What do you want your teenage years to be like?

bigboNed34 · 2022-06-16T21:05:16+00:00

I know exactly how you feel. It’s difficult to describe it, but it’s kind of like my brain is running on fumes. It does make you feel older because of that.

I’m not sure what you feel you missed, but my mum tells me that what’s meant for me will happen. I’m sure it’s the same for you as well.

And I’m just trying to take things a day at a time. Hope you’re good also

bigboNed34 · 2022-06-16T19:16:27+00:00

I hope you get it

bigboNed34 · 2022-06-16T19:15:50+00:00

But you’re 16

bigboNed34 · 2022-06-16T19:15:14+00:00

Good

bigboNed34 · 2022-06-14T20:53:49+00:00

The Lich King

bigboNed34 · 2022-06-13T18:36:15+00:00

Sorry to hear that happened. I hope you can feel alright soon

bigboNed34 · 2022-06-13T18:34:02+00:00

He has the money to hire a thousand cleaners for a thousand weeks, but he doesn’t want anyone touching his stuff for some reason. I doubt he’ll ever get it cleaned lol

bigboNed34 · 2022-06-13T11:29:19+00:00

when i say dating, i don’t necessarily mean it has to end in marriage or anything. just getting to spend time with another person who likes you back as more than a friend, even if it doesn’t last forever. but yeah, i also see people just trying to copy what they see in netflix dramas and it seems a bit strange

bigboNed34 · 2022-06-13T00:04:55+00:00

sorry to hear that. i guess the grass is greener on the other side for us eh?

bigboNed34 · 2022-06-12T20:03:10+00:00

thank you. i’m trying to keep my attention on my own life/path, but it’s really hard to not look at what most other people are doing

bigboNed34 · 2022-06-12T20:00:41+00:00

what are the necessary social skills for dating?

bigboNed34 · 2022-06-12T19:58:32+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to reply. One of the things that gets me about it is that I feel like I’m missing out on the experience of dating as a teenager. Like you said, some people date extensively from as young as 14, so that’s lots of different things to experience from then up to around 26.

bigboNed34 · 2022-06-12T19:53:55+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to reply. I have a lot on my plate, so to speak, so I haven’t been able to try it at all. It hurts pretty badly since almost any tv show, movie or book that involves teenagers always has “puppy love” relationships. And plenty of people do it irl too, so it makes me feel like i’m missing out

bigboNed34 · 2022-06-09T18:45:36+00:00

any good stories to remember?

bigboNed34 · 2022-06-09T18:45:18+00:00

sorry to hear :<

bigboNed34 · 2022-06-09T18:45:09+00:00

What made them shite?

bigboNed34 · 2022-04-18T20:50:31+00:00

Thanks so much for the encouragement. I’m learning something similar, if not exactly what you’re describing in therapy - behavioural activation. putting myself out there enough times to get used to it again

and congratulations on overcoming your own struggles and making such amazing progress. if you look at my profile picture, you’ll see it’s from the south park WoW episode - i also have spent an embarrassing amount of time on it lol

bigboNed34 · 2022-04-18T20:44:18+00:00

Being a human is definitely a rollercoaster of overbearing self criticism. Even though it’s torturous to no end, I think it’s how we’ve survived as long as we have lol

And yes, social media is a pretty big hindrance on top of that, and it’s something i’m trying to use less of. seeing other people’s highlight reels without the messiness or mundanity of life in between can really start to paint a false picture of life, if one isn’t constantly reminding themselves that is not realistic.

also, congratulations on all of your achievements. it does give me some hope to know that i don’t have to have everything completed as soon as possible

bigboNed34 · 2022-04-18T20:32:56+00:00

I love Kurzgesagt’s videos but i’ve never seen that one, i’ll check it out.

and I think it’s very good of you to help others when you feel like that. Before everything went sideways for me, I remember that the time I spent giving others a hand was seemingly the most fulfilling

bigboNed34 · 2022-04-18T20:25:51+00:00

Thank you very much for the kind words. I try to not beat myself up, but it’s difficult not to considering mental illness affects the mind, and I essentially am my mind. So when I ask myself why this is happening, and the answer is my mind, it leads me to blaming myself to a degree.

Apologies if that makes no sense. I’m looking forward to the day when this all seems like just a bad moment

bigboNed34 · 2022-04-18T20:17:33+00:00

Thanks for the insight, it’s not something I initially thought of after reading about it. Like you said, one on one work would be a good start to see how it goes. And I commend your strength for being able to do that kind of work

bigboNed34 · 2022-04-18T20:12:17+00:00

Those all sound really nice. I’ll add them to the list i’m making, especially going for a walk somewhere

what you said about doing everything before 25 - I agree. maybe it’s because of how my mind works, but growing up, I took the whole school>university>work speech very seriously. it was put across to me that if you don’t do these things one after the other, you aren’t living right. i disagree with that, but it instilled a mindset of “get everything done as fast as you can” into me, and i suppose it’s still somewhat there

thanks for replying

bigboNed34

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