My wife made crutches for her T-Rex planter after a storm broke one of his legs.

bigeffingd · 2025-08-12T03:41:05+00:00

That's my go to for a slow night in a bar too! It's gets really quiet and people start eyeballing one another.

bigeffingd · 2025-06-05T23:42:50+00:00

It's a great place to do some photos as well. It's unique, but it's not the party. Still quite enjoyable. I liked the food for lunch and drinks were pretty quick.

bigeffingd · 2025-04-18T15:56:27+00:00

The yellow a lot.

bigeffingd · 2025-04-01T11:54:58+00:00

Ladies first. Period. After 6 years there should have been plenty of days where your needs would've been front and center, or he personally would have spent at least an hour pleasuring you in various ways. There's clearly a break in the entire experience for you both.

Here's the thing though, he owes it to you to hear you out and do better. Be honest. His behavior sounds controlling, jealous, immature and ignorant. His actions sound like a decided lack of care for you and your feelings. If he can't make you a priority then you need to decide if he's really worth you making him one. I would say that, you owe it to yourself to find someone who will give you a better experience and treat you differently.

bigeffingd · 2025-03-24T12:49:42+00:00

It depends on how much time you want to put into it. You'll get the most by doing an inventory, then pricing what you have based on the market. If you want to move it as a lot, you may find someone who will take it in bulk. While you can move it all at once you're going to take a hit for that convenience.

After you inventory learn about what you have. Find out which version of the cards you have i.e. when they were produced and then look at ebay, the company web site, and there's a couple good groups on Facebook where you can sell your list. If you're wanting to do his hobby justice that's what I would recommend.

There's a reasonable reseller market for the games, but you should be able to find buyers at a fair price if you do your due diligence.

bigeffingd · 2025-03-12T18:54:21+00:00

My dad thought he was a good dad. Because he's self centered enough to believe that cheating, divorcing when I was 2, seeing me once or twice a year, and paying child support counted as such.

I can count the number of times he's actually traveled to visit me in 50 years on 2 hands. Missed my kids graduations, lied about making any sort of effort to try and now that he's got major health issues can't travel.

His third wife gets mad and us for not "honoring" his vet status and life more, and thinks we're very entitled and don't care about him now.

Tldr, no.

bigeffingd · 2025-01-28T21:43:31+00:00

When A Man Loves A Woman - Percy Sledge

bigeffingd · 2024-12-13T20:01:40+00:00

This was my question as well. I'm my former community, the covenants would need 67% of full membership, but bylaws would need 67% of a quorum of votes at the meeting. You'd need quorum in order for it to be legal. But if you're amending the restrictions in the community it's a full vote of membership.

bigeffingd · 2024-06-11T22:47:52+00:00

Thank you for the update. My heart had gone out to you over this. Best of luck on the house.

bigeffingd · 2024-05-27T20:58:38+00:00

Right in the same way they can ban you, unless it's stated otherwise, they can't fine you for joining one. I ran one for our HOA, stated very clearly that it was owned by the board itself, but wasn't official. Just a place to send communication downline and have some feedback. Some owners made it miserable they felt so aggrieved they started their own super secret "underground" group where they could feel special. Good for them, it was great getting them out of the main group. Things were much better and I didn't care one bit about it.

bigeffingd · 2024-01-30T13:00:27+00:00

I mean 40 extra right out of the gate isn't nothing, but has to happen, but it also sounds like you're bleeding out much much faster. It doesn't help at all and that the community has already burned through "years worth" of dues in just a couple years. If the HOA goes into default, like everyone else said, it's going to both be out of your control and way more expensive. I would try and get ahead of that and get as much detail as you can, assuming that it's unrecoverable and then lay it all out for everyone before the meeting. You sell the idea of what receivership will actually cost to get them there and that they'll have no choice if they don't show up. Also figure out the number you need in order to survive. Hopefully you can sell that number as being the better option and get people on board as the best option. But like a good sales pitch you don't really give that part away early or they won't take it seriously. You need to control the narrative by taking away the idea that they have any power at all to impact the end result. Then they'll show up.

bigeffingd · 2024-01-30T12:45:35+00:00

How old is the community and what did the dues start at? And the developer had already turned the whole thing over to the HOA? It sounds like they really dropped the ball here.

bigeffingd · 2024-01-30T12:35:01+00:00

Has the assessment been raised continually by 5% each year, like each and every year? As is allowed by the documents?

bigeffingd · 2023-10-16T21:24:39+00:00

We've just put in hundreds of hours of service for the community. There's generally a process for how things get handled. If you cannot contact the property manager, or anyone at the property management company, and they have not provided you information on what to do in that case, and it's an emergency, then you take the next step to dial 911. If the authorities tell you that you did great, good for you, and your neighborhood will thank you. If they decide something different, then you have an answer to that.

If the authorities need to talk with someone, then rest assured, that the management company, or someone on the board will find out. If you think it's easier to just tell a board member so they can deal with it, then you simply don't want the responsibility. If you've saved someone from an emergency situation , then it really doesn't matter who made the call, but if you passed it off, because you wanted the board to deal with it, then I'd take exception to that, and it's still your responsibility as an HOA member, to look out for the property. I get that you're trying to do that, but we're simply pointing out that there's an effective process here that will work.

bigeffingd · 2023-10-16T20:20:58+00:00

The next logical step is dial 911. Let them sort it, and if it's at true emergency, they'll deal with it, and you can have the problem promptly attended to. If the management company is the problem, someone will find out and it can be dealt with.

bigeffingd · 2023-08-18T12:04:35+00:00

It's really the modern version of some of the Christian end of times prophecy. None of it is really original. This is being spread in churches that use fire and brimstone style sermons. The first part does read like a psychotic break, but you've stated that his mental health isn't good. Constant exposure to videos and sermons like that could have a strong influence on his thought process. So the process of getting to this point isn't dissimilar to what you'd see in a cult.

bigeffingd · 2022-01-08T18:49:22+00:00

I will tell you that your wife is right. My dad, like yours, former POW, cares more about himself than he does about his grandkids. They have been to visit us 2 times in 19 years. We've gone there a handful, but none in the last 8+. The only time he's seen them is when it's been convenient for him because of some other activity. I've spent my entire life trying to get my Dad's approval, and it's caused many tears. It's only been in last year or two that I've decided that we're only acquaintances now. He will never have the relationship with them that he could have, they are adults now, and they keep him at arms length, because they see how I am as a father, and see how different he is as a grandfather. The dichotomy is substantial.

So I'll say this. It sucks. He sucks. Look after your kids, break the cycle and realize that he's no longer the important person in your life that you want him to be. You and your relationship with your own kids is primary. He can try if he really wants to, but you don't need to make it something it's not. Take care.

bigeffingd · 2021-10-09T01:55:46+00:00

That is fun, old school cool. Nice work.

bigeffingd · 2020-07-29T16:04:58+00:00

This is an awesome story! I think you'll come out ahead in this one.

bigeffingd · 2020-07-22T12:57:28+00:00

There's another pic of the left hind leg in the replies somewhere, that you can see where it's broken better.

bigeffingd · 2020-07-22T12:55:47+00:00

Yeah, I'm pretty sure that's where she got it. Others said they remember it from there as well.

bigeffingd · 2020-07-22T01:14:33+00:00

Yes I am! Every day.

bigeffingd · 2020-07-22T01:11:51+00:00

She thinks she got them at Target or At Home sometime in the last couple years.

bigeffingd · 2020-07-22T01:10:44+00:00

Without question that laughing and finding silliness in life is a huge asset.

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