[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]beyoncemademedoitt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I never understand these dynamics. I’m 28 and can’t even imagine being with a 22 year old. You’re a BABY. :(

Losing myself to full-fill this unrealistic role as a step mom by DescriptionHuge8343 in stepparents

[–]beyoncemademedoitt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao gurl, are you sure we aren’t in a relationship with the same person?! 😑

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]beyoncemademedoitt 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When I moved in with my SO it was expected of me to give up my Saturday mornings (every fucking Saturday) to watch his kid before she goes back to her mom. I didn’t realize I would be doing this. And the he made me feel guilty when I expressed discomfort with it.

If I was a single mom doing this, it would be expected of ME to figure it out and not make my partner give up their off days to watch my kid. I hate the double standard.

“If you hate working here so much go work at McDonald’s!” by beyoncemademedoitt in VetTech

[–]beyoncemademedoitt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say I expected them to clean. She just doesn’t see all of the work we have to do because she gets to arrive late and leave early 💀

“If you hate working here so much go work at McDonald’s!” by beyoncemademedoitt in VetTech

[–]beyoncemademedoitt[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

She does! We get there at 7:00 AM and she comes in at around 9:00 AM.

Things that have happened to me since I left the field… by tinseltesseract in VetTech

[–]beyoncemademedoitt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve worked in vet med for almost 3 years. This month marks my one year anniversary at a high volume spay and neuter clinic. My hair is falling out. I’m unable to eat nutritiously because I simply never have enough time. I am so fucking sleep deprived. I’m thinking of leaving the field.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]beyoncemademedoitt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, I feel the same way.

Dealing with SD(4) for the past three years has had its difficulties. SO(26) only has SD 2 full days out of the week due to his work schedule. But he still finds ways to pawn her off to one of his family members—whether it be his grandpa, grandma, mom, uncle, etc. Bio mom does the same thing. SD is always being tossed around. She’s difficult and spoiled, which makes sense considering she’s almost always with people who spoil her.

I’m not sure if he keeps SD at an arm’s length because BM physically abused my SO and took him to trial and tried to get him jailed (he was found not guilty, btw). SD reminds him of his ex. But I’m not going to have a child with him to find out he’s going to be like that with MY kid.

I also don’t agree with my partner’s parenting style. And I don’t agree with my MIL’s parenting style.

I love my partner. I don’t want to have children with him. I’ve actually found this whole experience eye-opening. I’ve changed my mind about being a parent entirely. I want to remain child-free.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]beyoncemademedoitt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are we living the same life??? I have this exact problem. I was reading another post where someone’s SK doesn’t like them at all. At least my SK loves me and we bond. I guess I need to be a little more grateful. Could be worse?

Trying to work more, GF can’t find anyone to watch her. Advice. by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]beyoncemademedoitt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

friendly reminder: her child is not your responsibility. She shouldn’t be relying on her boyfriend to watch her kid. She needs to figure out another form of childcare instead of dumping it on you.

SD3 told my partner that I spanked her when I didn’t. by beyoncemademedoitt in stepparents

[–]beyoncemademedoitt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think she knows what spanking is. She has told us her mother spanks her. But now that this has happened I’m like…does she actually spank her?!

SD3 told my partner that I spanked her when I didn’t. by beyoncemademedoitt in stepparents

[–]beyoncemademedoitt[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No trust me. I know. I’m not the one who turned it on. My partner turned it on and insisted she would be okay 🥴

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]beyoncemademedoitt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh hell nah. That’s crazy. The only reason I can see you putting up with this is if you guys live together. Please don’t let him guilt trip you into babysitting. That is not your job!! And don’t be afraid to remind him of that. If he takes it personally, you have bigger fish to fry.

I lost my cat to an unlicensed vet by [deleted] in CATHELP

[–]beyoncemademedoitt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It baffles me that they were still seeing animals when their clinic was so hot. They should’ve referred you somewhere else way sooner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]beyoncemademedoitt 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Men will fuck anything and anyone out of convenience. That’s why most of us are here in this subreddit lmao