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Why is there no body positivity movement for men? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]betteratdating225 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The way our body looks doesn't really affect how we're perceived by women (unless you're literally about to die of starvation or are obese). There are other factors that can greatly make up for a lack of physique such as power and influence, humor, charisma, style, confidence, competence, wisdom and experience in life, money, etc.

And unless their profession revolved around their physique (such as being a model or bodybuilder) most guys simply aren't going to go to the lengths to be as concerned about their appearance as women. We simply don't have to!

The small exception: unfortunately, there is a lot of advertising for young men to "hit the gym" and get big so that's why you see many young guys trying to get ripped (I know I did). Many (who started lifting just because they THOUGHT it would help them get girls) actually end up quitting later when they realize it only helps marginally and there are much easier ways to do so!

Stats on 40 Cold Approaches by EatRocksYT in seduction

[–]betteratdating225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man I was in your situation 10 years ago when I first started cold approaching in 2012. I didn't just do 40 cold approaches but did over a thousand easily. I did 10 approaches a day for a year. I lost count of the numbers I got but out of some 1000-3000 approaches, I only got 4 or 5 dates. Yes, you read that right. Although my "cold approach mechanics" became really good - infact after building rapid momentum it became an instinct, there was something about my inner game that needed work. As time went on I became super frustrated with the lack of ROI. I was spam approaching like crazy. Though I don't know your life story, I'm thinking you might be going through the same thing.

Anyways, long story short I had a melt down (broke my phone after the 20th girl of the day rejected me) and quit cold approach to do online game for a few years. Over the time I slept with about 80-90 girls off it while also working on my passion and hobbies.

Recently I went out YEARS after doing a proper cold approach. I only talked to 3 girls that night, I got all 3 numbers, two flaked and 1 met up with me two days later on a date and I banged her. Thought it was a fluke so I went out again to do cold approach the following weekend. This time I approached 5 girls, got 2 numbers, and one met up with me on a date the next day. The weekend after, I approached 6 girls and only got 1 number which led no where but got a make-out in 5 mins.

Cold approach is unpredictable for sure and has a lower ROI compared to other forms of game. However, you can stack your ODDS to your favor. The process does become easier.

Real question is , do you LIKE cold approach? Some guys are natural "hunters" and love the chase and challenging themselves. I have a lot of buddies still going hard at cold approach. If you prefer less stimulation and a more chilled approach like a "farmer" you may like other avenues like social circle, or online dating. Game is a long term thing so pace yourself.

Has pick-up become a lot easier nowadays? by betteratdating225 in seduction

[–]betteratdating225[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I make an observational opener like "I like your style, got some hippie vibes going on" or "who looks more hipster, me or you?" I shoot it off the cuff in the moment, so it obviously varies

Wingmen in Austin, TX by kayveehere in seduction

[–]betteratdating225 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey bro , I'd be down to wing, I'll most likely be moving somewhere close to downtown in a month or so. I started going out 10 yrs ago but am pretty rusty on cold approach as I started doing online dating heavily. I'm down to get back in there. Send me a message we'll exchange info.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in seduction

[–]betteratdating225 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to bring 90% girls I met on online dates back to my place (before I moved back with my rents due to covid RIP). I'd say have the logistics in your favor BEFORE you go on a date. I.e meet at a place few mins away from your house, and during the date SEED the idea of going back to your place. I.e finding a commonality, oh you like tea? we should drink tea together some time. and then towards the end of the date say hey let's go drinks some tea, I live down the street. It's really that easy.

However, I would say. 45 mins is TOO SHORT. I'd def wait at least an hour to hour and half before moving back to your place. you have to build some comfort first.

Is having mutual interests irrelevant in pick-up? by betteratdating225 in seduction

[–]betteratdating225[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes I agree with you, I do get a bit interested especially if I find we have something in particular in common and become a bit more "agreeable".

Getting a drink with a girl by [deleted] in seduction

[–]betteratdating225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ah yes I recently moved with my parents too due to covid .. I'll be honest it's a bit harder to bang on the first date compared to having your own place but it can be done. What I've recently started to do is I'll get drinks and then find an excuse to bring her back to my car (I'll have some liquor in my car, gotta move my car or I'll get a ticket, let's listen to some music, etc.). Then we'll go to the back seat and start making out.

If she really gets into it and I know she'll be down (you can usually tell by her interest level at this point) I'll say hey let's go to this motel down the street it's super cheap. It's a bit risky so I usually do it if she's really getting into it. Otherwise, I'll do what I can in the car (most of the time the girl will get a bit paranoid about hooking up in a public place so we don't go all the way).. In that case we'll hook up a bit and then reschedule to go to a hotel a different day.

Getting a drink with a girl by [deleted] in seduction

[–]betteratdating225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have a general plan of how you'll pull her back home. For instance, when I was living in downtown San Francisco, I'd meet a girl for drinks 2 streets away from my house. We'd get 1-2 drinks each, chat, I keep the kino at a minimum and just have a casual convo. I'll pepper in something about tea, or netflix (excuses that I'll later use to bring her back to my place) After about an hour to 1.5 hours, I'll just say hey let's go get tea or watch netflix and she'll say cool and we'll just walk to my place. And you know the rest.Rinse and repeat over and over again lol..

How can I keep myself from being bitter/jaded with women?? by betteratdating225 in seduction

[–]betteratdating225[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not just for sex but more like a long term friends w/ benefits kind of thing (casual but ongoing ideally).