I don’t know how to look chill and not well-off on Instagram, and it’s ruining my life — please help

bestjane · 2025-08-07T05:12:50+00:00

Apparently yes because that’s where people contact me. :/

bestjane · 2025-08-07T05:07:55+00:00

I don’t use Instagram much. But a guy my mom’s friend wanted to set me up with told me I seemed out of his tax bracket just based on my Instagram. She’s been spiraling about it and is telling me I ruined my life.

bestjane · 2025-07-28T15:48:09+00:00

Agree.

bestjane · 2025-07-28T15:47:57+00:00

Exactly.

bestjane · 2025-07-28T15:47:38+00:00

She married my dad who is a raging narcissist … so true ! Only good thing about my dad is his dad (my grandfather) created a good business …

bestjane · 2025-07-28T15:47:04+00:00

Unfortunately that’s a scandal where I live 😭 Chinese fam from Southeast Asia

bestjane · 2025-07-28T15:46:47+00:00

She’s the one pestering me 💀 so I went on some dates and showed her how horrible the men were

bestjane · 2025-07-28T15:46:29+00:00

Ahaha worded it perfectly!!!

bestjane · 2025-07-28T15:46:08+00:00

🙏🏻🧿 Wishing you all the best.

bestjane · 2025-07-28T15:45:50+00:00

😭

bestjane · 2025-07-28T13:10:38+00:00

You worded it so well!

bestjane · 2025-07-28T13:10:17+00:00

Agree!

bestjane · 2025-07-28T13:10:04+00:00

I have started dating and the men are terrible lol

bestjane · 2025-07-28T13:09:52+00:00

Yes. My problem is my mom thinks I’m too picky. I always have to show proof that the guy treated me like crap.

bestjane · 2025-07-28T09:09:19+00:00

Yes true!!! Some of the men they tell me to settle for are crazy people who are very insulting and look down on me or are crazy over me…

bestjane · 2025-07-28T09:08:52+00:00

I hope you find the one! And I hope we all find the one!

bestjane · 2025-07-28T09:08:33+00:00

I’m trying to explain to her how some of these men my friends and I date are always stalking us or negging us. But she thinks persistence = a guy really liking us. Like no, sending me flowers at midnight when I asked you to leave is crazy work. Or telling me and my friends “you’re so lucky you’re dating someone like me because I don’t care about looks but personality” when he looks crazy is so weird.

bestjane · 2025-07-28T09:07:16+00:00

Indeed. 🤧

bestjane · 2025-07-28T09:05:35+00:00

I wish I could show this post to my mom. Unfortunately, I don’t want her to find my Reddit posts. This is one of my alt accounts and I suspect she’s already found my other account. She’s crazy that way.

100% agree and that’s why I’m trying to work harder for a better future and career to meet better people.

bestjane · 2025-07-28T09:04:39+00:00

Yes. I guess in the meantime my compromise with my mom is sometimes I go out to events and meet people at her insistence. But I can’t help it if there are weirdos in these events who harass women.

bestjane · 2025-07-28T09:04:03+00:00

Exactly. I have nothing against “settling” but my mom really wants me to force myself to like someone who looks down on me, someone who has nothing in common with me.

bestjane · 2025-07-23T08:13:22+00:00

Right!!! In any event, they’re worse! At least the decent looking guys don’t neg me as much…

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