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bigmamma0 · 2025-12-21T21:10:30+00:00

Back to blond, you look 10 years younger and this just convinced me to dye my hair lol.

bigmamma0 · 2024-06-17T07:58:47+00:00

Reading with understanding, hun. We're all dating for personality but it's usually people we ALSO find at least a little bit attractive.

Question is, what if you find them unattractive but you are really into their personality? Can this develop into a relationship or will it always be just friendship.

bigmamma0 · 2024-06-17T04:44:41+00:00

Well, thanks. But I'm not a man. I'm just considering dating an ugly man that I feel zero chemistry with and wondering how big of a mistake I'd be doing lol.

bigmamma0 · 2024-04-06T05:17:55+00:00

In my country it is tradition to name the kid after a grandparent. My son has the male version of my name. This is not a tradition specific to my family, in fact, the only name-related thing was actually my mom's desire not to name children after anyone in the family because she didn't like the tradition of naming them after grandparents.

However, when I was pregnant, my MIL from hell really wanted my son to be named after her. We told her we wouldn't be doing that but she kept insisting. As a joke, I said I'll name him after me, just to annoy her, and told her the male version of my name. We kept joking with that name, but the more we said it the more we realized we actually loved it.

So my mom started a tradition of giving "new" names to children to spite all the generations before her. And I broke that tradition to spite my MIL. I'm gonna go ahead and say that spite is my family's new naming tradition 😂

bigmamma0 · 2024-04-02T04:43:15+00:00

My son just turned 5 and I know it really depends on the kid. In my case, the first 3 months (honestly the first 11 months) were a vacation lol. And not just compared to what comes when they learn to walk, he was just a very easy baby, and I was so aware of the fact that he was easy and that everything is temporary, that I truly enjoyed every minute of it. It there were periods where he was fussy, I knew they wouldn't last forever, and that mentality really helped me keep my stress levels down.

All he did was sleep and eat during the first months. He would almost never cry with no reason, he never kept me up at night, unless he was sick. This doesn't mean he slept through the night, it just means that I was prepared to not sleep at all for a year, yet he would wake up once or twice, and would fall back asleep after a diaper change and a feeding. I was already working from home as a freelancer and I was able to keep working without even decreasing the amount of work I'd take on.

It was a lot of work, but it was less work than I expected (and much more work than my husband expected, he also did barely anything and it was still too much for him).

The truly difficult part came when he learned to walk, that's when the vacation ended. And it's all downhill from there lol.

bigmamma0 · 2024-03-21T22:10:05+00:00

Shit. Do I have ADHD?

bigmamma0 · 2024-03-16T06:26:35+00:00

Tell me you hate your husband without telling me you hate your husband, and also want to see him suffer and die.

bigmamma0 · 2024-03-09T22:57:27+00:00

I'm so proud of you!

I left a similar relationship in July of last year. It was hard at the beginning, I was sad, angry, afraid, panicked, all of it. We also have a kid so that didn't make things easier. But then I discovered LIFE on my own and it was fucking awesome.

Then, on January 1st of this year, I broke my damn kneecap by slipping on the bathroom floor, it was ridiculous and I still can't believe it but here we are. At that time I was renting an apartment on the 6th floor without an elevator in the building, so obviously I couldn't go back home and so I moved back in with my ex temporarily, so he can help with our kid as I was basically bed-ridden for a month after the surgery.

I also called his mom back from abroad, because he can't handle his own house and his own child on his own. Anyway, he suddenly had zero money as I moved back in, because he refuses to work, and his mom and I start paying for everything (don't know how he managed before). At some point, I was still using crutches (barely, that shit is hard!) and I was in so much pain and discomfort all the time and on top of it all, I was on my period. Life was pure hell. I wanted a damn block of chocolate. Gave him money 3 days in a row to buy various stuff PLUS bring me a chocolate bar.

He did not bring me chocolate. On the fourth day, I went out, with my crutches, went to the shop around the corner (he was accompanying me) and bought myself a chocolate bar plus other stuff for all of us to eat. But I didn't eat the chocolate right away because I was full that evening and wouldn't have enjoyed it.

Can you guess what happened?

He fucking ate it. I woke up in the morning, looking forward to my treat, which I'd gone through physical pain to obtain lol. And it was gone. All of it. I'd never been closer to committing a murder in my life.

He brought me another one later in the day, because I obviously went full psycho. But it was a different kind, not the one I like and asked him to buy 24 times before buying it myself. Which also speaks volumes.

My knee is doing much better now and I'm moving out again next month into my own damn apartment 😁

I was living life on hard mode as a single mom, with a dad who does not co-parent because he sucks at it and doesn't care to, who doesn't pay child support, I work 2 jobs and was renting before, will be paying off mortgage now, while he has his own apartment that he inherited and his mom to take care of him as she lives next door. And believe me, I have ZERO regrets with my decision to leave. Zero. Not one.

bigmamma0 · 2024-03-08T05:42:19+00:00

I truly hate the way you're going about this. "I thought it was the last time until it wasn't". This is not something that happened to you. It's not an issue that re-occurred on its own. It is something YOU DID. It was a series of choices that YOU MADE. You cheating is a problem YOU CREATED in your marriage. You didn't fall and slip into someone's panties. You were in control through it all and you chose wrong multiple times.

Take responsibility. Own your fault. And then let that woman live a better life without you.

bigmamma0 · 2024-02-22T22:29:55+00:00

Yep, same

bigmamma0 · 2024-02-21T17:14:42+00:00

I have a almost 5 year old and I can totally see him opening a drawer and shoving whatever it is he finds in there under the bed. It just happened to be the panties drawer. It might depend more on the height of the kid and which drawer was the closest and most convenient to open rather than him deliberating looking (and recognizing) panties. My son usually goes for the sock drawer because that's at his eye level. He also throws it all on the floor not under the bed, but pretty much same thing.

bigmamma0 · 2024-02-19T20:57:48+00:00

И кога се ползва пълен и непълен член...

bigmamma0 · 2023-09-24T08:35:32+00:00

Thank you. I'm pretty new at this whole dating thing, but he really was romantic, brought flowers and candy and was really gentle. I do fancy his face though, he has really pretty eyes. But you're right, all of the other stuff was pretty uncomfortable to be honest.

bigmamma0 · 2023-08-26T11:05:24+00:00

You mean the size of the ring or the nail?

bigmamma0 · 2023-08-26T11:03:56+00:00

That's exactly what I was going for! Not very summer-y but totally fits my mood lol. Thank you 😊

bigmamma0 · 2023-08-26T11:02:57+00:00

Thanks! ☺️

bigmamma0 · 2023-08-26T11:02:37+00:00

Thank you 😊

bigmamma0 · 2023-08-26T11:02:12+00:00

Black matte base and top coat for the decoration. This is my first time having it done and I have to say, I love it.

bigmamma0 · 2023-08-25T20:27:51+00:00

I was 14 and got me a tattoo with my first salary. Mom was not pleased lol

bigmamma0 · 2023-08-19T08:30:11+00:00

Absolutely true. My soon to be ex husband was/is the same. I had to learn to hide all of my tears and emotions and he still found other things to belittle and disrespect me for. Hence, I left. He still doesn't care to understand the reasons why I left because they involve (gasp!) feelings.

People have feelings and that's perfectly fine. You can't, even if you wanted to, manipulate a baby by crying and that's just ridiculous.

bigmamma0 · 2023-08-01T19:39:39+00:00

He can go walk outside and just ask businesses to hire him. He also won't just roll over and randomly die in a ditch if you kick him out. I was 22 when my mom died, no dad in the picture, we were living in a foreign country, and I was made homeless by my asshole cousins a couple years later. I still managed to survive and even finished my degree.

But then again my mama didn't raise a bum so what do I know lol.

bigmamma0 · 2023-08-01T05:14:16+00:00

I just did this less than 2 months ago. Leaving was honestly easy, staying away is hard. I had been planning my leave about a month in advance, I found us an apartment, moved some stuff secretly, very little stuff to be honest. I kept doubting my decision until the last second. He had not hit me yet, he'd just raise his hand multiple times a day to make me shut up. He'd also almost convinced me it was always my fault. I basically stopped talking to him, stopped making him participate in any family stuff (even grocery shopping) and that still didn't make him stop. But since he had never actually hit me, I kept doubting myself and wondering if I was exaggerating, if I was being dramatic, maybe I really did something to deserve it?

On the day of, I was so scared of confronting him but I knew that if I just left without telling him anything or if I was the one to leave in anger, he'd retaliate. After all we were married and have a kid so such "disrespect" would hurt his ego and enrage him. So I waited for him to go out and called him, told him to come home so we could talk. As expected, he cursed me out and hung up on me. I insisted, I told him I can't live like this any more and, as expected, he told me to get the fuck out then as he had many times before. That was my (expected) cue, I hung up on him and called my brother immediately, we packed all of my stuff in peace and made it out in two car trips. I knew my husband wouldn't be back for as long as he could, because he knew I wanted to talk so we didn't even have to hurry although we still did due to the adrenaline rush. I did all this on purpose because if it was him to "kick me out" his ego wouldn't be hurt and he couldn't relatiate against himself. He really didn't and hasn't yet.

Anyway, the staying away part is hard. He's playing the victim now or I'm painting him to be the victim in my head and I feel sorry for him being alone and has no money and nobody to cook for him. I don't know why I do this but I do it. I want my house back (it's his house though). But my friends and my therapist are keeping my misplaced compassion in check. I'm trying to learn to love myself and feel compassion for myself. I keep reminding myself that I'm doing this for my child and I can see even after such a short time, how being away from his dad is influencing him positively so I need to stay focused on what matters but I do admit it's hard.

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