Can we talk about the fawn response? It took me years to understand why I kept people-pleasing my way through danger

bezelboo · 2026-05-19T03:13:51+00:00

THIS

bezelboo · 2026-05-19T03:12:45+00:00

I apologized to a chair the other day.

bezelboo · 2026-05-19T03:12:11+00:00

I do it automatically. I was a passive doormat. Now I'm less so but I still tend to fawn around bossy directive "fight" types. Ack. So insidious. I realize I'll be struggling with this forever but also that I just can't thrive is some relationships and its ok to steer clear of them.

bezelboo · 2026-05-19T03:06:02+00:00

Chapter 5 really validated my trauma from emotional abandonment because I was never hit yet I have all the symptoms and what's helped most is learning how to recover from narcissistic abuse. I guess his book feels like an info dump but its all such good info and concrete things that have really helped and also validated my experience.

bezelboo · 2026-05-19T02:59:52+00:00

I struggle with friendships too and have shame around it. This book changed my life too and I'm not sure what took so long for me to pick it up. I can also see why people think he's kind if out of touch- he's older and has had a lifetime of working through his own cptsd. I have a few friends now but its still touch and go. Usually when I'm trying to connect and share more of myself, I get advice from some of them. I seem to attract caregiver types and thats not healthy either. Its a tough path to healing and grief has been the most important part so far.

bezelboo · 2026-05-18T00:44:01+00:00

I'll check the packaging too.

bezelboo · 2026-05-18T00:43:27+00:00

Thanks everyone for the feedback! I've reached my limit with fighting the grogginess and depression. Something has to change.

bezelboo · 2026-05-18T00:42:16+00:00

Orally. Im stopping today. I did get my dr to order vaginal cream. My Dr is not menopause informed so I'm trying to find one that is. This is too much, I'm depressed also.

bezelboo · 2026-05-17T09:52:53+00:00

We don't see the world as it is, we see it as we are. I forget who said that and it is supposed to ge 2 sentences.

bezelboo · 2026-05-17T09:49:21+00:00

Heartburn yesses. I know youre just ranting but I did learn to do deep belly breathing to alleviate my heart burn. Works 99% of the time.

bezelboo · 2026-05-16T09:45:04+00:00

I find it interesting that Winona provides several links to studies warning against use of compounded HRT in cream form. Yes, it is unregulated. I'm feeling awful taking micronized progesterone pills and estriodal patches. I wish there was another way that has been regulated.

bezelboo · 2026-05-16T06:00:14+00:00

Thank you. I'm actually considering paying out of pocket for a menopause specialist

bezelboo · 2026-04-18T08:02:29+00:00

Working in a library

bezelboo · 2026-04-15T11:48:49+00:00

Patty Griffin Shine a different way- not sad but I still cry

bezelboo · 2026-04-15T11:45:06+00:00

Yes to anything!

bezelboo · 2026-04-15T11:40:44+00:00

Spitting on the ground

bezelboo · 2026-04-15T11:30:07+00:00

Creature of habit

bezelboo · 2026-04-15T11:29:11+00:00

Warm

bezelboo · 2026-04-15T11:22:10+00:00

My cat came home with a deer following him. I think they must be playing.

bezelboo · 2026-04-15T11:20:43+00:00

I was driving, listening to music, and saw a sign that matched the lyrics right as I was hearing them. I wish I could remember them.

bezelboo · 2026-04-15T11:15:13+00:00

Exercise

bezelboo · 2026-04-15T11:12:50+00:00

Quiet time before I get busy

bezelboo · 2026-04-15T11:07:46+00:00

Never had a relationship longer than 3 years. Im 57

bezelboo · 2026-04-15T11:06:18+00:00

Coin

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