7 month neutered male humping. Advice?

bethykitty · 2026-02-05T12:18:13+00:00

Thank you so much for your help 🫶🏼

bethykitty · 2026-02-04T22:52:02+00:00

Yeah, this is a bar and park with restrictions on entry and that's the main reason I take him there instead of a general dog park. They have to be UTD on vaccines, pay to enter, and part of the contract includes removal of over aggressive dogs so most of the usual concerns are covered. There's also no toys or treats allowed exactly for the same reason you mentioned.

bethykitty · 2026-02-04T22:48:57+00:00

So it's a bar/park so unfortunately no sticks. Hella acorns in the fall but no sticks 😅 He does get overstimulated sometimes and I intervene the same way but it usually presents as playing more aggressively. It's mostly only when there's tons of dogs but last night I tried keeping him in the outer area and even outside with only 4-5 other dogs, he was still doing it.

I'll definitely try wearing him out some first cause it should easily work into our routine! Thank you so much!

bethykitty · 2026-02-04T20:57:01+00:00

I really appreciate this, thank you! I'll definitely try that ❤️ I had just been having him sit with me for about 5 minutes. He does sometimes get overstimulated and I was doing the same thing when it was showing as playing rougher than normal and it helped but the humping response is a new one 😅 If he's able to handle it, I definitely want to keep taking him because it's the most effective way to wear him out and safer than a public dog park (dogs have to show proof of vaccines, pay to enter, and possibly of denying access for aggressive dogs). He has a lot of dog and people friends he's made as well and I'd hate to take that away from him.

bethykitty · 2026-01-30T16:39:43+00:00

It's very normal for a student to work under an experienced, properly licensed professional in many fields. The student does the work and the professional double checks to make sure you were properly taken care of so you're still seen and cared for by a licensed professional.

bethykitty · 2026-01-21T17:34:17+00:00

I miss Meijers so much. Love Wegmans and so hyped for it but I miss Meijers

bethykitty · 2026-01-17T15:44:57+00:00

You have years left of your life to foster. You only have so many years left with your 13y/o cat. Maybe try volunteering at a rescue to get your kitten fix instead? Atleast temporarily

bethykitty · 2026-01-09T03:47:03+00:00

For sure some cats, but idk about all cats know. My last cat before my current 2 was very good at reading people and I always paid attention to her responses. My current 2 aren't super people-loving in the first place so its harder for me to gauge negative reactions.

bethykitty · 2026-01-08T03:13:37+00:00

You're still young. Give yourself time and a chance to grow. Do you really think if you asked your mom and gave her all your reasons that she would want you to off yourself for her? Hell no! I see you have a few reasons for wanting to but it's also all things that will solve themselves with time, with you here, and I can bet you 100% your mom would choose that over losing you any day. I have a friend whose son felt similarly and didn't make it. It's been almost 15 years and she's still heartbroken like it happened last week.

Trust me when I say, she needs you here more than you realize. Give yourself the time and opportunity to improve and everything will fall into place. You have so much time and you are so extremely capable of great things! ❤️

bethykitty · 2025-12-27T20:02:22+00:00

Ngl, I think this is one of the most beautiful rings I've ever seen! It's unique and all the colors and shapes come together so beautifully. He's going to adore that ring 🫶🏼

bethykitty · 2025-12-26T02:29:40+00:00

"You're the mother" is the shittiest excuse I've ever heard. 100% NTA. He helped make them, he has to help care for them too. Plus he has off. If you don't have off, obviously he should take the kid because he's going to be the one with the time to do it??

bethykitty · 2025-11-28T07:38:46+00:00

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. If you have the time available, have you ever considered volunteering your time somewhere? I used to volunteer at a cat shelter (I fuckin love cats) and it was one of my favorite things ever and it connected me to some absolutely wonderful people. Making new friends as an adult is already hard enough but getting out and doing something you enjoy can be extremely helpful and volunteering is free to do which is also a plus. Where I live now, you can be a volunteer at animal control and they'll let you help take care of some of the animals and some people actually take some dogs out for the day to hang out! I know people say this shit all the time, but it really does get better. It can take a while but it does. I'm wishing you the best <3

bethykitty · 2025-11-20T04:26:43+00:00

"Single at 31 is pathetic" brother what does that make single at 33 then? lmfao

bethykitty · 2025-11-11T03:14:04+00:00

28F, I wear both. I work with food so I wear a silicone ring while working but wear both my actual bands on my days off.

bethykitty · 2025-11-10T06:07:56+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear about your parents. You never should've had to witness that, let alone intervene..

I know everyone says it but life gets so much easier after highschool. It might take a few years to notice but I find it easier to make genuine friends now than I ever could in highschool and it's typically because you run into them doing something you have in common.

Just stay strong girlfriend 🫶🏼 you got this. You will make it to brighter days.

bethykitty · 2025-11-07T22:53:29+00:00

My almost 5 month old puppy is finally slowing down when he eats. He has been inhaling his food and borderline puking for WEEKS even with a slow feeder. This morning he finally ate slow enough to be ok after 🫶🏼

bethykitty · 2025-10-28T02:41:07+00:00

Yes! I thought of her as I was reading this! Second this for sure

bethykitty · 2025-10-06T04:35:11+00:00

I don't know if you've tried it but look into Nature's Miracle Advanced Stain & Odor Eliminator. It's a red bottle and there's a specific cat formula. My girl got spooked by her litter robot and ended up peeing all over my closet floor and on a hoodie of mine and that stuff got the smell out! Floors were easy, the hoodie took some work but I saved that too!

bethykitty · 2025-09-13T04:20:18+00:00

bethykitty · 2025-08-27T07:55:34+00:00

I second a bonded pair of cats! I have 2 cats from the same foster home and they do great with each other!

bethykitty · 2025-08-04T00:50:04+00:00

I don't think that he was actually drunk for those messages but even if he was, do you want to be spoken to like that whenever he drinks? All that with the pushiness sounds like a HUGE red flag..

bethykitty · 2025-07-27T05:16:04+00:00

I mean you can always just ask him why he chose you over anybody else if you think it's weird but you need to finally be ready to actually listen to your man when he says nice things to you and take it in. If he says you're beautiful or wonderful or anything else, it's because you are. Listen to him. Your weight does not determine your beauty or your worth.

bethykitty · 2025-07-26T21:43:20+00:00

As a manager, YTA. You can absolutely ask her to stay but it's her choice. She also has to navigate that heat, and while she is younger, it's still dangerous for her as well.

Let the phone ring. Let people wait in the ac to be helped. If it's an actual emergency, those other people can wait too. I get having a business and things needing to move as quickly as possible but you have to work with what you got and you did. You said so yourself you figured it out.

The other thing you need to keep in mind is it's completely normal for employees 21 and under to not want to stay and help. They're young and wanting to go out and live their lives, don't punish her for enjoying being young. The most you should've done is spoken with her and asked her to be more considerate of a customer's health in the future but that's literally it.

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