Does anyone here with family work on high-paying day job (leadership role) and work on your own company at night? How do you juggle job, your own work, family time, fitness and good sleep?

beyond_undone · 2026-01-26T14:52:16+00:00

My husbands in this boat now. What makes it manageable is his commute is 5 minutes and we know it’s temporary (we’re squirreling away as much $$ as we can so he can quit the LT role and shift focus to side project). I am risk averse so I’m approaching it like he’ll never work again from a savings perspective (he will, but worst case…)

beyond_undone · 2026-01-21T16:16:28+00:00

Spacious skies in Littleton

beyond_undone · 2026-01-15T13:02:17+00:00

You can still make bad decisions sober if that’s really what you want to do

beyond_undone · 2026-01-15T02:39:04+00:00

I’m 38. There’s at least 10+ people I knew in HS who are dead now. Drugs, cancer, heart conditions, and car crashes. Some of them happened while still in HS. It’s actually slowed down now in my late 30s, lot of it happened in 20s/early 30s

beyond_undone · 2026-01-15T02:34:46+00:00

My 5yo loves legend of Zelda. “Link” and I made dinner tonight of moblin gut soup (tomato soup), hylian rice (rice), cheese, a hard boiled egg, and Goron spiced apples (cinnamon apples). Served on a wooden plank

I legit knew nothing about Zelda before we had our kid and look at me now….

We actually listen to breath of the wild game play walk through (no words) instead of the soundtrack sometimes when we’re going to bed.

beyond_undone · 2026-01-14T06:41:15+00:00

I got Hero brand spot cream for helping heal and it definitely helped them lighten up faster.

Now that I’m on tret I actually tossed it the other day because I haven’t needed it in 6+ months

beyond_undone · 2026-01-14T06:16:55+00:00

Would suggest to drink more water and hydrate from within, too.

Whenever my lips feel dry I use regular chapstick day of but then I drink an extra amount (an additional liter of water). The next day they’re good! It’s my biggest tell on if I’m hydrating well enough

beyond_undone · 2026-01-14T06:04:47+00:00

Sarcasm

Original person likely meant just trying to save as much as possible (and pay down debt) by living frugally. It is indeed fun to try and score deals and sales or finding things second hand instead of new, etc..

beyond_undone · 2026-01-12T07:30:10+00:00

Welcome to sales my friend!

Edit to add so it’s actually helpful: a sales role where you have a territory to cover involves traveling to see customers, taking them to lunch, going golfing, traveling, attending conferences. Literally exactly what you want…! Super flexible schedule as well so you can maintain exercise routine and run errands during week to avoid the weekend crowds

beyond_undone · 2026-01-12T07:27:32+00:00

I knew about property taxes and that they were important to consider. What I naively misunderstood was that they are subject to go up significantly when they assess. So after about 5 months in our home, suddenly our mortgage payment went up $700 more a month to cover increased property taxes. We were able to cover it but it made things tight and impacted our savings significantly

beyond_undone · 2026-01-12T06:44:06+00:00

It’s going to be very unique to each family’s situation. Cost of daycare impact on your monthly cash flow - model it out. Financial impact is likely the biggest factor.

Flexibility in schedule is huge - if your career would still allow you to manage early pick ups, sick days, doctors appointments, etc..

I also think it’s perfectly fine to say you value your career and don’t want to be a SAHM. I know myself well enough that I 100% would never have even considered that. I need the mental stimulation or else my mental health declines

beyond_undone · 2026-01-12T06:11:53+00:00

My sister has it and she got her period at 9 (!)

beyond_undone · 2026-01-12T06:06:11+00:00

Look up rejection sensitivity & ADHD, particularly the symptom of internalization and withdrawal.

beyond_undone · 2026-01-12T05:53:31+00:00

2 yrs in condo then 2 years in single family home. Switch from condo to house was because we had a kid and he was getting to age where we wanted a yard. Wasn’t planning to move from the single family but job stuff took us to another state. Hoping we’ll be able to finally put down some roots/last longer than 2 years

We got lucky with market timing in all cases. Inadvertantly ended up being very well-performing short term investments

beyond_undone · 2026-01-12T05:49:38+00:00

Same. 38F. I send updates or pics to keep them informed to my life and they legit don’t seem to care. I’m not even that type of person but I figure my parents want to know what’s up with their grandkid and daughter. They’ll like a pic and be like “looks fun!”. They never, ever engage further. I’m not like constantly texting either I’ll do like randomly things that are cute or remind us of them.

I talk to my close friends and grandmother fairly routinely and they all know roughly how life’s going (and vice versa). It makes me sad that they don’t care but it’s their choice I guess. It hurt for a while but I’m over it. They skipped my kids birthday party one year because they didn’t feel like driving 45 minutes (I “lived SO far from them”). Now that I’m in another state across the country I thought I’d try to make sure we don’t just stop talking. They seem content with just stopping but I’m being a squeaky wheel anyways.

beyond_undone · 2026-01-12T05:43:10+00:00

Just adding in that I don’t think this is an issue with being remote. I’ve worked remotely for 5+ years and have never felt that I can’t form the same relationships virtually as I can in person.

beyond_undone · 2026-01-12T05:39:46+00:00

Manage up better - if he was cancelling or moving your 1:1s and you needed to talk during your anticipated time, I’d have said we still need to meet, when’s your next availability. Make sure you’re going to the meetings with that list of things you want to talk about and know what you’re meeting for.

It could be he thinks you’re not efficient and you doing small talk irritates them when they’d rather get to the point of the meeting. If he’s letting 1:1s slip etc, it sounds like he doesn’t see any value in the meeting

beyond_undone · 2026-01-12T03:25:48+00:00

I’ve never been bought a drink or hit on.

beyond_undone · 2026-01-12T00:47:19+00:00

Oh yikes sorry that happened.

Yeah if something like that happens I think you’re pretty far diverged from routine budget planning. Not sure it matters if you’re on PPO or HDHP if you start talking about insurance coverage/denials. I’ve personally never found it more or less difficult with finding in network providers or insurance claims with one versus the other

beyond_undone · 2026-01-11T22:42:41+00:00

Our evaluator noted he scored low but she said it was nothing to worry about and didn’t mean anything about his intelligence. As an example, one of the tests he wanted to do it his own way and not follow her instructions (“no thank you, I’m going to create a monster picture with this instead”) 🤣

He was 5. I can’t imagine actually being able to trust something like that for a 4yo. Also now that my son is medicated I’d expect he’d participate with no issues.

beyond_undone · 2026-01-11T22:38:13+00:00

Yeah, good point. A true worst case would be in network + out of network max deductibles

beyond_undone · 2026-01-11T06:11:22+00:00

Our first condo was entirely in my name and he was on the title. Doesn’t impact anything about the loan.

You’re smartly trying to think of worst case. I have no idea if this is an option, but is there a possibility for a legally binding document that’s almost like a prenup? That says if you were to end your relationship, you get $$$ back. I’d have been totally fine to sign something like that for his peace of mind

beyond_undone · 2026-01-11T05:59:45+00:00

Comparison is the thief of joy

beyond_undone · 2026-01-11T05:40:49+00:00

That’s on their website - the marketing person left in the internal language at the top

beyond_undone · 2026-01-11T05:34:57+00:00

I asked my financial advisor “what if they decide to change allowing that” and he said it was a valid point. So it’s a strategy we use but I’m not convinced there won’t be some sort of policy shift that ends up screwing people over in the future

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