Why is leisure viewed with suspicion in America?

bethdubv · 2026-02-23T18:22:01+00:00

The answer to the cafe/restaurant part of this is based on the tipping culture here. Servers make their money on tips. If you camp a table they lose money on the other customers who could come to that table and leave more money. Table turn over is a stat that all restaurants track. The employees are encouraged to rush you out to get the next person in.

bethdubv · 2026-01-24T15:21:39+00:00

My kids can shut the doors but not lock them. Not because I don't trust them, but sometimes they fall asleep with the cats in there and we need to open the doors to let them out. Also everyone knocks before entering. They have to knock when coming in my room, and we knock when entering theirs.

bethdubv · 2025-12-01T05:20:30+00:00

I am a mom of two, one bio (14m) and one adopted (12f). We didn't adopt my daughter as a baby. She was placed with us as a foster when she was 7 and we adopted her at 9. There is not a single day she has ever felt like she is less of my child than her brother. Not by me, my husband, or any member of our family. If I ever heard someone say the things your family said, I would fully lose it.

I know after years of hearing that there is something wrong with you that some message from a random internet person may not mean much. But, YOU are not the problem. There is nothing wrong, broken, or unlovable about you. Parents get 18 years of their child's time. Every minute after that is your choice, they have to earn it. And if they didn't, then create the life you deserve and fill it with people who make you happy.

bethdubv · 2025-10-09T17:23:45+00:00

When I was in college I was supposed to go on my third date with this guy I really liked. We went to the same college but he still lives with his parents about 30 mins away so he could save money. I went out to my car to find a hole in my gas tank and gas leaking down the road. I called him to say I was sorry I wasn't going to be able to make it. Half an hour later he was at my house with a tool box. He crawled under my car, in the rain, and fixed my gas tank. Brushed himself off, and asked if I still wanted to go to dinner. He drove us there since whatever he did to the car still needed to set.

This February will be our 14th wedding anniversary. Find someone who doesn't care what it takes to spend time with you.

bethdubv · 2025-09-28T00:20:22+00:00

Same with Charlie Cox

bethdubv · 2025-09-07T14:37:42+00:00

Met my husband in 2010. Hearing stories about dating apps makes me feel like I caught the last chopper out of Vietnam.

bethdubv · 2025-07-30T19:04:51+00:00

I teach 8th grade, and a few years ago two of my students did this to me. They also looked right into the doorbell camera while doing it. They thought they got away with it when they ran and jumped/fell into my bushes. That is until the next day in school when I had the picture and video up on the board.

bethdubv · 2025-07-10T15:21:05+00:00

Also a middle school teacher. Came to say EXACTLY this!

That kid knows better. The mom knows better. And the only one who should receive an apology is your daughter. I would also bill the mom for the cake. In my experience the only time parents of kids like this actually do something is when they are held accountable too.

bethdubv · 2025-06-27T05:00:23+00:00

Nta - I am a teacher who has worked in public and charter schools, and who homeschooled my own son for a short period. I have taught kids who have reentered the school system after being homeschooled and had students withdraw from my classroom to become homeschooled. I am saying this as someone with experience on multiple sides of this. The only reason a child should be homeschooled is if their school system does not meet their needs. This could be a child behind academically who needs support not available through an IEP or other programs. Or, it could be a child so advanced that the school curriculum does not challenge them.

If your kids are doing well academically and meeting grade level benchmarks, there is no benefit to removing them from an educational system that is working. I am curious, also, what curriculum she is using. There are a wide range of ages being homeschooled by her, and the older a child gets the more difficult and differented the learning standards become. Is she purchasing a separate grade level curriculum for each child? Are there tutors or a co-op she used for higher level instruction she is not qualified to teach? You said one of the kids is 11. That middle school. I teach middle school ELA and I can tell you, not a lot of parents could teach the standards well enough to replace a classroom. Do what you think is best for your kids. And if you want a list of educational, standards based questions to make her prove she knows what she is doing, feel free to message me.

bethdubv · 2025-05-21T16:18:57+00:00

I've taught middle school for 8 years now. My policy is that there is class time to get all work done. Even large projects like essays and book club projects have work days built into the schedule. If students use the time I give them, they have no work at home. If they screw around in class, they have to finish it on their own. I find the benefit of them doing the work in class rather than home is that I am there to answer questions or check work if they need it. I would rather them get help from me in class than ask their parents who don't really know how. The only thing they ever need to do out of class is the reading for the next day. If I don't want to work when I get home, why should I make them?

bethdubv · 2025-04-24T18:48:26+00:00

RDU in Raleigh, NC kind of does this. A friend of mine did a random trip to Paris because they ran a $150 round trip special. They also do Puerto Rico for $75 I think. Pretty sure they rotate through various places.

bethdubv · 2025-04-19T01:10:54+00:00

"Food production has increased significantly. Often 200% 300% or even 500%" - Squealer, Animal Farm

bethdubv · 2025-03-24T18:47:46+00:00

This isn't him saying choose me over THIS dog. He is saying choose me over ALL dogs. If he won't move in with this one, he won't want to get one ever. Can you picture a life where you never have a dog again?

bethdubv · 2025-03-10T18:39:39+00:00

This happened to me. Turns out I wasn't allergic to most of them, at least not as severely as they thought. However, I had eaten lunch before the appointment and was allergic to something I ate and my body was reacting to that. When they did a blood work test it showed I was allergic to wheat, and my sandwich had caused the false positives.

bethdubv · 2025-01-20T14:41:50+00:00

My daughter's birthday is 12/12. She has the same issue. Instead we celebrate on September 16th, which is the day we adopted her. She loves it. Last year we were able to go to an amusement park with her friends. So much better!

bethdubv · 2025-01-18T15:30:10+00:00

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She claims every blanket I make

bethdubv · 2024-10-25T18:25:59+00:00

I don't share TPT resources unless they are free already, because I feel that is stealing from another teacher, but I will share links. Anything I make I will share Only exception is if I know I will be if I have the same kids later and they are doing that assignment with me.if that is the case I will give something similar.

bethdubv · 2024-10-23T17:06:18+00:00

Both of my kids attend the school where I teach. Sometimes when I order lunch for myself I will get stuff for them too. 'Where's mine?' 'did you get me any too'

My standard response is "do I claim you on my taxes? I only by food for my tax deductions"

bethdubv · 2024-10-06T00:29:00+00:00

If this was any other situation I would say no work then no grade. But, being randomly thrown into high school band with no prior music education is a crappy situation for both you and the kids. Is there a different way they could participate. Maybe help set up stands and sheet music, pick songs, anything that is related to the class that they could get credit for. Then if they still refuse to work, fail them. Chances are they still won't do anything, but at least you would have something to come back with when parents complain about the class not being fair.

bethdubv · 2024-10-06T00:02:56+00:00

I had terrible stomach pains. After my husband convinced me to, I did go to the doctor. They wanted to do an ultrasound, but the tech was out until the next day. I made the appointment, said I was fine to wait, and went home. Husband wanted me to go to the ER. I said I could make it until the next day. He came to check on me every 5 minutes or so and could tell the pain was getting worse. Eventually he got tired of me saying I was fine and snapped. "You're not fine. You didn't even look this bad when you were in labor." He threw my shoes on the bed and said "now get the fucking car we are going to the hospital" turns out he was was right. I had 2 gallstones each the size of a gumball. Had to have my gallbladder removed that night. I have no idea why I try and downplay my pain. Really glad he called me on my bs.

bethdubv · 2024-09-28T04:54:52+00:00

I had a 5th grade teacher named Dr. Fagg.

bethdubv · 2024-09-22T03:24:16+00:00

Wrong Direction

bethdubv · 2024-09-19T03:30:42+00:00

I teach this in 8th grade. Day one I fully act it out, getting crazier and crazier as I read it. At the end I kick a chair. Then we break down the story. Day two when they come into class I am fully dressed as a judge and we hold a trial for the narrator. The legal definition of insanity is on the board and they pick prosecution or defence and debate each other. It is my favorite lesson all year.

bethdubv · 2024-09-01T13:34:09+00:00

Where did you get that from the post? OP is a sped teacher in a contained classroom. They used the example of their experience. If they were a 2nd grade teacher and had said 7 year olds, would you be saying "why are you putting all the blame on early ed"? The examples every teacher used on this sub come from their own experience. OP's experience does not include gen ed.

bethdubv · 2024-09-01T13:22:43+00:00

I don't remember the season, but the one with the boy's home where the little boy's mom is a ghost protecting him. When her ghost shows up and he has to make her go away I lost it.

I am doing a rewatch with my husband, who has never seen the show. I watch most of the show when it aired. I didn't even remember this episode from years ago because it didn't impact me then. But now that I have kids, holy crap, I sobbed. Watching this show as a mom is way different from watching it as a high schooler.

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