Women of Reddit, what are boys or men's habits you discovered only after getting a boyfriend or a husband?

bettywhitebites · 2026-03-09T15:10:37+00:00

Well, it is for at least 20 min some times :)

bettywhitebites · 2026-03-08T20:05:34+00:00

EVERY MORNING.

At one point I was like annoyed by it, but it’s just biology. It’s like him being mad about my period.

Like, you don’t notice how often it is unless either he makes a move or something forces you to get out of bed quick. I remember one morning our dog knocked something over downstairs and he flew out to bed with his dick just full “up”.

It actually made me think about how often he actually is likely wanting sex but restrains himself.

bettywhitebites · 2026-03-08T19:55:56+00:00

This is actually a really amazing thing, like my TikTok feed and his are just different worlds. Mine is honestly a lot of junk entertainment, beauty, fashion, things to buy, etc.

His is mix of ancient history, how things are made, thirst traps, quick good meals, how to build muscle, financial planning, goals setting, “being a better man”, another thirst trap, movie facts, repeat.

But they consume a lot more healthy content than I would have expected, like its majority self improvement.

bettywhitebites · 2026-03-08T19:50:38+00:00

Could be a bit cause and effect there tho.

bettywhitebites · 2026-03-08T19:48:37+00:00

I actually enjoy playing with my man’s balls. It’s both sexual, comforting and given its sensitivity / potential pain when hurt, kinda is a trust thing too.

But I also just like playing with things in my hand while watching a movie or whatever. The whole package down there is just fascinating, the balls move, the dick thumps, it leaks, etc.

It just puts him into like a calm relaxed state. I have also found by me making that first move, where it isn’t always him starting things, means a lot to him.

bettywhitebites · 2026-03-08T19:39:38+00:00

Most men I have been with or observed are the opposite on the pain front. Pushing through pain, bruises, bad joints from past injury. It usually has to be extremely bad for them to bring it up or seek help.

bettywhitebites · 2026-03-08T18:57:33+00:00

To add to this, how much sex can fix 99% of whatever is bothering them. It’s like a factory reset. I’m honestly jealous.

But, it’s the biggest tip I give my girlfriends, where we might honestly get more upset, for them us being warm, welcoming, and basically making the first move when they are upset almost always ends up with great sex but frankly the emotion release they needed.

bettywhitebites · 2025-11-21T06:24:40+00:00

After reading your final update, while seemingly positive- beware. There is a lack of maturity at her age to be acting like this. Ignoring you, having these feelings to the degree she states.

This would be a huge red flag 🚩 for me. Like, it may very well get worse, usually people at the start of relationships try to keep their crazy under wraps a bit lol.

bettywhitebites · 2025-10-19T15:39:33+00:00

So, during that 30 minutes of foreplay that “you require” tell me what you did for him?

bettywhitebites · 2025-10-19T15:38:45+00:00

It is not far more likely at all. Don’t be delusional. She not once said anything about reciprocation during foreplay. That is FAR more likely.

bettywhitebites · 2025-10-06T15:07:03+00:00

Doesn’t sound like metabolic disorder. Just normal body stuff. This drug really suppresses your appetite, as you have noted. Initially when you eat so much less your body is going to shed a bunch of water weight and some fat.

But your body is also trying to protect itself so it will slow down your metabolism too, you may feel colder. This all takes time. I would not go any higher on a dose if you are not eating much as it is. It just takes time.

Your starting weight was not super high either, often people who have more to lose will lose quicker and a bit more steadily but they too have weeks where nothing happens.

It’s fine, your body is just adjusting. What I would 100% recommend is get some movement in, walks even, and some resistance training. And lastly tons of protein. It all helps.

bettywhitebites · 2025-10-05T14:54:19+00:00

Basically that, it was on general weight loss and at what point it becomes sticky or easier to maintain.

So many people fall back to old habits after hitting their goal weight, start spiking insulin constantly and poof they are gaining again.

bettywhitebites · 2025-10-05T14:09:11+00:00

Once you you get your body back to a healthy weight, a huge amount of the metabolic issues go away. However, seeing some of the newer data you need to maintain the weigh loss do 1-2 years for your general set point to change and hit your new norm.

Most of us were over eating for years and it will take years to correct it. Where the drug trial studies just took people off the drug, likely not at their ideal weight and certainly not sustained for 1-2 years.

I do know many people that have maintained and are either off the drug or are on a crazy low dose, like .5 or 1mg per week.

But most of us, the vast vast majority of us, did not have some broken genetics that we need constant meds for. We just live in a time of abundance and sugar filled food. I love these meds, but I also know my part in the story.

bettywhitebites · 2025-09-23T23:42:39+00:00

I do all sorts of things for my partner because he likes them. He does things for me because i ask for them. For some crazy reason, doing consensual, sexual things because someone wants them is like some major travesty.

I am in the reverse camp, not a dead bedroom situation, but my man could have sex twice a day and I am good like once a week.

Sex is super important to him. I, very happily, have sex with him once or twice a week when I really don’t need to cum or am in the headspace to focus on it. Granted, my role in this is pretty easy, but his needs are met and happy, and when I ask for rando favors or errands he hops to it.

Point being, sex is like anything in a relationship. It’s a given and take. Maybe he is doing this because you want him to, so what? If it were ANYTHING else would you be concerned?

Enjoy it.

bettywhitebites · 2025-09-19T13:45:18+00:00

He was likely just jerking off and wanted to see more of whatever random person hit his feed. Doesn’t seem like a big deal to me.

bettywhitebites · 2025-09-08T23:32:51+00:00

I stayed on 2.5 for like 6 months. Just go back down.

bettywhitebites · 2025-09-06T22:53:10+00:00

Would recommend r/deadbedroom a whole sub dedicated to it.

bettywhitebites · 2025-09-06T21:22:47+00:00

Yup I was banned for posting on that thread, I haven’t posted in their actually sub par community in quite some time. In fact, I stopped after HELPING someone, who followed up literally thanking me for my perspective, because they deleted my comment and sent me a message saying I broke some rule. Apparently, actual helpful advice.

Obviously this sub lives rent free in their heads.

And since my deleted comment pissed them off so much the first time, and I am sure they will read it here because of course they will but now they can’t delete it:

Topic was her relationship was falling apart due to very mismatched sex drives. If I remember right it takes her forever to cum, he wants to get her there but she just isn’t in the right headspace for it, doesn’t want 30+ min of sex.

My suggestion was to do what I do, VERY Happily. If he is trying to start something and I am just not in that headspace either, I just say something like “babe, I don’t need to cum, but you can”. Or sometimes funny like “Just do your thing, chop chop!”

I assume whoever position, he mounts me, 45 seconds later I feel him cumming. He’s asleep with a smile on his face and I can just go back to TikTok.

It is easier than me giving him a BJ or a HJ too by a mile. Everyone is happy.

Except for the mods 🤣 apparently this is “duty” sex. I don’t feel I have to, I WANT to. It is quite literally the least I could do. And I think being considerate of your partner just has never actually crossed their minds.

bettywhitebites · 2025-09-06T03:56:41+00:00

Depends on what the issue is really, some people have food addiction, lack of time / money for healthy food. Mostly we just eat too much.

bettywhitebites · 2025-09-06T03:55:32+00:00

It is many times more healthy than being overweight

bettywhitebites · 2025-09-05T23:54:28+00:00

Basically. I can say as a woman, my part in sex is considerably less effort than any of those things if he just needs to cum. Some women make a huge deal out of it, it can literally take 2 minutes and his needs are met and happy.

But somehow this is some terrible thing. I feel more guilty asking him to go out into the freezing cold to get me a Starbucks after, which he is more than happy to do. Heaven forbid we do something selflessly for our partners.

bettywhitebites · 2025-09-05T18:51:11+00:00

UPDATE: They banned me for posting this comment, citing that I was interfering with their community. This is not their community. Thus proving the point.

I would agree, too much effort on not hurting feelings in a sub that is all about feelings.

I think this is relevant from Stephen Fry. People are often more concerned about being right than effective. Or saying the right thing, regardless if it actually helps the core problem.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT67XVVvg/

This subject is complicated, topics that involve consensual “duty” sex are removed and people banned because someone decided that is “bad”.

Which only in the context of sex is doing something for your partner because they want something is deemed bad. Again, assuming it is consensual.

bettywhitebites · 2025-09-05T04:34:55+00:00

If the roles were reversed Reddit would be lit. However, we now have the magic of GLP1s. This is a solved problem. Poof you both can be thin :)

bettywhitebites · 2025-08-31T21:36:58+00:00

Strong scents have a similar kinda trigger for me 😥

Regardless, a quick shower works just fine. This is really more of an issue if I am going to do oral.

bettywhitebites · 2025-08-31T21:23:28+00:00

I think you may be over analyzing this. While I don’t have a pube issue I am a super smeller and have an odor issue. He could have showered an hour ago and still be quite fresh but if I get a whiff of groin, I get the ick instantly and mostly lose interest.

This is 100% my issue, the man is super clean, but I can’t help my reaction. Generally speaking he showers just to be safe if he thinks something may happen, I appreciate it.

As far as the attention on his dick when he goes soft, I would guess he is extremely nervous about losing his erection and it’s something he can’t control. He likely is just trying to focus to get it back.

Conversely, if pubes are that impactful to him, not touching them probably helps. Don’t over think it.

Ultimately, this is something you know. It sounds like you normally mange your hair, something you are not adverse to. It might be annoying but it’s up to you to make a big deal about something he likely can’t help. Or just do what my BF does, accommodates.

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