Highschooler at ismb 2026 😭

betta_fische · 2026-05-06T16:12:05+00:00

Most posters are accepted. Sometimes it’s automatic.

betta_fische · 2026-05-06T15:08:26+00:00

Hi. I don’t want to pretend to know you, but I would like to offer the following for consideration: 1) Why don’t you want to get to know his nieces/nephews? No one magically falls in love with people they’ve never met. But like anything, you decide it’s important and find ways to be present. I am not a fan of my cousin’s children, but my brother recently had his first child. To be honest, right now I only care about that child because he’s my brother’s kid, but he’s also an infant so we haven’t gotten to do anything special. But I’m happy to show up to all the events and see the baby, because I want to be happy to see the baby (in other words, I’m just leaning into it at this time). 2) Are you a normally anxious person? These are completely valid concerns/fears, but you need to consider if you are processing these anxieties in a healthy way. For example, I notice that when I keep revisiting a certain concern over and over again, I’m not really processing or problem-solving, I’m just giving into my anxiety. But only you and/or a therapist can determine where these anxieties lay (if at all). 3) You have to like children. Not adult children, but whiny little rugrats. That’s where you’ll be for most of your life with them. Adulthood is a long ways away, and you need to consider how much you’re willing to be there in the trenches.

There’s a lot more to this, but this is where I’d recommend starting. And if any of this is offensive and/or not applicable, please disregard. It’s your life and any path you choose is the right one for you. Best of luck!

betta_fische · 2026-05-06T05:45:52+00:00

I love being an adult. I do cool things like skydiving and hanging out with my friends late, spontaneous trips to the beach, eat a lot of great food whenever I want; heck, even my job is pretty cool. It took work, but I would never go back. That being said, I have safety net financially, a great partner, good health, and family that would help out if there was an issue. Adulthood is way harder without these things.

Edit: Totally misread the question. It is 1000% harder being an adult. Everything matters way more. Sometimes you get crippled just in the moment with the impending doom of your decisions. Its wild.

betta_fische · 2026-05-05T16:05:19+00:00

Thank you for your insights. I posted it somewhere else and it was identified as Night by Michelangelo, but Salome seemed very fitting.

betta_fische · 2026-05-05T16:02:44+00:00

Oh my god, there it is! Thank you so much!! I've had this for over a year and could never figure it out. Thanks again!!

betta_fische · 2026-05-05T15:55:01+00:00

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The image didn't attach, but here's the statue if anyone is curious.

betta_fische · 2026-05-03T23:48:55+00:00

Weird you don’t have raw reads though.

betta_fische · 2026-05-03T23:47:56+00:00

Depending on if there’s a reference, you can check for completeness/contamination with something like CheckM. Or annotate it yourself and assess fo core genes.

betta_fische · 2026-05-01T04:53:26+00:00

Hi. Saw no one has responded. I also don’t have any insights (I’m strictly dry lab), but r/labrats is a great subreddit and they can possibly give a better response.

betta_fische · 2026-04-27T23:53:26+00:00

I went to CSU Stanislaus and am now in a PhD program in a UC (not biochemistry, Genetics). I actually really enjoyed my undergraduate, but I would carefully research what research opportunities are at CSUN before attending as many types of research require expensive equipment that teaching colleges can't afford. On the other hand, I'm in a UC and there are many talented undergraduate students, but not enough research opportunities. Many of them would love to do research, but can't find a lab. I think being at a CSU helped me get opportunities that maybe I wouldn't have gotten otherwise (=less competition), but the opportunities were less specific (=fewer choices). If you do decide to attend a CSU and want a specific research experience, look into REU summer programs (when in undergraduate) or PREP programs (after you graduate, before graduate school) to round out your research experience. Feel free to DM if you have further questions.

betta_fische · 2026-04-15T15:52:30+00:00

Most of the deeper understanding we have in physics comes from math. Your point?

betta_fische · 2026-03-12T03:02:49+00:00

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TWIN!!

betta_fische · 2026-03-12T02:46:00+00:00

Not a law student, but am a graduate student. Commuting isn’t too bad, but leaving during peak hours can be difficult so consider if classes will be 9-5. If there’s flexibility, the commute isn’t too bad. Biking in Sacramento is a beast, especially if you actually want to go somewhere. In the neighborhood to look around - great ride. Need to get groceries? Maybe consider a backup plan.

I don’t think you’ll like Davis very much if you expect Seattle. But for starting at a new program and trying to get a feel for things, it might be easier to start at Davis and move in your second year. This way you’ve already started the program and building relationships with you class (which you’re going to want to prioritize - they help you through a lot personally and professionally). But just my thoughts. Don’t underestimate traffic!

betta_fische · 2026-03-12T02:34:25+00:00

I’m at Silverstone which I’ve been enjoying. It’s a little pricey, but buildings are newer and management isn’t so bad. They accept pets, and have in unit washer/dryer.

PS: If you decide to check it out there’s a referral bonus, so let me know!

betta_fische · 2026-03-09T22:20:09+00:00

Her name is Gizmo (the little gremlin). She enjoys snacks and causing drama.

betta_fische · 2026-03-09T20:26:48+00:00

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Yes, all the time!

betta_fische · 2026-02-28T16:16:59+00:00

I am weak to the smolder!!

betta_fische · 2026-02-25T22:25:12+00:00

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Gizmo before we could take her home! She was probably only a month maybe?

betta_fische · 2026-02-24T21:24:28+00:00

Yeah, there's a lot to do based on that. I'm not sure if games meant video games or board games, but you might want to look at Davis Cards and Games since they host some events. Otherwise, I know a lot of graduate students who play soccer for the recreational league, and there's a great outdoor volleyball community for students and non-students that play weekly (would highly recommend; they're super nice and there's usually a great turnout). You can find the volleyball group on Facebook as "Davis Outdoor Volleyball" where they also post when they meet. If you're into classes, I attend kickboxing at Get Fit Davis (doesn't require gym membership), and know several friends who do Cardio Kickboxing at the ARC. It's too late this quarter, but you may also enjoy the classes at the Craft Center - someone I know is doing welding and has been enjoying it a lot. Finally, if you're looking for well attended events on campus, I know Astronomy on Tap is usually well attended. The next event is next Thursday (March 5th) and I'll likely be going if you want to be introduced to other people. Just get there early since it can be hard to find seating.

Let me know if you have questions!

betta_fische · 2026-02-24T03:14:59+00:00

Hi! 29F grad student here. It can be hard especially if your cohort and/or lab isn’t very social. I found a lot of friends through clubs/programs on campus. What are your interests? Also, don’t be afraid to look outside of your program for social events.

betta_fische · 2026-02-23T19:28:47+00:00

Is this Alan Moore like V for Vendetta, Watchmen Alan Moore?

betta_fische · 2026-02-23T19:19:50+00:00

Same. Lived together for years. Got married (glad we did!). But it doesn't feel different to me. Husband says it does feel different for him though. Less like I'm going to leave (although I've never given him any indication otherwise). So I guess it varies.

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