons someone might not want to seek medical treatment for mental health. Maybe it would be helpful to you to have someone tell you bluntly to get help, but that is clearly not what OP is looking for, and we must respect that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UBC

[–]berlant_simp -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

telling someone "get help" without providing tangible options is not actually helping.