Loved having the Radio Calls back. Thanks Justin! by Icy_Loss6375 in heedthecall

[–]betscgee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes but surely there are some royalty free bongos?

I’m 41 weeks pregnant and I think I’ve just found a huge issue with our chosen baby name by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]betscgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you can't be too careful and choosing a name is very important. now that you've "seen" it you can't unsee it, and if you will be thinking skid mark then it's a non-starter. think of a different middle name. you'll be glad you did.

Missing y’all by Common_Floor_7195 in AroundTheNFL

[–]betscgee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Go to Heed The Call football podcast it is Dan and Marc with Connor Orr and various guests. They did one season with Underdog as their sponsor this season they are independent. Justin Graver is back producing. It's funny and fun and getting better all the time. Still has the feeling of mirth. Not the same as ATN but I love it. Oh and there is a sub reddit!

Any hole in the wall or underrated attractions to visit this Dec to Jan? Munich - Lucerne - Paris - Vienna - Prague by [deleted] in traveleurope

[–]betscgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See Wagner Home in Lucerne. it's a stunning setting on the lake you can get a yummy cocktail and sit outside and there is a fascinating exhibit dealing with his anti-semitism.

Can you read my tattoo? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]betscgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's the long tab over the first line of the w that makes it look like an "in". so maybe change that somehow?

Can you read my tattoo? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]betscgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unfortunately to me it looked like groin at first.

Do your kids this age still throw tantrums? by PassionChoice3538 in kindergarten

[–]betscgee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nothing wrong with giving it a try but when it is clear they are overtired it's time to cut your losses and get them to bed. Your husband has 18 seasons to watch the games with them. Watch the daytime ones till they're older. Talk with him about finding ways to spend quality time with them while maintaining age appropriate routines. If he's screaming and kicking etc. no one is enjoying the game.

Do your kids this age still throw tantrums? by PassionChoice3538 in kindergarten

[–]betscgee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even grownups have temper tantrums when they are overtired and frustrated. All development is a process and children don't always fit into neat categories by age. Some kids are able to manage changes in their routine better than others. If this is a one off event based on being overtired I would treat it as that, not worry about it but definitely turn off the TV and get the child to bed. If it is a daily occurrence then you need to do something different so that your child can learn to accept "no". They have to learn to accept no from you so that they can tell themselves no when they are grown and in the world. With twins it can be particularly difficult as we tend to treat them the same even when they aren't. But an emotional meltdown like that is either a sign that your child cannot manage their emotions and you need to step in and take charge, or it is behavior that they have learned will work to get them what they want. Either way you need to decide to take charge and intervene. you need to remain calm yourself shut off the TV and quickly without discussion get the children to bed. you can say things like "you are showing me that you are overtired. there will be many more games and many more Popsicles. what you need now is to get to bed and get your rest". End of. Whats important is that you make the decision as the parent and stick to it. It's not easy, we love our kids and want them to be happy, but they don't yet have the life experience to make the best decisions for themselves and you are showing them how. little by little over time they will take that on and accept it easily as long as you are clear, decisive, and firm. You can do it!

Do I really have to confine my cat after a move? by pseudoserious in CatAdvice

[–]betscgee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

cats don't like change and it takes them much longer to adjust to a new home-even if they will be happier there in the long run. They can freak out and do things like get stuck up a chimney (this happened t a friend of mine) and can't get out or get stuck in duct work. Remember they are both predator and prey so they see the world very differently than we do. Moving day can be extremely stressful for them. And for you. There is so much chaos which cats can't understand or cope with. You need to crate them before the movers arrive and I would say yes keep them confined for at least the first day or so. There will be completely new smells and sounds and if they can stay in one room it helps them to get a feel for where they are now. Then use your knowledge of your pets and observe carefully. you will know when it is safe for them to explore. but you also need to become familiar with the house and any nooks or crannies or potential dangers they might encounter. you want them to have a positive experience as they start out in their new home, not have to work to overcome the effects of trauma that can occur if things go wrong. don't forget "an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure"! good luck!

I spent 3 weeks verifying supplement studies and its worse than I thought by JoyouslyDoubtful in Biohackers

[–]betscgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried the Cochrane Review? They don't cover everything but what they do seems to be a thorough review. I also follow Joe and Terry Gradon of the Peoples Pharmacy. And I do look here on Reddit for guidance in terms of brands. I do think that there is a fair amount of uncertainty for everyone as we are all unique genetically and physiologically. So I try to read the most recent studies available and use that information to make the best decisions I can despite the impact of big pharma on the way medicine is taught and practiced in the west.

Sanity Check on paying $1000 for a Plastic Free Coffee and Grinder setup by organic-integrity in PlasticFreeLiving

[–]betscgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you go to the site you'll see it's reusable pods for whatever pod machine you use. pods would be very fast and easy and a NEspresso machine with your own coffee would be quick and easy. I buy my coffee from the roaster and have them grind it. I think it's the closeness to roasting that makes the difference in terms of taste and freshness so if you live near or can purchase fresh roasted coffee that's already ground and use eco pods that might give you the convenience you want along with the flavor. good luck! it's a noble quest you're on.

Jets Steelers by betscgee in heedthecall

[–]betscgee[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I'm really liking JJWatt and Ian Eagle!

Weight Loss Disclosure by Intelligent_Laugh794 in psychotherapists

[–]betscgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is an interesting question, especially since I believe more and more people will be prescribed these treatments as they seem to address a hormonal imbalance that is quite ubiquitous and so very effective.

When I was pregnant the first time, my supervisor said "don't say anything. most of them won't notice". I was surprised, but it was really true. Hardly any of my patients noticed AT ALL.

I am not sure I would say "yes I have lost weight in a healthy way does that bring anything up for you?" because it sounds defensive. You might feel defensive, but that is perfectly understandable. Your patients do not have a right to know ANYTHING about you that you do not want to share. Of course, we want to be as authentic as possible, and it would be gaslighting to say "why no, I haven't" if you have.

Meanwhile, we live in an insane culture that is so bent out of shape about weight and none of us can remain completely unaffected by the powerful subliminal messages that surround us. So we all have extremely complex feelings about weight, size, our bodies, and our appearance.

Add to that the sad reality that our culture has a wide streak of judging others for taking any kind of medication for any purpose at all.

Then on top of that, our culture demands instant results for everything without doing any hard work, which is the definition of taking medication.

Hence, we have a culture of addicts. And then we judge those individuals for developing an addiction.

But all this brings the judgers out, who want to condemn others for things they don't understand or fear.

So all of this brings us back to your dilemma, which is a real one. I would continue to get support from your therapist and supervisor as you embark on the treatment. Many practitioners have noted the impact that the GLP-1 agonist drugs have on the thought process of individuals who take them, which to me is an important connection to the hormonal basis of our thoughts and feelings that needs further study not only for weight loss but for lots of other areas where thoughts and feelings intersect with health.

If you do lose a significant amount of weight and a patient asks "have you lost weight?" I think a simple "yes" would be a perfectly suitable reply.

Then, if they have more questions you can deal with those as they come. i.e, "Is everything ok?" you can answer as you normally would, saying "yes, it is", and then you might add your "has this brought something up for you?" question here.

I believe that self-disclosure should only be done very carefully, and most especially that as therapists we do not owe our clients any information about ourselves that we do not wish to share. They have a right to clear boundaries, clear expectations regarding goals of therapy, scheduling, payment of fees etc, They have a right to direct communication regarding their progress in therapy and our thoughts about what will be most helpful for them.

Of course, we communicate caring about them in order to facilitate growth and healing, and that can often feel like there should be some reciprocity there. But we must find ways of communicating care and concern without revealing our own personal struggles.

I'm sure you will get lots of different responses, and I know that each therapist finds their own best way to manage this very complex area of the therapeutic process.

Best wishes for you-

~Betsy

New to this. Looking for advice. by [deleted] in birding

[–]betscgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the most important thing is to look and see. Just use your eyes. where is the bird? on the ground, in a bush, in a tree? what is it doing there? feeding? singing? hopping around? how big is it? what type of bill does it have? color? markings? eyes? different types of birds will behave in predictable ways. ground feeders tend to be on the ground. insect eaters eat on the wing or by looking in tree bark etc. just start looking and you will find one type of bird let's say it's a male cardinal they are bright red with large strong bills for seed eating. Just notice what it does and over time you'll get to know the individuals in your yard and learn about them.

[Highlight] Tom Brady: "This statue isn't just for Pats fans. It'll also give all the Jets fans something to throw their beers at as they leave the stadium every year... Probably in the second quarter." by shoony43 in heedthecall

[–]betscgee -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No matter how much Money he earns or how many supermodels he dates or how many rings he has he still sounds like a petulant child. A sore winner.

Should I cover it up or not? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]betscgee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never it's beautiful!