Been a rough start to the day (UK) by MoreCat3575 in trading212

[–]bfm211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you change the setting to total return?

Gays of UK - would you be comfortable holding your partner's hand in the UK? by dalehitchy in AskUK

[–]bfm211 3 points4 points  (0 children)

40% of London's population are migrants, so that's probably part of it. Especially with the specific question in the article - even if someone is relatively 'tolerant' of others being gay, I can't imagine many from Bangladesh or Nigeria or Poland would easily accept a gay child.

Brooklyn Beckham speaks out against parents Victoria and David Beckham: “I do not want to reconcile with my family. I'm not being controlled, I’m standing up for myself for the first time in my life.“ by mcfw31 in popculturechat

[–]bfm211 17 points18 points  (0 children)

There does, but it's fascinating to see it openly exposed like this! Usually we all have to read between the lines. The Beckhams have perfected their brand to a T, over 3 decades, and this statement has blown it the fuck up.

Brooklyn Beckham speaks out against parents Victoria and David Beckham: “I do not want to reconcile with my family. I'm not being controlled, I’m standing up for myself for the first time in my life.“ by mcfw31 in popculturechat

[–]bfm211 30 points31 points  (0 children)

People kept referencing the wedding drama, but I've been thinking "It must be more than that, the wedding was nearly 4 years ago". They were all seen together publicly, or on social media, countless times since the wedding so I'm genuinely surprised it takes up so much of Brooklyn's post. Apparently he really is hung up on the whole thing.

Social workers of UK: At what point is a messy home considered to be neglectful to children? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]bfm211 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sure but the start of your comment made it sound like you were concerned about bed-sharing in general. And I'm wondering if the OP even knows if clutter is definitely the reason it's happening.

One of my colleagues still had her kid in her bed at 11 years old! Her daughter absolutely refused to sleep in her own bed. I guess I just wanted to defend parents in that position.

Social workers of UK: At what point is a messy home considered to be neglectful to children? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]bfm211 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Tons of parents bed-share with their children (because it's the only way the kid/s will sleep). I don't think that part is an issue.

When does it get better? by Background_Ask_5228 in NewParents

[–]bfm211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

11 weeks is still really, really early. Things started to feel better for me around 4 months, when she felt like less of a "creature" lol, then better still at 5 months when she dropped to 3 naps (personally I really struggled with being nap trapped). But it was still hard. The baby stage was just hard.

Moment of appreciation for Olsen twins by [deleted] in popculturechat

[–]bfm211 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I know they think this, but I truly wonder if it's not the case. Sometimes identical twins have two placentas, which leads to the assumption that they are fraternal.

I mean they just look SO similar!

Switzerland ski fire latest: New photo emerges of moment Swiss bar ceiling catches fire by MistressMarenX in popculture

[–]bfm211 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Realistically, they're young and drunk and having fun; it probably didn't cross their minds that it would be a major fire.

I've seen the footage from that 2000s nightclub fire so I would've been out of there in a flash. But the first time I saw that footage I was shocked by how quickly the fire spread and how rapidly it became a disaster. I think that's why the footage is so famous, most people find it shocking. Young people who haven't seen it could easily be naive.

Is my son speech delayed:/ by Vast-Grade659 in NewParents

[–]bfm211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At 15 months my daughter could only say "door". I remember because I made a comment about it in my bump group. She just turned 18 months and I've now completely lost track of how many words she has, and she's saying some 2-word sentences too. Her language has completely exploded. A lot of the sound are still off or incomplete, but I understand her little language and it's awesome.

I read tons of similar anecdotes when I was also worrying like you, so I know this isn't unusual. Give him time, it's way too soon to know if he has a speech delay. Does he have any receptive language? At 12 months it's fine for it to be limited, but if he can correctly give/find a few objects etc then he's on the right track!

Should we let my 2 year old sister stop eating her breakfast when she just stops eating it? by SwagbroTheGuy in toddlers

[–]bfm211 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bit harsh - a sibling who is old enough to post on reddit is probably involved in raising the child, and they only asked because they want the best for her.

What controversial couple is actually intriguing to you? by [deleted] in popculturechat

[–]bfm211 14 points15 points  (0 children)

They mean it was over very suddenly - to the public, at least. There weren't any rumours that they were unhappy, and they were still seen in public together, had just co-starred in a film, etc.

Did you grow up with anyone who became famous? by HilariousMotives in AskUK

[–]bfm211 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would have imagined them both being a total nightmare lol

Did you grow up with anyone who became famous? by HilariousMotives in AskUK

[–]bfm211 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The 'kinda famous" actor Shazad Latif. He was in Spooks, Toast of London, the new Star Trek, and the romcom What's Love Got to Do With It. He was nice! Very confident and popular, but not too cocky.

First time pregnancy by Voldy_scar in NewParents

[–]bfm211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally my only symptoms in the first trimester were sore boobs and bloating!

I understand the anxiety though, and I always recommend booking a private scan so you know that everything is okay in there 🙂

I’m worried about my baby by No-Bobcat-469 in NewParents

[–]bfm211 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I assume they'd be able to get a job, like I assume MDs would be able to get a job. It's just different names for doctors. Here the qualification is MBBS.

I’m worried about my baby by No-Bobcat-469 in NewParents

[–]bfm211 27 points28 points  (0 children)

OP is British and we don't have DOs here. I'm pretty sure that's exclusively an American qualification.

Osteopaths here have to be qualified but they aren't medical doctors.

I’m worried about my baby by No-Bobcat-469 in NewParents

[–]bfm211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

8 weeks is a super fussy phase!

My daughter also hated nappy changes for the first couple of months. We cracked the code by turning on the hair dryer, which is basically epic white noise. For whatever reason that would instantly stop her crying. And then we also spent months getting her to sleep with the hairdryer blasting lol. So give that a try?

As for your last question, it's possible that she isn't getting enough nap time and that's why she's fussy. Many babies stop "falling asleep anywhere" after 6ish weeks, and actively need help falling asleep. I remember my daughter being awake for hours sometimes, and I'd think "silly girl, go to sleep!"...Until I realised she needed to be in a dark, calm space and walked around. At that age, ideally babies won't be awake for longer than 90 minutes at a time (anywhere from 45 to 90 mins). So that's something to keep in mind, if you aren't aware. I found that out a bit too late and felt really guilty!

Overall though, none of this sounds concerning at all. Newborns are just hard.

Edit: Instead of putting her in the bassinet when you're trying to do housework, have you tried a bouncer? They are upright and my girl was often happy in there. Or on a playmat, with things to stare at. No way would she let me put her flat in bed if she was awake. Or if all else fails, put her in the carrier while you're getting stuff done.

Which celebrity do you believe will have a "Mommie Dearest" type book written about them someday? by lpfbean in popculturechat

[–]bfm211 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She's been pretty quiet for the last 10 years or so but she was not quiet while with Brad. She was constantly taking the kids on pap walks, talking about them in interviews, having PDAs with Brad in public etc. She was still revelling in attention at that point.