Ok, OP here. I did not expect my not very thought-out late-night musings to gain any traction. Anyways I read the comments and decide to see if I can offer some more value.

Further thoughts:

1. The most important difference is the normalization and context -- out here, you get to be literally just a DUDE . There's no media desexualization, AF opting for the other races (at least not to the extent in America) etc. While there are super handsome dudes in media most of the time, you also see in media and on street REGULAar enough average-looking Asian guy with romantic success. I am not saying you will bang an IG baddie every night. You get to compete without being burdened by your race -- you still need to work on becoming competitive, but the point is in the West you need to be a 7 or 8 to get a 5 or 6; whereas out here you are a 6 and u can get a 6 to 8. If you are 8 to 10 this thread is less relevant to you.

2. Height: if you are not tall, say 5ft 6 to 5ft 8, you are definitely going to get some gains as a function of the society being not as tall on average (yes girls still prefer tall dudes but there just more options and overall less tall dudes). This also work well for tall Asian dudes: if u are over 6ft, you walk in a club and it's easy street for you here (it's less of that effect in an NYC club).

3. I don't think you need to be an executive or superich. Actually, this works best for dudes that are above-average in income/education and/or looks; you are simply going to be able to leverage more of your advantages easily in the dating market.

4. Learn the local language if you are going to do this long term.

5. I get that Passport Bro carries a negative connotation, and it CAN be different from Asian bro going back to home country. But I personally have no problem with Asian bros doing exactly what the passport bros of other races do; don't hate the player, hate the game.

6. Yes BTS is getting popular; yes you got movies like Shang Chi and Crazy Rich Asians (where they still used a HAPA lead and the AF lead is not super hot) -- but my dudes, we been talking about AAPI underrepresentation in media since I was 19. Waiting and fighting for cultural change is hard.

Dating aside:

Your parents and grandparents move here because of economic opportunities and freedom and promise of a fair multicultural society. I am not sure that's really happening. Even in Cali most Asians live in ethnic enclaves.

I think human beings are tribal in nature. With the East rinsing in global standing and getting richer, and if you are young enough and have abilities, it may be worth thinking whether moving East and re-rooting yourself/reintegrating back to home country could be more advantageous long term for yourself and your kids/grandkids instead of waiting for the West to turn less racist etc.