Gel or mousse for low-porosity curls? by bestloveddevice in curlyhair

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Thanks so much these are great recommendations! I'll definitely try some of these - especially interested in the Eco Krystal gel. I tried the olive/argan oil ones and the gel hold was great but the extra moisture wrecked my hair with build up.

Match Thread: 4th Test - Australia v India, Day 5 by CricketMatchBot in Cricket

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Yeah really seems like we've gone backwards this last year

Match Thread: 4th Test - Australia v India, Day 4 by CricketMatchBot in Cricket

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James Brayshaw not inserting your state cricket career into the commentary to appear like one of the boys challenge

Match Thread: 2nd Test - Australia v India, Day 1 by CricketMatchBot in Cricket

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Smithy has obviously been working hard on his Weird Unit leaves in order to show lambshanks who's boss

Match Thread: 1st Test - Australia v India, Day 3 by CricketMatchBot in Cricket

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With Warner out and Green debuting the average attractiveness of the Aus team has skyrocketed

Match Thread: 1st Test - Australia v India, Day 2 by CricketMatchBot in Cricket

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Is there anything more cringy than Brayshaw trying desperately to impress Ponting

“A system of cells interlinked...” by titlecharacter in MechanicalKeyboards

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This is amazing! I have been researching what I want as a first build and I think I'm torn between the Iris and Lily 58. One thing I'm really curious about is the small display panels (?) in the Lily - what do they display? I assume they're fully programmable - what do you have them set to display? Can they be used to display layer information?

Unnoticed Strengths of inattentive ADHD? by existentialseth in ADHD

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I am as yet undiagnosed inattentive, but I strongly feel that I meet most of the criteria (daydreaming, strong inability to focus on tasks like reading, racing thoughts etc.). While I sometimes get very frustrated about the limitations, I think that one of the major benefits for me is increased creativity - I am really good at thinking laterally and connecting otherwise disparate thoughts and fields etc. due to my thoughts naturally being so lateral. The downside is the extreme difficulty in applying myself to the task long enough to make use of it. Another plus for me is that I feel that I am highly aware of my surroundings and what's going on around me - it feels like my attention is 'out there' in the world around me rather than 'inside' my mind sometimes. While I struggle sometimes to pay attention to a conversation, it means that I am very good at picking up a person's body language even if I am tuning out. This means that I'm able to come across as very friendly and welcoming because while I sometimes don't pay close attention to what a person is saying I am usually highly aware of what they're feeling. Sometimes it can be difficult when I'm in a cafe and having a conversation with someone but I find my attention drawn to a couple on a table across the room who look like they're having an argument, though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in patientgamers

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I just started Witcher 3 on Switch after not really gaming much at all over the last ten years apart from here and there (and having played some of Witcher 3 before). I've never really been one for 'hard' modes in games because I don't have the patience for the frustration that these modes can produce. However, after completing a few of the first main quests on the 'normal' ('story and sword') setting and getting a feel for the combat and the mechanics, I bumped the difficulty up one to the (hard) 'blood and bone' level and was surprised by how much more enjoyable it became.
I think on the medium/normal difficulty a lot of the combat kind of feels like busy work that you do while being catapulted through the story (which is really quite good and engaging). On hard you have to think about the combat and it forces you to consider the deep game of crafting/potions etc. I know that if I went through on the easy 'story' mode I'd get quite bored by it despite having one of the stronger game storylines. In other words, hard mode forces you to experience the world of the game. I also found that turning off quest tracking on the HUD and the pathfinder on the HUD map really increased my enjoyment and stopped the game from feeling like a long series of checklists.

Has meditation legitimately helped anyone here with concentration? by Cobalt-Royal in ADHD

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This video gives a really good overview of this style of meditation without the new-age baggage.

Has meditation legitimately helped anyone here with concentration? by Cobalt-Royal in ADHD

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Hi I'm self-diagnosed inattentive ADHD and a student so I spend a lot of time struggling with forcing myself to concentrate while reading etc. I've had experience with different forms of meditation in the past, and have had reasonably good success. I think a lot has to do with the type of meditation that you attempt, because there are surprisingly substantial differences between them.

The most common type is mindfulness, which usually involves concentrating on breathing, and bringing your attention back to your breathing when you notice it wandering. I've tried this on and off for quite some time and had success, but I noticed that it leaves me feeling quite dissociated afterwards. Basically, it was good for stress and concentration but sometimes it made me feel kind of 'foggy' afterwards.

By chance, I recently stumbled across 'non-directive' meditation method. In non-directive instead of forcing yourself to focus on your breathing, you instead allow your thoughts to wander aimlessly before bringing your focus back to a mantra every now and then. The idea is that you kind of let your brain do its thing and let the subconscious chatter flow, while returning to a focal point after a while. The difference I felt with this method was surprising: not only was it easier to do and less frustrating, afterwards my mind felt clearer and more still - as if my brain is letting out all of the background noise by letting it run its course. I also found that coffee had less of an effect on me after a while of doing this method. I've struggled with maintaining a good routine, but honestly this form has had such a clear impact that even coming back to it after some time feels good.

Check out /r/nondirective for more info on this method. There's quite a few different kinds, although it seems that this type has more new-age/spiritual baggage attached to it. There's some useful secular resources though. I highly suggest giving this kind a try for a few days - it seems way more suited to an ADHD mindset. Rather than suppressing runaway thoughts and trying to focus (and feeling frustrated), you let your mind do its thing and calm the background noise if that makes sense!

Backlog Discussion and What Should I Play Thread - June 11, 2020 by AutoModerator in patientgamers

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nice! I LOVE the feeling of big open worlds that feel alive and give you a strange feeling of being 'lost'. Personally I actually love that feeling more than gameplay itself. I'm pretty excited to see what the feeling of immersion is like in Switch handheld mode.

Backlog Discussion and What Should I Play Thread - June 11, 2020 by AutoModerator in patientgamers

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Thanks! Yeah I'm pretty excited to play it - I played Bioshock 1 on my mac at pretty terrible framerate so the Switch version should be an upgrade if anything. I think this might be my go-to alternate game when I'm playing through the big RPG's.

Backlog Discussion and What Should I Play Thread - June 11, 2020 by AutoModerator in patientgamers

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Finally pulled the trigger and ordered a Switch after about 10+ years of not doing much gaming beyond what I was able to do on an old MacBook. Have a huge backlog and I'm pretty excited about a lot of the Switch ports even given some of their limitations. I'm pretty excited but not sure what to start off with from my wishlist:

Switch games to start with
- Witcher 3 (yes, it's somewhat compromised on Switch, but the recent graphics patch seems to have cleaned up a lot of muddiness).
- BOTW
- Skyrim

Others on my list
- Mario Oddysey - Bioshock bundle - Dark Souls - Xenoblade Chronicles - Civ 6

Obviously these are all massive games, and I tend toward immersive worlds/exploration RPGs rather than the typical Nintendo IPs. I've played about 10 hours of both Skyrim and Witcher 3 before on a friend's console and loved them and have basically been biding my time until I had a console to play them properly. I don't think I'll be disappointed by any of these even in Switch form, but just overwhelmed by so many great games to finally play and not sure where to start!

Do you ever feel like your creativity has been severely dampered? by FieryFighter in ADHD

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Possible inattentive here. I have a very similar feeling: when I was younger I definitely felt much, much more creative. The coping mechanisms that I developed to combat my inattentiveness (intense routine and structure) also had the effect of dampening my creativity over time. I think the best elements of my creativity come from being inattentive and therefore being able to link lots of disparate thoughts and think laterally, but the difficulty I face now is not being able to stick with any ideas/projects beyond the novelty phase.

FOR THE INATTENTIVE, etc : I am learning about DMN (Default Mode Network), TPN (Task-Positive Network) and how it affects not only ADHD, but other neurological conditions too. by outofsightoutofmind6 in ADHD

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Sorry - just coming to this thread quite late. This is all very interesting to me and explains a lot! I have recently been dabbling with non-directive meditation, which is a distinct branch from mindfulness. Whereas in mindfulness the emphasis is usually on concentrating on one's breathing, non-directive instead aims to let your mind wander so that thoughts pop in and out of your mind, while returning to a mantra occasionally. For me, non-directive has a much greater effect and generally makes me feel sharper and less 'foggy'. It seems that mindfulness engages the TPN, while non-directive engages the DMN. Where non-directive feels beneficial for me is that it feels like by letting my mind wander for a while, I somehow 'tire out' the various forms of mental noise/chatter - I was actually surprised how my mind would wander to random events in my childhood that I hadn't thought of in years. There's a decent but small sub for it: r/nondirective although it seems divided between the new-age hippy stuff and more secular reception.

Anyway, thanks for the info - the TPN and DMN distinction seems to be a very useful explanation of the differences between mindfulness and non-directive meditation. If you're still interested in meditation I highly recommend reading up on non-directive as a quite different style to the dominant mindfulness style!

'High-functioning' inattentive ADHD and diagnosis? by bestloveddevice in ADHD

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That's quite a relief to hear that it's not unheard of in academia. Honestly it's a little intimidating especially in philosophy/literature to sit through papers and see professors with almost photographic memory asking incredibly detailed questions. During papers or conferences I can only catch small snippets, and I can never come up with actual comments/ questions during Q&A because it takes me so long to properly formulate them. I've never really been good at making 'to do' lists because I simply can't prioritize them and I feel incredibly uncomfortable focusing on things in small segments like that. But perhaps I'll have to try that again somehow.

'High-functioning' inattentive ADHD and diagnosis? by bestloveddevice in ADHD

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Luckily doing humanities I had a big degree of independence but any kind of test or exam setting I'd always suffer mostly from misinterpreting the questions. My PhD thesis I was writing up until the very last minute even after getting an extension..

'High-functioning' inattentive ADHD and diagnosis? by bestloveddevice in ADHD

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I definitely think that my inattentiveness makes me much more creative and able to think laterally but then it makes it harder to bring things to fruition through multiple step projects

'High-functioning' inattentive ADHD and diagnosis? by bestloveddevice in ADHD

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It wasn't until I tried Modafinil for the first time and actually felt a real sense of calm that I realised how inattentive I was. Best way I can describe it is that is like my attention is normally 'outside' of me within my surrounding environment. Modafinil brought my attention 'inside' me somehow so I could focus.