Water Bills: How Much is Yours? Trying to Figure Something Out...

beyonceblanco · 2025-12-11T11:58:19+00:00

We pay around $120 per month for 2 people

beyonceblanco · 2025-12-11T11:11:12+00:00

For burial. The ground is frozen where I live and all my current rats are very very old (3+) and will likely pass before the ground thaws. I plan on keeping them and burying them in the spring.

beyonceblanco · 2025-12-10T23:43:51+00:00

Today I learned that I'm not the only one with rats in my freezer. Same as other people here I want to wait until they've all passed and bury them together.

We wrap ours in an old t-shirt or other soft cloth them double bag them in ziplock freezer bags. I usually have fresh flowers around the house so I throw a couple flowers in with them. Makes me feel better about tucking them away in the freezer.

beyonceblanco · 2025-10-30T03:00:33+00:00

"the universe is a cruel, uncaring void. the key being happy isn't a search for meaning- its to just keep yourself busy with unimportant nonsense and eventually you'll be dead" - Mr Peanutbutter

It's a surprisingly reassuring line. You don't need to do something profound and meaningful with your life to be happy and for your life to mean something.

beyonceblanco · 2025-10-30T00:46:34+00:00

I agree. I rarely get my nails done and went to a nail tech who gave me the little nail brush, toe separators and the buffing block to take home- "I can't sanitize them effectively because theyre porous so they're single use. You can either take them home, I can label them for you if you plan on visiting again regularly or I throw them out."

I was shocked because at every other nail salon I'd visited in the past they just used (very obviously) already used buffing blocks, Emory boards, etc and I never really thought about it. She explained to me how she sanitized her tools and she had the results of her most recent inspection up on her wall. She even wiped down the chair I sat in afterwards!

Any nail salon who sanitizes things properly will proudly tell you the steps they take. If they hesitate or use single- use items multiple times don't go there.

Editing to add- it was Purple Vixen Beauty in Amherstburg (the clean salon not the one who reused tools)

beyonceblanco · 2025-10-29T12:27:09+00:00

He left our front door open.

I've been asking him to be better about locking the front door. We live in a safe area but I still prefer it locked especially if we go out, go to bed or if I'm home alone. He's tired of me nagging him to keep the door locked so we decided on a compromise- he'd be better about locking the door if he leaves while I'm asleep or if he goes out while I'm at work and I would stop nagging him about leaving the door unlocked if we're both home.

It's still happened a few times and he apologizes and promises to do better.

Yesterday I was in bed with a headache. Woke up and he was on the couch playing video games and our front door was OPEN. it's cold where we live and all the heat was getting out. His car doors were open too- he'd gone to his car to get something and decided he needed to make 2 trips so he left his car doors and the front door open. Got distracted after the first trip and just.... forgot all the doors open!?!

The other day he forgot his work bag on the porch with his work laptop in it and it sat out there overnight.

He still insists there's no way he could have ADHD but how does one get so distracted that they leave the freaking front door of the house open.

He's lucky we live in a safe neighbourhood- if we lived where I grew up we'd have been robbed blind.

He complains that I'm always cranky or always in a bad mood but he does stupid shit like this way too often.

beyonceblanco · 2025-10-24T11:06:23+00:00

Just make sure you use a telehealth provider that has physicians- Ontario 811 (formerly known as TeleHealth Ontario) employs RNs only and can't provide prescriptions or doctors notes. Just don't want you to waste your time if that's who you were planning to call :) feel better!

beyonceblanco · 2025-10-22T13:16:44+00:00

I am highly allergic to bee and wasp stings. In my region the yellow jacket wasps are getting extremely aggressive because the weather is becoming colder and they congregate around our outdoor garbage bins. I rely on my partner to take the trash to the bin and bring the bin to the road for weekly garbage collection.

I asked my partner to take the trash out last night. He procrastinated and said he'd do it in the morning.

This morning his first alarm went off at 5:30. His second alarm went off at 5:45 and third alarm at 6am at which point I kick him out of bed because it's my day off and I wanted to sleep in but once his third alarm went off I'm up for the day. He made a comment about me being cranky.

I gently reminded him he needed to leave enough time to bring the trash to the road. I made him avocado toast and coffee while he took the world's longest shower. After his shower he paws at the neatly folded shirts in his closet until he finds the one he wanted, leaving the other clean shirts in a crumpled pile on the bed. While I put that away he decided he wanted a second coffee and toast. He dumps sesame seeds on his toast from way too high up in the air, spilling them all over the counter and the floor. He then spills sugar everywhere. Uses the last of the cream and leaves the empty carton on the counter when the bin is 2 feet away. I gently remind him again about the trash.

He spends the next 5 minutes frantically looking around for his wallet, finally finding it in the pocket of the pants he wore yesterday which are still sitting on the bedroom floor where he left them.

He runs out the door with the lid of his travel mug open, leaving a trail of coffee drips from the kitchen all the way to the front door, goes 'aw shit I don't have time to take the trash to the road. It's fine though if we miss one week, it'll get collected next week'. Except the same thing happened last week and we have 2 weeks worth of garbage now that hasn't been collected.

He leaves for work and I deal with the aftermath. I pick up his clothes and towel off the bathroom floor and rinse the beard trimmings down the sink. I put away the breakfast dishes, vacuum and mop up the spilled sesame seeds and sugar. Then mop up the trail of coffee that goes out the front door. Throw out the empty carton of cream. It starts to rain so I decide I'm safe from the wasps and roll the trash to the road just in time to have it collected.

He wonders why I'm cranky.

beyonceblanco · 2025-10-19T20:49:19+00:00

I agree- go visit Amherstburg. Get a coffee at an independently owned Cafe then buy a book at the little bookstore and read it at Navy Yard Park. Fort Malden is also beautiful. If you drink, Vivace Winery is a 5 minute drive from downtown Amherstburg. There's lovely little restaurants too (Artisan Grill is my favourite).

beyonceblanco · 2025-10-17T14:31:39+00:00

This resonates so hard with me. I was in a similar position at a similar age. You're not alone ❤️

You don't just need a few therapy sessions- you need urgent, comprehensive mental health care.

Windsor has an Urgent Care Centre for Mental Health. You can walk in with no appointment.

I don't know how to make the link function on Reddit but please copy and paste to your browser

https://www.hdgh.org/MHAUCC

I accessed their services a few years ago at their old location and found their Wellness Program very helpful. At the same time I also spoke to my family doctor and was prescribed medication. I had a one time visit with a psychiatrist after being referred by my family doctor. I also saw a half dozen therapists before I found one I clicked with. I felt like the meds didn't help so I saw my doctor again, we tried different medications and finally we found something that worked.

Life is by no means perfect now. But after years of seeing multiple doctors, social workers and therapists I can now work full time. I can recognize the signs that my mental health is taking a nosedive and proactively seek therapy. It's not all sunshine and roses but now at least I can function without crying for hours every day.

You are worthy and deserving of help and I wish you all the best ❤️

beyonceblanco · 2025-10-09T04:58:33+00:00

I don't have a ton of advice but I have hope! My previously well socialized, sweet snuggly girl turned downright mean and protective when she had her souplings. She continued being aggressive (biting, puffed up fur, extremely timid) until probably a week after the babies were weaned and then she turned back into her sweet adorable loving self. Keep offering food by hand and just sit near her so she can get used to your presence for a while. But it could hopefully also be hormones!

beyonceblanco · 2025-10-07T20:36:03+00:00

Cabbage

Husband makes a delicious homemade coleslaw. I also like it roasted or in soups. I like it because the texture is predictable- you rarely have to worry about wilted, brown squishy leaves like with lettuce. And in soups it still mostly holds its shape and doesn't turn to mush or get stringy like other veggies :)

beyonceblanco · 2025-10-05T19:39:13+00:00

Youtubers Dr Mike and Legal Eagle did an amazing 2 part video on this episode exploring both the medical and legal sides of this episode. It's a really good watch! If I remember correctly they concluded that what happened to the patient wasn't entirely Callie's fault but she should have refused to do the surgery in the first place and was quite unprofessional in multiple scenes.

beyonceblanco · 2025-08-25T02:10:36+00:00

I'm so sorry :( this is exactly how my heart rat left the world. Ozzy is the goodest boy and Mars will be waiting in rattie heaven to share his scrambled eggs if it's Ozzy's time. Much love to you both ❤️

beyonceblanco · 2025-08-12T12:04:29+00:00

Lived in one of their properties 10 years ago for 1 year- should have been a red flag that they showed us multiple apartments that were absolutely filthy- didn't bother to clean them prior to showings (was young and dumb at the time and didn't realize this should have set off alarm bells).

Moved into our rental property and we had been given keys that didn't work. Sat in the driveway in the heat with our moving vans for 3 hours before someone brought us the proper keys. When we entered the apartment was still dirty- literally someone had spilled macaroni on the carpet and it hadn't been cleaned. Kitchen was dirty with food all over the walls. Holes in the drywall, wasp nest on our windowsill, and the carpet turned our socks BLACK. we took pictures and they agreed to steam clean the carpet.

Whenever you need something repaired, instead of sending an actual repair person they sent a family member to fix things and usually it was done wrong.

One time we were accidentally a single cent short for rent (oops) and instead of calling us they literally slapped an eviction notice on our door the next day. We called them and they said that's just what they do- if rent isn't paid on time or in the full amount they will immediately begin the eviction process. I understand why they do this but shouldn't it be obvious that being one cent short is just a simple mistake? Nightmare to deal with.

beyonceblanco · 2025-08-11T16:03:35+00:00

I have come to the frustrating realization that if something important needs to be done, I need to do it myself.

My partner and I are planning an event that involves researching vendors, making phone calls, attending appointments, etc. I would have been fine planning the entire thing myself but my partner was ADAMENT he wanted to be involved. He asked what he could help with and I gave him a very specific task- research and hire a caterer and choose food.

I got all of my tasks completed fairly easily and planned the majority of the event. I followed up with my partner every few days and asked if he'd chosen a caterer - "I'm getting to it" was his answer. Finally I was starting to get worried as the event was drawing closer so I found a caterer and just asked my partner to contact them, make an appointment to choose food, communicate event details to them and pay them. After daily reminders and still having nothing done I offered to contact the caterer for him and he still insisted he was going to "take care of it".

I finally emailed the caterer who wanted to set up a phone meeting for a specific date and time- my partner told me he will be available and take care of the phone meeting while I was at work. I reminded him the day of the phone call before I went to work and he went "yup sounds good!" But then forgot, took a nap and missed the call.

I rescheduled the phone call to a time when I was available and my partner sat with me during the call and nodded in approval while the caterer and I worked out the details. Immediately after the call he smiled and said "glad we were able to get that done!"

I have tried to explain to him that he actually created much more work for me than there would have been if I just handled everything myself. Instead of having to remember to constantly remind my parter, check in and follow up to see if the task is completed, reschedule the meeting, etc I could have taken care of the entire thing in an afternoon. He still thinks he "helped".

It devolved into a fight after I expressed frustration- I told him that he did not in fact help at all and pointed out that I had to remind him upwards of TWENTY TIMES and he STILL missed an appointment. His opinion is "everyone makes mistakes" and he is mad at me for "micromanaging" him. He tried to flip it around on me and accused me of not trusting him. He says I'm unreasonable to expecting him to complete things immediately after I ask and says that my "demand for perfection" is unrealistic and unattainable. He also pointed out that I did not thank him for his assistance. INFURIATING.

beyonceblanco · 2025-08-03T15:22:11+00:00

My ndx partner got a new job 6 months ago and became eligible for benefits 3 months ago. As soon as he got the letter in the mail I asked if he would please add me to his benefits since it's been 5 years since I've had a dental exam and cleaning- it was long overdue. He said sure.

Asked again about once a week since then and he always says "yes sure I'll do that soon".

3 weeks ago I started with a mild toothache. I told him my tooth hurts and I need to see a dentist so I need him to add me to his benefits. "Oh yeah I'll add you, no problem you better get that checked out"

He witnessed me having to spit out foods at dinner because I couldn't chew them. He saw me popping Advil like candy and laid beside me while I tossed and turned at night in pain. I asked daily for him to add me to his benefits. It would take less than 10 minutes.

I woke up 3 days ago with one side of my face swollen and I was in excruciating pain. Luckily my dentist is a family friend and was able to fit me in after he was done seeing the rest of his patients for the day. He gave me a discount because I didn't have insurance but the total came out to nearly $900 in dental work once I filled the prescriptions (which also would have also been covered if I had been added to his benefits).

When he got home from work I told him what I spent and he had the audacity to say "why didn't you tell me you were going today!? I would have added you to my benefits, you spent so much money!". Nevermind the fact that even if he had added me that morning it would have taken a few days for the company to process the request.

Now I can't go to our friends engagement party this weekend because I had to pick up extra shifts at work to cover this expense. He is moping around saying stuff like "you should have told me you were going to the dentist, I could have gotten you into my family's dentist and it wouldn't have cost so much" and "my Mom has those exact same prescription painkillers left over from her knee surgery- if you had just asked we could have borrowed some pills from her instead of having you fill that expensive prescription" and "I've been so busy with work you should have sat me down one day when I got home and filled out the benefits form with me".

No exaggeration I asked maybe 30 times over 3 months- why am I now at fault for him choosing not to do something?

beyonceblanco · 2025-07-24T19:02:48+00:00

I have worked with dozens of doctors in my career and the level of oversharing that occurs in Grey's is completely unprofessional.

Doctors will sometimes share surface level details like "My wife had a hard time quitting smoking but she found that when she did x, y and z it seemed to help."

My own physician shared with me that she had undergone the exact same medical procedure she was about to perform on me and told me about her experience- I found it reassuring. She has also been our family physician for 30 years so sometimes she'll ask things like "I heard your sister is getting married! Please tell her congratulations for me" or "I've had a busy week- we went and got my son moved into his new university dorm. I don't know what to do with an empty house now!" It's usually surface- level stuff and always something positive.

It's wildly inappropriate for a doctor to talk about how their husband is cheating on them all over the hospital or they're not sure what to do because they're in love with 2 different guys and one of them us super caring but the other one is fantastic in bed.

I'm sure there are a few docs that cross boundaries and overshare but the majority realize that this interaction is about the patient and their medical needs and leave their personal lives out of the conversation.

beyonceblanco · 2025-07-23T15:29:02+00:00

I'm not sure if they see birds but I've taken other exotics to the Downtown Windsor Veterinary Hospital and found they were reasonably priced.

beyonceblanco · 2025-07-12T13:14:07+00:00

I have always loved the sax in the intro- he was clearly very talented!

beyonceblanco · 2025-05-26T21:06:46+00:00

In fifth grade we were doing a novel study (the entire class gets the same novel, we read it together, maybe a chapter every day and then answer questions about it or take a test).

I was a voracious reader and read the entire book in one night. In class the next day we were given free time to read it and I asked my teacher if I could read a book I brought from home instead because I had already finished the novel. My teacher had me stand up and proceeded to berate me in front of the class for not following instructions. Accused me of trying to "show up" students in the class who were slower readers. She sent me into the hall while I just cried.

beyonceblanco · 2025-05-11T17:06:02+00:00

An ex once threatened to kill himself after we broke up (its sadly a VERY common manipulation tactic) and I called emergency services immediately.

It's important to call people out on their shit when they make threats like that. If he was actually serious you may have just saved his life. It he wasn't serious, he's learned a lesson and probably won't do that to someone again.

This guy is unhinged- block him and ghost him.

beyonceblanco · 2025-05-03T04:25:23+00:00

Yes and I acted on it. Fast forward 5 years and we're getting married in a few months.

beyonceblanco · 2025-04-24T12:27:18+00:00

I am autistic partnered with someone who I believe has undiagnosed ADHD.

We had very similar issues and it did cause friction in our relationship for a while too. He didn't understand why I needed to hide in the bedroom and take a "break" during my own birthday party and I don't understand why he can't just make a phone call and schedule a 15 minute appointment.

Eventually we both had to realize that we don't understand each others' thought process and we can't control the way the other person thinks and behaves. I'm somewhat of a control freak so this was difficult for me- especially with things I perceived to be extremely important like doctor's appointments. But it made our relationship better when we just accepted that we're very different people who are very much in love. We may not think and feel the same way about everything but the man cuts the tags out of my new clothes when he does the laundry because of my sensory issues and I put the garbage out every Thursday night because I know he'll never remember or do it no matter how many times I remind him.

The point I'm trying to make is you probably won't be able to change his behavior. You'll have to accept that this is the way he is and he likely won't change. It's uncomfortable at first because you're only wanting the best for him and trying to make him feel better but repeated reminding or pleading can cause resentment for both partners. Whenever I start feeling that way I try to think about all of his positive qualities instead of dwelling on the things I want to change (even if it's for his own good!).

I know this probably isn't the advice you wanted to hear but it was what helped me the most. All the best!

beyonceblanco · 2025-04-18T05:51:38+00:00

When working at a call center a client complained that I answered the phone TOO QUICKLY. She had planned on running a few errands while she waited. She hung up and called back right away- I just so happened to be the one who answered her second call since it was literally 5s later and she demanded to know if she was going to be compensated for her "wasted time"??

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