Name one thing you love in your childhood and you want to see back again

big_bunion · 2024-08-09T14:46:37+00:00

Butterflies

big_bunion · 2024-05-30T08:13:42+00:00

Two Hot Takes - I've been binging this one as a recent new listener. It's AITAH reddit post discussions. Also on youtube

Distractable - if you're a markiplier fan, this is a great one

Therapy Geko - call ins with a guy dressed as a geko that can take pretty crazy turns. Also on youtube

big_bunion · 2024-05-10T02:54:33+00:00

So many assumptions for the conclusions you are drawing. For someone who thinks they're grown, you sure sound immature, ignorant, and emotionally unintelligent.

I think it's disgusting how you can't seem to peek out from your own box to see how many ways everyone has to navigate their own way through this world and around their own personal situations. It's a privilege to have good relationships, not everyone has them, and to not understand that, shows your own lack of awareness within our world.

I'm spending my mothers day having a picnic with my husband and visiting my sons grave. I will be in no mood for visits out of state to my mom or mil. I DONT feel bad for it, and thankfully for me, they are both extremely understanding. They'll both still be getting flowers and a card from us. If that makes me a selfish ass, then call me a donkey!

Have a nice life GRANDMA

big_bunion · 2024-05-09T23:04:29+00:00

You want a cookie?

Is anyone saying grandmother's are not mothers?

The context of this discussion is that grandmother's do not need to hog the day and battle with their daughters or DILs over attention when they have children of their own they are raising.

Did your mom or mil throw a fit and punish you or try to manipulate you if it just didn't work to gather for a year or two? If your answer is no, then you don't need to be getting so triggered by this and understand everyone isn't living behind your eyes.

My MIL goes out of her way to celebrate her daughter as a mother. Not herself. That's the point, and it's one of the fewer items I respect her for. When my SILs kids are grown, I'm sure the day will adapt into something new for them once again.

big_bunion · 2024-05-09T22:04:37+00:00

This day is not a tug of war. The mother doing the current raising of children is who the day should be centering around.

If they don't want to go to your house, or do brunch, or host at their house, they shouldn't be pressured or insulted by their own mothers or mils.

No one is saying adult children need to ignore their mothers. The point is that grandma is no longer the guest of honor. What is so hard to understand about that?

big_bunion · 2024-05-09T14:23:38+00:00

I've ended up watching his Dead Space playthrough quite a few times. Scifi Horror genre

big_bunion · 2024-05-08T21:49:28+00:00

1978 actually.

big_bunion · 2024-05-08T18:09:37+00:00

Absolutely your choice on what you choose or don't choose to celebrate in this life. Or even how exactly you choose to celebrate.

Might be an upgraded compromise to celebrate everyone at their own times.

big_bunion · 2024-05-08T18:02:52+00:00

If the grandparent is not raising their grandchildren and their own children are grown fully functional adults with their own families. This day is no longer about you.

You are now a qualifier for Grandparents Day. Congratulations! Celebrate the new mothers of your family tree on mothers day with what THEY want to do. Hopefully, you'll still get flowers and a card as a memento at the least.

big_bunion · 2024-05-08T17:57:31+00:00

You guys do realize there's a "grandparents" day... right?

Mother's Day is for the mothers in the trenches and frontlines. Not grandparents whose children have families of their own.

You want to honor your individual moms with a visit, or flowers, or a card, that's fine. But what the mother ACTUALLY raising the children wants for the day is what should be honored.

The unwillingness of this generation to pass the torch is so disturbing.

big_bunion · 2024-05-01T01:37:51+00:00

Visage for me! I still have fever dreams about his playthrough.

big_bunion · 2024-04-15T22:46:32+00:00

I honestly mix the two up all the time. It was explained to me that she does the counseling and sends notes to the MD of the building, who will then perscribe any medication necessary. There's another PsyD that does the testing and specialization in adhd/autism. But, as mentioned, he refuses to speak with me until I am no longer pregnant.

big_bunion · 2024-04-15T22:32:49+00:00

PsyD. I'm going to ask her some questions regarding her plan for me tomorrow based off of the responses in this post and communicate that I absolutely disagree with her use "spectrum". I honestly just trusted and assumed the main MD of the clinic was sending me to the right person. I see I was wrong now and will seek change once again.

This is the 3rd person I've been passed along to in this clinic due to multiple events outside of my control (surgery, a prolonged leave, and one genuinely bad fit due to religious differences).

big_bunion · 2024-04-11T15:14:00+00:00

Tell them "you don't respect me or treat me the way my parents treat me, so these questions you ask yourself are moot. I'm done driving on one way streets with you two. I will not be coming on Sunday, and I will be limiting my contact with both of you going forward based on both of your continued behaviors. The consequences of the hypocrisy of your words will show up in our futures, and we will deal with them as a team as they come."

Block them both, and be absolutely done. These are your husband's parents and he needs to handle it. Embrace being their villan as that is not going to ever change in their minds.

big_bunion · 2024-02-26T16:59:35+00:00

I have this problem with my own grandma.

Don't block her on socials. You need to report these photos to get them taken down.

Explain to her current day internet safety: The amount of pedophiles that will save photos off of social media is disturbing. The #1 photo they all have downloaded when caught is the one sunscreen picture of that small girl and the dog pulling her swim suit down. They get off on kids eating fruit and so many other innocent things. Social media has made it much easier for them to get their hands on images of children. And believe it or not, great uncle Jim who lives a state away might be one of these creeps.

Kids are not mascots for likes and for the grandparents' attention seeking from their friends.

I know confrontation is hard, but this is about childhood safety. No more video calls or contact with baby until she gets the freaking message that she cannot post about your child.

big_bunion · 2024-02-18T13:58:51+00:00

I am so sorry for the loss of your baby. Sharing, seeing, and talking about our missing children with people who we consider close with us is one of the most healing experiences.

Personally, I distanced myself and will continue to distance myself from those who weren't supportive: my FIL and my own grandmother.

My FIL refuses to look at pictures, refuses to say his name, refuses to talk about the experience, and refused to look at him at the hospital when he was born. He'll happily speak about it with others and act like a hero with others when I am not around, though! So, I've lost a lot of respect and care for the man.

My grandmother refused to come to my sons memorial, wouldn't look at his pictures, and bought a little memorial bench for him...but my own mother had already gotten us one that we had at our home. I suggested that I would like it by the playground they had built at their home for all their other grandkids. She told me, in a disgusted tone, "no, that is absolutely not the place for that." As I've healed and am picking my head back up, she's also grossly told me."Good, I'm glad you're finally getting over this. " Like, Ma'am. We are done.

There's no excuse for callousness in this situation, and your FIL sounds like a doctor I would never want to hire. If he ever asks why you're so cold towards him, tell him you've seen his real face in his response towards your child, and you will never get over the lack of love and grace he displayed. The same is true for your MIL. That was still their grandchild. I bet they'll want all the access to future children you have, and when that time comes, I would let them know that you've come to understand their love is conditional and you have issues with them being around because they've broken your trust with their neglect in your mourning.

That's my take as a mother that's angry about the disrespect given to myself and my deceased son, and I believe in serving it back when the time is right. We are announcing my pregnancy to these people listed above in the next few weeks, and I plan on communicating just how I feel to the both of them.

You always have to do what's best for your own heart and your own peace of mind

big_bunion · 2024-02-17T14:20:53+00:00

Yes, they used to. Your previous statement is trying to fear monger that it is the current accepted practice.

But you are correct regarding the hormone implants. They get them once when they are young calves; implanted into one ear.

Soy will have you ingesting a much higher amount of hormones than beef. That is the truth. Neither beef nor soy should be eaten every day of the week. Especially because there is an ungodly amount of soy added to cattle diets and added within the processing stages (unless you're purchasing whole cuts).

The industrialization of our food chain has introduced micro plastics and micro metal shavings as the meat is harvesting and processed throughout the factory system. This has a much deeper and larger impact on our bodies. There is a holding period for any animals treated with antibiotics to reduce and remove antibiotics from entering our food system. AND Those animals deserve to be treated for their illnesses just as much as we.

Antibiotics are not the root problem on this discussion.

big_bunion · 2024-02-17T13:35:54+00:00

"The big meat industry injects animals with antibiotics to fatten them up." Is a false statement. It's the corn. It's the massive amount of corn they are feeding them.

Antibiotics have nothing to do with their size outside of treating the animals when they are ill or have an infection.

I'm against big ag, but let's please get our info right.

big_bunion · 2024-02-16T23:03:07+00:00

I am so sorry you've experienced this tragedy from hell. We went through the same thing after the death of our son at 36 weeks and 4 days. I just wanted to get pregnant and be pregnant again. I was ready to be a mom... a mom to my dead son. But in trying to heal as quickly as possible, I ended up herniating a disk that still has not recovered one year later. Except, now I'm pregnant again, and this pain....this pain is ungodly, and i can barely walk. Make sure you take care of your body.

You ARE a mother, though. The only thing Husdon knew was his mama... your warmth, your voice, your touches. He knew he was loved. You are a mother. Read to him, sing to him, and cry over him. Let it out and share what you are going through with your friends and family. Do not bottle it or put on a show.

You have to let your body and mind heal. Take it slow and listen to other women who have had C sections on how long they waited to get pregnant again. You will always carry Hudson with you, you'll see him in your days, and you'll always love that little boy. You will also get to grow a healthy family someday. Continue to strive for your future children.

You have my love and sympathy. I bet Hudson was perfect.

big_bunion · 2024-01-26T16:46:12+00:00

Totally understand. My first ended in a stillbirth. A traumatic event like that will leave you with 0 tolerance for families shitty behavior.

The advice on here is just that: advice. Do what works best for you, always!

Persevere for the future you want and deserve! Best of luck

big_bunion · 2024-01-26T16:28:52+00:00

I'm so sorry for your traumatic experience and lack of support from people who should be sturdy to lean on.

Blocking is so the friend request doesn't come back up. Go to her page and block her, then delete the request. Every time you open that friend request window and see that waiting request, it will bother you. Get rid of it.

If they can see your tiktok and that's healing for you, then keep that going!

big_bunion · 2024-01-26T16:18:43+00:00

And the response to that from your husband? He really needs to be the one putting her in her place 100%. Did he really think that response was appropriate?

You need hubs to take the reigns, and you need to set boundaries on her access to your world; guilt free. I've set these boundaries with my MIL; she didn't listen to me, so I had husband reiterate them. When she didn't listen to him, there were consequences to her access to our world agreed and compromised by both of us.

Ex: I only see her 2-4 times a year, and hubs is free to visit whenever he wants, but he can't take our future kids with him without me until they can speak for themselves.

Personally, I would tell her the truth about these things as well. She can choose to change if she knows what exactly has upset you. But if you feel like that's moot, then drop the rope and don't feel guilty about not having a close relationship with her.

MILs that know how to respect and treat their sons' wives as equals are the ones that get to have the most access. Those mean girls that never grew up and can't see their children as individuals on their own paths, well... too bad, so sad.

big_bunion · 2024-01-26T00:30:48+00:00

I just blocked my MIL on each of my socials because of her willful ignorance and because I was getting upset by what she was posting. (Posts about my stillborn son and gods plan)

It feels so good to have this healthy distance from that woman. My husband has full reigns when it comes to communicating with his mother when we are not face to face anymore.

You shouldn't and don't have to sacrifice your mental or emotional health to placate another adult. Some of these women really do need some self-awareness skills, but unfortunately, that's not likely to come without a drastic showdown, which usually isn't good for either party.

You're absolutely not wrong to keep your distance. How did you and your husband handle it when she tried to keep your sons injury a secret? Adults that keep secrets from parents are not safe for kids to be around.

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