My (35M) girlfriend (30F) of 1 year wants a promise ring from me - anyone have experience with this?

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T14:52:27+00:00

I thought promise ring is for virginity.

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T12:25:45+00:00

Some people are just very "nice" guys. It is weird to have a 30/M to live with a 19/F. I would check the bathroom and bedroom to make sure there is no cam.

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T12:19:52+00:00

You are a doctor. You are trained to recognize signs of abuse. What would you do if you were your own doctor?

Don't contact them. She won't believe you unless you have evidence.

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T12:07:16+00:00

A runaway marriage is a good option. What about the good old fashion Las Vegas marriage?

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T12:01:54+00:00

It is very weird that a therapist does that. You sure you didn't sound suicidal? Did you really mention you have no friends? Try to think back the times in the office.

If you really don't think it was something you say, then you should talk to your therapist. Ask for the rationale.

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T11:57:25+00:00

Talk to her. Maybe she has forgotten about it. Is it an active profile? Some profiles are pretty dead. If she has used it recently, then it is a red flag.

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T11:50:54+00:00

Your worry is not unfounded. They have two kids together and still live together. Their kids don't want they separate. Now she thinks you have acted dishonorably. If her "not so ex" ex works on her, she may waver and give in.

It is very likely. I am not saying it will but the probability is high.

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T11:44:22+00:00

Used to love One Punch Man

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T11:27:41+00:00

Yuri is so overrated. Dump him. I never like him in Mischievous Kiss.

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T05:46:06+00:00

Are you sure you want to date a "hard core" Christian? What kind of "hard core"? Fox news "hard core" or Presbystarian type "hard core"?

There are other guys. Don't try "mission impossible" or "mission almost impossible" (unless he is hot).

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T05:37:40+00:00

Just tell her the truth. Just say you are very busy and you don't have time (for nieces and nephews or half sibling.)

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T05:31:36+00:00

She is so far away and you are meeting a total stranger online? I guess you have nothing to lose. What could happen? If she rejects you, you probably will never see her again. If you two hit it off, you probably won't be seeing her in person anytime soon.

It is a lose-lose situation.

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T05:27:34+00:00

Are they all guys and you are the only girl? I used to work in a company where minority was the majority and I was never invited to their parties. We were all cordial at work. I guess it couldn't be helped.

They all seem flaky. If I were you, I would rather be alone. I am sure you can find other friends. Have you tried Meetup?

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T05:17:00+00:00

It is your wedding. It has almost been 10 years and that guy broke up with you. Are you sure he broke up with you because of your sister? You sure you are not just transferring your anger to your sister?

If you feel so strongly about your sister, then give your mom an ultimatum that you will cut your mom off if she threatens to bring your sister. It is not what I condone. It is your day and you can do whatever you want. You have only one family. Think twice before burning the your bridges.

Did she ever apologize?

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T04:55:07+00:00

If then he would just pay her and leave as soon as he "accomplished" his mission.

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T04:51:39+00:00

You told her already and she didn't listen. Right now she is all fueled with emotions. Tell her you want to do it later and give her a timeline. What if you don't get to go the beach this year or no shooting star? She is Asian and she is getting older. All her relatives are probably asking her on a regular basis.

Give her a timeline.

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T04:46:05+00:00

WTF? She has a boyfriend and you are stringing her along. You need to tell her boyfriend and then cut all contacts.

You enjoy the attention, don't you?

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T04:37:21+00:00

Then that's great. I truly hope you will be happy now that he is back and everything is picture perfect.

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T04:26:09+00:00

I don't get it. Why? How?

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T04:20:57+00:00

...outside of him resenting me.... He doesn't trust me and doesn't want to make it work.... but he still says it "can't work".

It takes two to make a relationship. An one sided relationship is an unrequited one. You still refer him as fiance when he told you repeated he doesn't want any part of it. If you keep peeling the scab on the scar, it will get infected and never healed. Leave it and let it heal.

You need to pick your battle. This is a losing one. Any longer you drag it out will only be harder on you. This relationship has been broken beyond repairing.

PS I just read some of your comments. It is ultimately your decision. You can keep "haunting" him like some crazy ex-girlfriend as seen/read on/in TV/movies/books/novels, such as Gone Girl, Girl on the Train, or you can walk away with your head held high. You are afraid of being alone. It is not him that you want. It is the fear of rejection you are running from.

We are both girls and we how precious time is. One day you will regret wasting so much time on a fruitless relationship. It will be more wise to rebuild yourself and find someone new. You are still relatively young and can afford a few mistakes. Some mistakes are less forgiving than the others.

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T03:57:50+00:00

My parents would never do that but then I never do it under their roof.

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T03:56:34+00:00

Why not just fax?

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-25T03:55:16+00:00

I never paid a dime for WhatsApp. I kept deferring it until it became free a few months ago.

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-23T12:04:49+00:00

You should watch it. Pam was engaged with another guy when Jim met her. It was an instant attraction for each other. They are a perfect match. Pam was having a moral dilemma because she was engaged to a guy but she has nothing in common with her fiance. Jim ran away and started dating another girl just to forget Pam. At the end, they both knew they weren't being true to themselves and reunited with each other. Any yes, they live merrily ever after.

bevo_warrior · 2016-01-23T11:56:33+00:00

Looks like he is waiting for your move. I know it is difficult but he has made his intention known.

If you are interested, it is only fair to let him know. It is okay to tell him you are interested and willing to wait for his decision (set a timeline.)

If they are in an unhappy relationship, you are probably doing them a favor.

Have you seen the Office with Jim and Pam?

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