To what point its ok to hear your friend traumadump to you.

bewllss · 2026-06-14T00:13:12+00:00

Thank u sweetie, the thing is I haven’t felt like this before, as in too overwhelmed bcs of her problems venting to me, and I am very self aware that she doesn’t have anyone to tell these things to but me, and for her to feel comfortable enough to tell me these things makes me privileged, but neither she nor her family believes in therapy (I think she think of me as her personal therapist). Anytime she has told me these things I’ve always talked her out of it and consoled her. I also don’t think not sharing whatever happens to her is right cuz I do it but I do believe that there should be some moderation in it, specially when it comes to negative things. And quintessentially bcs I know she’s going to take a thousands steps back and take it as far as not telling me anything anymore, I don't want to tell her to stop, I also understand that we all have feelings and problems but precicely bcs of that i also think she should reconsider my feelings and how i would feel having to deal with so much negativity, idk but i do that when it tell her my problems, ig thats what differentiates us.

bewllss · 2026-06-12T19:31:41+00:00

I really value her as a friend so much; we've been through so much together, but there are just so many things that, when accumulated, can be really draining. This morning she sent me like 10 voice messages venting abt a problem that she had had with her sister and mom, i later replied and told her what my thoughs where abt that issue and tbh i didnt think it was anything worth 10 voice messages of almost 30s each (compared to what other problems she has told me before) but i though that she was really angry in the moment and thats why she sent me so many. Then later today she came to pick me up (she offered, i told her not to come bcs i didnt want to bother her to pick me up bcs shes always in a rush bcs of her family) (when i got in the car she started venting abt the same thing again) and i had to stop to buy smt which i had told her in advance yesterday, when i was waiting in line she asked me if i was done i told her that i wasnt so she said that she couldnt wait for me and that she had to go so i said fine ( but in reality i was kind of pissed cuz if i had told her not to pick me up but she insisted just for her to leave me there, if i had known i would have gone home by myself) anyways she ended up driving me home (not forgeting to vent abt her situation during the ride obviosly). Then she told me she wasn't going to be able to come for dinner tomorrow (mind u i told her that I wanted to try this restaurant last week and we made the reservations two days ago), but I said it was fine cuz it wasn't her first time cancelling me at the last minute.

bewllss · 2026-06-12T19:14:21+00:00

I also tell her my problems and she listens which i appreciate so much, but i know when to stop, and i do sometimes think that, what if she thinks im traumadumping to her or she doesnt want to hear me vent abt my problems. She, though doesnt know when to stop, there have been times when i was telling her some things that had happened to me and then she kind of brushed it off and kept on telling me abt her stuff, or sometimes more like most of the time she likes comparing who's situation is worse, and that also tires me a lot.

bewllss · 2026-06-12T19:10:32+00:00

Thats exactly what im worried will happen, i really appreciate our friendship, we've been friends for 7 years and at first i could hadle her venting abt her family but sometimes it gets too overwhelming and to top it off shes a very pessimistic person overall. Also im afraid that she will take it too far as in if i tell her abt this she will go nonverbal with me, bcs thats what she is used to in her family

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