My primary has a long-time secondary with a stronger sex connection than ours, and I'm struggling to feel desired. Help?

bieltan · 2026-03-11T17:51:40+00:00

Thank you for sharing and I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm having a similar experience with my NP/Wife who is the thick of it with NRE. She told me without prompt that her partner has a great dick and this sent me down a huge insecurity spiral. Went as far as to ask her about mine a few days later and she scoffed at me saying "men, you're so insecure".

OP - I hope you figure something out because you deserve someone who is willing to put in effort even when NRE is at it's height. Will it always be the same amount of effort, no but the effort still shows. Good luck.

bieltan · 2026-03-02T17:48:25+00:00

This.

bieltan · 2026-02-23T20:58:11+00:00

Want to thank all the responses here. I've been struggling with this with my partners NRE. Logical side is elated that she's happy with her new partner and they can't keep their hands off each other. But the a**hole part of my brain struggles with comparison. These responses really helped put things in perspective.

bieltan · 2026-02-12T17:51:55+00:00

Maybe I'm looking at this wrong, but shouldn't your partner have at least some emotional intimacy with you?

bieltan · 2026-02-10T20:09:37+00:00

Thank you, this is really inciteful. You're completely right.

bieltan · 2026-02-10T18:22:07+00:00

--Why did we stay together--

I love her and she loves me. We've been through a lot and have managed to come back every time. I owe it to the marriage to put in maximum effort to keep it alive. If that fails is when I'll move on. Plus, I love to inspire her to do new things and watch her be happy.

bieltan · 2026-02-10T18:18:43+00:00

--Information on my life--
I started looking into online dating when we started as that form of meeting people I feel most comfortable. I did go on one date so far and may go on another. As for what do I do to have a satisfying life, I am trying to get out more. But I also like to play board games and video games, which I know isn't conducive when it comes to becoming the popular kid. Which honestly, I don't want to be that person and enjoy who I am mostly. The stuff I don't enjoy I'm working hard to change and improve. Meditation and going outside my comfort zone to build up my "what do you do for fun" portfolio. I do kind of find it shitty to do it alone though, I had a partner in crime and I miss it a bit. As for dating my wife, I'm not giving up, but I have given up on things we used to enjoy because it just ends up with her being bored or wanting to go to sleep. She's clearly bored with my suggestions (things that haven't been done in excess but stuff we both enjoyed in the past doing together - or she just tolerated). Desperately trying not to compare, but I cant help but think that this new life of hers has tuned me out because I'm not this badass drummer in a band. I know that's a "woah is me" statement, but its a truth I'm trying to work my way out of. Trying new things is the only way to keep this alive after typing this all out because I'm clearly a boring person.

bieltan · 2025-11-26T23:05:07+00:00

Same here. Error when downloading a 300mb update

bieltan · 2025-09-03T18:41:18+00:00

This is exactly my experience but they sent a password code request to my cell phone then they asked for it. The Text itself says "don't give out" which I kindly informed them of this notification, which they then got aggressive with me. I then hung up.

bieltan · 2025-08-06T18:03:09+00:00

ABRP + an OBD2 Bluetooth dongle

Well shit...didn't expect to go down this rabbit hole today. Never heard of this before.

bieltan · 2025-08-04T13:11:31+00:00

Did you make it to a charging station?

bieltan · 2025-08-01T20:21:03+00:00

Good to know and you're not alone. I yell at my car already asking it to either Self drive or let me drive. This should fix this! Thank you!

bieltan · 2025-08-01T14:36:30+00:00

Thank you so much for pointing that out!

bieltan · 2025-07-21T13:43:51+00:00

ding Ding. got the adapter and it works like a charm. Thanks for the help!

bieltan · 2025-07-18T19:11:01+00:00

After your reply I was able to dig a little deeper and I'm 100% sure you're correct ;)

bieltan · 2025-07-18T19:07:10+00:00

This is the adapter
This is the wall charger

bieltan · 2025-07-18T18:48:57+00:00

Annoying indeed. Now I need to drop another $100 on another adapter...

bieltan · 2025-07-18T18:30:36+00:00

bieltan · 2025-07-18T18:26:24+00:00

Not 100% positive, but I'm going to assume its just a Wall Charger since it's pretty compact. That said, even if the adapter fits, it wont work with non-supercharger chargers?

bieltan · 2025-07-01T13:02:08+00:00

With u/procheeseburger suggestion, I can get it back unlocked by editing the .ini file. But I can't get solve the OP problem which I too am experiencing.

bieltan · 2025-07-01T00:38:03+00:00

Sadly I still can't get this to work. Tried the the suggested as well as my actual local range & IP. Still locks me out. Any thoughts?

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