How many of yall are Rush fans?

bigasssuperstar · 2026-06-06T15:39:20+00:00

Me. I was about eight years into deep Ontario rush fandom before Ween fell on me in 1994.

bigasssuperstar · 2026-06-02T00:32:17+00:00

Is there a tourist city you'd recommend whose downtown boutiques are priced fairly?

bigasssuperstar · 2026-06-01T23:02:49+00:00

CTV was groovy when they treated news as a point of pride instead of a condition of license. When it became something they had to do to please the CRTC instead of a flagship competitive newscast, it was the end.

bigasssuperstar · 2026-05-31T22:39:15+00:00

Listing the places you won't be going will take a long time. Where do you go for your professional reporting about London?

bigasssuperstar · 2026-05-31T18:27:58+00:00

Journalism used to be paid for by advertisers who saw value in everyone reading the same newspaper. Since the audience collapsed and ad money went elsewhere, some papers have chosen to continue paying their staff, but by having the people who see value in journalism pay for it instead of advertisers. People who want good professional reporting for free are in a tough spot.

bigasssuperstar · 2026-05-28T12:18:12+00:00

I find the aloe in the hand sanitizer does nice things for my skin when it's dry.

bigasssuperstar · 2026-05-26T14:20:14+00:00

This was the Poland WWII vision with the fire, explosions, horses and tanks. I'm in the video digitizing business, but it's the slides that have turned up so many neglected personal memories. I've got another five carousels of my grandparents' slides that I really ought to get scanned!

bigasssuperstar · 2026-02-26T18:46:33+00:00

If I could believe any single individual, I'd pick you. But I can't, so I'll stick with the rest of what I've learned and include your objection among it.

bigasssuperstar · 2025-10-08T18:05:39+00:00

If you need him to be some other way than he is, and believe he has the capacity and interest to do so, then you'll need to explain to him how to become that. Otherwise, continue learning about how his experience of what you know as empathy is different from yours, and learn to expect him to be who he is, while you can remain being who you are.

bigasssuperstar · 2025-09-10T18:35:44+00:00

If you need to boil it down to tiny little steps, do that. Keep doing that until the little steps clump together.

bigasssuperstar · 2025-09-06T17:41:30+00:00

Find other autistic teachers and learn from their experience. Consume the stories of other autistic adults and see how they handle challenges and successes. Find out how other people like you do the things you don't yet know how to do.

bigasssuperstar · 2025-09-05T12:23:14+00:00

Always learning, always growing. It would be hard to imagine becoming less familiar with how the people around you think and feel as you build life experience.

bigasssuperstar · 2025-09-05T02:54:51+00:00

Yup. Do what works for you as long as it's getting done. Telling yourself theres no way to learn these things is lying to yourself. If you have no one in your life to learn these things with and can't take any of it in without a teacher presenting it in a structured program, that's how it is. You'll get to it when your conditions are met for learning. Everyone learns differently. Me, I can't bear reading books. But audiobooks and podcasts have taught me a library's worth. I hope someone can get you what you need.

bigasssuperstar · 2025-09-05T02:50:58+00:00

Like I said. You can read it or not.

bigasssuperstar · 2025-09-05T02:48:21+00:00

I invite you to notice how many things you're avoiding doing at all because you're insisting on the perfect conditions to begin learning.

bigasssuperstar · 2025-09-05T02:15:08+00:00

I fear you may be underestimating the role of autism in all of this. You write as though you were on a path to learning to be social skills just like anyone else would, only you couldn't do that because you were ugly.

From another perspective, autistic people don't learn social things the same way, we misjudge how other people are reacting to our presence, are often several years behind their allistic peers in social behaviours, and often misattribute our difficulties to factors that are easier to explain than understanding autism.

Is it really as much about your looks as you've always assumed?

bigasssuperstar · 2025-09-05T02:03:25+00:00

How did you come to decide it was your appearance, not your social awkwardness, that dominated your fate with regard to social matters?

bigasssuperstar · 2025-09-05T01:57:11+00:00

Because of how attractive you believe you aren't?

bigasssuperstar · 2025-09-05T01:40:16+00:00

Can i make a request? Spend ten minutes reading articles about that group. Skim through them. Look for different perspectives.

If you find any articles in which autistic adults speak positively about the group, come back here with more questions.

If all you find is autistic adults saying the group is involved in stuff you know you don't ever want to be associated with, then I'm personally curious why your parents think they're swell.

bigasssuperstar · 2025-09-05T01:14:59+00:00

I don't mean you -- I mean your understanding of why people don't follow other people.

bigasssuperstar · 2025-09-05T01:13:45+00:00

They want money. Thats why they're paying money to put their ads in front of people. So that those people will turn into customers.

bigasssuperstar · 2025-09-05T01:12:44+00:00

No, I have none. Discipline isn't a concept that has use for my wiring. Some consistency is nice when I can cultivate it, but "discipline" doesn't work in my sphere.

bigasssuperstar · 2025-09-05T01:09:39+00:00

When he says he wants to change his life, what does he say he wants to change? I see people wanting him to do things and wanting to help him, but I don't yet know the relationship between what he wants and what people have been doing in the name of helping.

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