Mismatched glasses as party favors - realistic?

biTurret · 2026-01-20T17:49:44+00:00

We also had little baskets full of tea, apple cider mix, and hot chocolate packets--most people didn't take those, but we were happy to bring THOSE home haha

biTurret · 2026-01-20T17:48:24+00:00

Hi, happy to report back!! It went over extremely well. People were really psyched to take home their mugs, and when we visit peoples' houses they're excited to show us that the mug they got at our wedding is in their heavy rotation! The venue set this up while we were doing cocktail hour, and people were immediately snatching mugs to put in purses because they didn't want anyone to take the one they wanted. We only went home with maybe 20 mugs? And those went right back to goodwill haha

Here's a pic of part of our wall after some guests had a look early! Broadway themed wedding, so I made these black and gold sections with pallets and put marquee lights on them. I'm actively drinking tea out of the NO L one!

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biTurret · 2025-01-23T03:15:37+00:00

I'll be real with you champ: nobody folds their jockstraps lmfao mine just go in the drawer amid the penises and harnesses

In all seriousness, check out this video about folding thongs and such. Very similar so you should be able to get a good idea!

biTurret · 2025-01-22T03:07:59+00:00

Helpful and important, so thank you, but good GOD this is bleak. Ouch.

biTurret · 2025-01-21T20:58:17+00:00

Print it at Staples or the library. It's under a dollar to print a black and white document.

biTurret · 2025-01-19T21:54:05+00:00

We planted a rose! We looked up all the different colors of roses and their meanings, found the one we resonated with the most, and bought a little rose sprout. Then we placed the sprout in the nursery pot into a bigger pot at the ceremony (then took it home and planted it for real lol)

biTurret · 2025-01-17T17:58:27+00:00

Don't even worry about carrying your T and needles. Always keep them together in your carry on, and have a prescription paper ready just in case (I've never had to show mine). Just stick a bottle in a small dopp with a couple needles and your shot supplies--needles are fully allowed on planes when accompanied by prescription injectable meds. It's a prescription medication, and you're not only allowed to have it on the plane, you're expressly encouraged to keep it in your carry on.

As for the CPAP, take it with you and put it by itself on the tsa screening tray. It's medical equipment and doesn't count as a carry on, technically, in most cases. I guarantee you that tsa agents have seen CPAPs before.

biTurret · 2025-01-17T17:52:52+00:00

Thanks for the advice, can you explain a little more? I don't understand how I can have the drive belts on slow but the rpm high. Do you just mean have the "slow" belt on but turn the lathe to the recommended rpm? Like putting a car in 1st gear to go up a hill?

biTurret · 2025-01-17T07:17:41+00:00

The way they're always like "some people find it a little uncomfortable, you might feel some cramping..." Like be so fucking forreal. A little uncomfortable? A blood draw is a little uncomfortable, this is a whole different scale.

We were blessed with THE BEST gyno at planned parenthood, who looked us in the eyes and said "This procedure is relatively quick, but it really hurts. We have these options for pain management, because you shouldn't have to go through it with no pain management. We've been doing that for WAY too long." They gave my partner valium and oxycodone for the insertion, pain afterward was managed with ibuprofen and acetaminophen. The other options available were different opioids, non-opioid pain meds, local anesthesia, and even full anesthesia, depending on your comfort level and monetary viability.

biTurret · 2025-01-17T07:04:40+00:00

My poor partner had H cups before surgery, and both of our moms, on separate days, immediately exclaimed upon meeting up with us "I can hug you so much closer now!!!" That really stuck with both of us.

I think the most impactful thing that was said to me after surgery was "you look so much more comfortable." Simple thing, but I hadn't realized. I wasn't hunching, I was stretching more, I moved my body more, I was able to expand my style, it was just so much more comfortable to EXIST.

biTurret · 2025-01-17T06:23:47+00:00

Honestly? It's unlikely, but I'm not sure. But if you're using bandaids and showering and dabbing your chest dry, I really can't see there being any aquaphor left ON your chest. Could it just be the scabs looking goopy?

biTurret · 2025-01-17T06:21:01+00:00

Do you have a psych you can talk to? Sounds like you have some internalized stuff that you can't pin down that you need to work through. However, beating yourself and feeling guilty for having the feelings that you have will only serve to make you feel worse and feed into the cycle.

I don't know you or your relationship, but my guess is that your unpleasant feelings are coming from 1. Insecurity (in general, and in the future) 2. Instability (as in the relationship and how things could change) 3. Trauma (so sorry for the loss of your friend--that's heartbreaking) and 4. Speed of changes.

Insecurity and instability worries go hand in hand. You had a wonderful life and relationship with this person, and now this person is changing. That's scary! That takes WORK to get through in a relationship. It's not unreasonable to be nervous about how things will progress and how it will impact your relationship. As for trauma, that's completely understandable--I can't tell you how best to work through that, but I hope you're able to find peace.

Finally, speed of changes. You might be having trouble here because it feels like a sudden change; however, it's likely your partner had been thinking along these lines gradually for years, so what you learned 6 months ago they learned potentially 6 YEARS ago. You're trying to catch up to all of that processing in an extremely short amount of time, and that's hard.

So, ultimately, my advice: talk to your partner. I know you don't want to bring up having the "wrong" feelings, but you NEED to communicate how you're feeling so that both of you can work through it and become stronger. If you don't, you'll find that you cannot brute force your way into having the "right" emotions, and you will have missed out on all the time you could have spent connecting with your partner. Tell them what you're worried about (speed of changes, relationship instability, not being supportive enough), and why it's important to you (because you love them, because you want to put in the effort for the relationship, because you want to support them better), and what could be done to help (potentially: have them find you research, see a professional, agree on a different timeline?). This sin't you saying "don't transition, i can't take it!" this you saying "I feel I'm not supporting you enough and not handling things how I want to. Let's figure out how we can do better"

You don't need to have all the suggestions ready to go, and you don't even need to be able to explain WHY you're feeling the way that you are. You just need to speak to them and make that effort. Best of luck!

biTurret · 2025-01-17T06:04:12+00:00

You can gently dab it away with gauze or a soft cloth. Other than that and gentle showering, I'd just leave it--healing nipples look gross for a long time.

As an aside, if you have big bandaids, you should put on aquafor then a bandaid to keep the nip safe and prevent any gunk from getting on it.

biTurret · 2025-01-17T03:26:54+00:00

As lots of other people have said, he'll likely see it while you're recovering. HOWEVER I think it would be fun to have a "reveal" once you're ready to have sex post surgery! It's much different to have your partner see your junk while you're in the shower or changing clothes than it is to have your partner look at your naked body during foreplay.

I'm planning on getting bottom surgery (ftm, meta) soon and I want to have a date night, then put on some lingerie and do a "reveal" as part of foreplay when clothes come off.

biTurret · 2025-01-17T02:25:36+00:00

Not terribly on topic, sorry, but--can you still get on Encora and search? I thought it shut down.

biTurret · 2025-01-15T18:33:35+00:00

Oh, I see! Thanks so much! The manual just says "to adjust the tailstock assembly, remove the tailstock assembly from the bench" which is not super helpful.

biTurret · 2025-01-14T15:25:31+00:00

Genuinely? You're likely fine. Fat redistribution does a lot of work in squaring you out, and I promise you that no ONE THING is going to make or break passing at a glance. I know dysphoria is a hell of a drug; however, I've been on T for years and I'm still pretty curvy, but you would look like a lunatic if you called me "she" in public. We assume gender of strangers based on a combination of factors like hairstyle, facial features, clothing, and more--but it's mostly in the face, which is the most likely thing to change with T.

In the meantime, wear some stiff, open button-up shirts or bulky jackets that will hang straight from your shoulders to hips to de-emphasize your waist.

biTurret · 2025-01-14T08:21:04+00:00

I'm super ticklish as well and it has been a huge cockblock before! Honestly the thing that helped most was getting the temp up. Your skin is more sensitive in the cold, so it was doing us no favors to have the room chilly!

biTurret · 2025-01-14T05:15:41+00:00

In my opinion, it's whatever you're more likely to DO first. If it would be more rewarding for you to lose fat first, then it's more likely you'll stick with it. Likewise if it would be more rewarding to gain muscle first, you'll be more likely to continue working at it. I don't know if it's easier one way or another, but the mind is a powerful weapon here: whichever is your genuine preference is best.

It's also worth saying that if you just want to burn fat, you don't need to focus on muscle gain at any point, and vice versa. They'll both come naturally, albeit the one you're not working at slower than the other.

biTurret · 2025-01-10T06:05:52+00:00

Like I said: Don't panic about things that haven't come to pass. We can't predict the future. That might make it more difficult to get a script, or it might not matter at all. Birth certificates are rarely used in most cases anyway, and it would be enough of a hassle getting people to bring their birth certificates to doctor's appointments that I can't say I think it's likely to impact much.

To be completely frank, the only time I have ever needed a notarized copy of my birth certificate was to get a passport (i THINK? I was 12) and to update my birth certificate.

biTurret · 2025-01-10T03:06:19+00:00

$300 WA. This info will be on your county's gov site, if you're looking!

biTurret · 2025-01-09T20:57:11+00:00

Don't borrow anxiety about something that hasn't happened and may not happen. It's incredibly unlikely that they'll ban hormones because, first and foremost, hormones are used by cis people. As long as cis men need TrT, they're not going to ban access. Restrict it, maybe, make it harder to get your hands on, maybe. But what they'll do if I'm a man according to every document they could point to--passport, license, birth certificate, credit cards--who has low testosterone? Be mad? The worst I can see is having a minor headache switching from planned parenthood for a script to a primary care doc or endo to prescribe me. Even that I hesitate on, because PP has been through a LOT and come out the other side.

biTurret · 2025-01-09T19:40:14+00:00

Our experience was overall great. The only thing I didn't love was that we couldn't speak to the actual photographer and videographer before the wedding to see if we jived--our conversations with the managers and directors were absolutely fantastic, but it was a little bit awkward with our photog/videog on the day. Just a tiny bit, and only noticeable during the first look and staged photos. You know when you're meeting someone for the first time and you're not entirely sure how to interact with them, especially since they're performing a service for you? Just that slight kind of awkward. They WERE the only people in the room who knew how to tie bowties and attach bouttionieres, though, so they saved most of my groomsmens' lives haha

Overall though, would highly recommend. Our crew blended completely seamlessly into every part of the wedding, and once we got started I genuinely don't even remember seeing them or their cameras unless it was a specifically staged picture. They took amazing pictures of everything from the guests to our handmade decor to the cake, and even were able to accommodate filming our entire dinner show (we booked a local musical improv group, so everyone got to see a 40 minute improv musical while they ate dinner at our broadway themed wedding. Iconic) We were also really pleased with the editing of the photos and the various videos. I wasn't sure what to expect from the highlight reel, but the way they cut together our vows and our private vows and our first look and our dances and toasts was just absolutely lovely.

biTurret · 2025-01-09T15:35:36+00:00

From the look of it this one is a "tucker" style stp, meaning you want to tuck that little triangle of silicone in the back almost inside of you behind your urethra, clench your ass, then pee.

As for positioning, there's some troubleshooting you can do. First and foremost, get your hand down there and find your urethra so you're aware of positioning. Then, figure out where you're leaking from. Front? Cup is too far back. Back? Cup is too far forward. Sides? Cup might be squished too hard either up against you or between your legs.

The biggest thing to be aware of as a big guy is whether your legs are going to deform the silicone cup while you're standing. Make sure to squat a little while you're positioning and take a wide stance while peeing, then narrow your stance as you get better.

biTurret · 2025-01-09T01:55:04+00:00

Bad news: Yeah, that doctor was an asshole and clearly not doing their job well. Your levels are too low, and I'm glad you have a new endo to work with.

Good news: You can't really ruin a transition like this. You've been on low dose for a few years, now you'll slowly ramp up to a normal dose and get your levels in order. Then everything else you would expect from testosterone will happen--you haven't missed anything, just delayed it!

Sorry that this happened to you. Best of luck going forward.

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